My boyfriend broke up with me because he's going through a hard time with family issues at the moment. He's been withdrawn for a while and no matter how hard I tried to help him he just wanted to deal with it himself. I was seeing less and less of him because he never made the effort anymore.
Last night, after I brought up the subject of us( I said he didn't seem to have time for a girlfriend), he eventually said that he thinks he should just be on his own for a while. I don't know if he's using these family issues as an excuse because he's just not into me anymore, or if he genuinely just wants to be on his own for a while.
Then he texted this morning just asking how I was, as if nothing happened. A few min later, after I didn't reply, he said he was sorry for last night. I still haven't replied yet and don't know if I should.
What does this mean? Is he sorry for breaking up and regrets it? Or was he just being friendly?
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Hopefully you haven't already text him back. Don't. Or if you do, just tell him that you are giving him what he wants and politely say he can't have it both ways- be on his own and still text you. He has already made the choice, so his text will just make it harder on you. It is selfish of him and unacceptable.
I agree with him wanting separation. I think this guy needs some time on his own to figure out what he really wants. He probably just woke up this morning feeling a sense of loss (which is good - it means he cares), so he text you to feel you out to make sure he could still have you if he wanted you. As hard as this sounds, you need to give him what he wants. He needs time. He wants to be on his own. Fine. Let him be. Because if he doesn't take that time away, he will always wonder and may eventually start to resent you. And remember, absence makes the heart grow stronger. If anything is going to prove to him...AND YOU...that you want to be together, it is time apart.
People think that taking time apart will ruin the relationship and make you grow apart. Time apart will only make you grow apart if you weren't meant to be in the first place. And if you weren't meant to be, nothing will ever change that, and it is better to find out sooner than later. It is either meant to happen or not. Time apart will allow you to separate the emotion and see things for what they really are. It will also give YOU time to see what you really want. I am sure after a couple of months apart you will be ready to forget this guy and move onto someone who wants to be with you. That's what you deserve. Frankly, what this guy has to give to you is second best. DO NOT SETTLE. You can't force someone to want to be with you, and why would you want to?
Look forward to the time away and just focus on yourself and what you want in a relationship, not what he wants. You want someone who loves you and wants to be with you. You aren't getting that with him, so let him go and do what he has to do. If it is meant to be it will definitely happen. And your relationship will be that much stronger because of it. Let him go do what he has to do and don't take him back until he comes to you with his entire heart and says he wants to be with you without a doubt. You should not accept any less.1