Ex hasn't spoken to me?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my ex girlfriend on good terms. It hasn't been that long since we broke up. I thought she'd contact me in some way but she hasn't. Why is that? She didn't really want us to break up and now she is just not talking to me. I sent her a text once and she responded, but she hasn't initiated any contact. Why? What should I do? And/or what is she trying to do based on her actions?

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Mates told me she's been going out and doesn't look sad at all. I don't understand how she can be so happy when she was so upset when we broke up. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy that she is happy. I'm just very surprised at her behavior

[Flyness]

Forgive me for asking, homie, but why are you bothering to text her again? Let's be honest...whenever someone says "we broke up on good terms" means THAT person initiated the break up. I'm sure she didn't see it as "good terms".

Anyhow, she's likely pretty hurt about it. She probably doesn't want to speak with you. You broke up with her for a reason, right? Second thoughts?

Please don't say you want to be friends with her again. #1, its too soon. She is probably still emotional about it. #2, ex-lovers who are now "friends" are usually still attached to each other...and usually bang each other. However this often inhibits future relationships.

Let her go, homie. I know by experience. Trust me. ;)

[Asker]

Mates told me she's been going out and doesn't look sad at all. I don't understand how she can be so happy when she was so upset when we broke up.

[Flyness]

I see. Sounds like you're just "checking in" to see how it affected her. Human nature...it brings us closure in a way to know that the person we broke up with is a little hurt. Sounds like it's messing with your brain that she seems so happy, eh?

Well you probably already thought to yourself: "did she cheat while we were together?" "Perhaps she never cared about me?"

Those questions are no longer important, though, man. You broke up with her for a reason. Move on

[PredictablePen]

thats just her way of getting over u. and she's become so used to not talking to u, that it feels kind of awkward doing it. not all exes end up friends afterward, so don't be surprised if she doesn't want to talk to u

[provemewrongxx]

Thats what I did to my ex, I was trying to move on. No contact is the only way. But eventually I missed him so much that I couldn't help it, and I needed someone to talk to, so I sent him a text asking him to talk to me for a while. He gladly talked to me for about 3 hours. We're closer now than we ever were before. But your ex is trying to move on.

[ynot2009]

what good does it do to be sad? I know me for example, I'm really good at hiding my emotions and feelings. people would never guess that my boyfriend and I just broke up! even tho I am sad deep down tho, it still doesn't do you any good by being sad so I'm almost make myself happy. maybe that's her case too. if not maybe she really has moved on.

[bBop345]

So just try texting her again. Maybe she's just busy or thinks you don't want to start things up again. You never know unless you try.

[Anonymous]

because you probaly broke her heart and she needs time to recover.You just broke up with her, do you think she really wants to talk to you right now?Probaly not. She probaly misses you as well and can't deal with talking to you either. Give it time.

[pinky92]

She's probably trying to move on, she's probably happy because she's having a good time, you two must have broken up for some reason and maybe now she's getting what she wants and needs.