I am a 33 yo man- I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago because I couldn't handle how strong my feelings were for her. I got scared and ran- I think I handled the breakup as well as possible( maybe not tho?) anyway I am thinking clearly now and want her back - as in
marriage... She is seeing another guy. She won't see me in person but she initiates contact via text daily... I was hoping some of you girls could give me a female perspective on what I should do now? I am trying to actually understand what she is going through now. Thanks
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Okay first of all I don't think there is another guy, Unless you ve seen it with your own eyes.
Second thing, If you do want her back and you want to marry her for real then you have to make sure that you want her once and for all because coming back and pulling a disappearing act isn't so much fun!
Third, once you make sure of how you feel, Do something sweet. Is she the kind of girl who is into romance? or fun sweet little things kind of girl? either way do whatever will make her happy.
Send her a letter or email.. Tell her about how you feel about her and tell her how much of an idiot you were by dumping her... use all the right words and be generous too!
Fourth, Once you know she actually read the letter, email.. text.. whatever you sent.. Send her something else.. perhaps flowers? box of chocolates or whatever she likes with a note and ask to meet her somewhere you ve both liked and that is "Your special place"...
Fifth, even if she says no she doesn't want to see you... give her time.. don't send her too much things or she will think that you re a stalker.. give it a week or two between each simple thing you do and try to contact her by texts daily.. Ask about her and make everything about Her.. now You or what you did or what you want...
Later.. if any of those tricks worked to melt her heart.. Brainstorm of how to actually propose to her.. and remember.. don't propose unless you know there is a 20% chance.. you don't wanna make a fool out of yourself..
By the way, I think my boyfriend is doing the exact same thing you did with her... Scared sh*tless of the feelings so pushing me away... and I have No idea how to fix it! Any tips?
Anyway Good luck!
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