When you break up with someone because you 100% lost interest, do you feel regret after?

I recently dated this person for a month and a half and then suddenly spent two weeks agonizing over things (I think I have relationship OCD).

A few days ago I felt nothing towards her suddenly but slight annoyance. So I ended things. Now I feel remorseful, and depressed, and I keep thinking of all the times we had.

is this normal? Maybe I had some feelings left?


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  • If you feel bad that you broke up, that's normal. However, if you start to remember little details about her like her eye color or her laugh, you probably liked her. if the bad outweighs the good then it's for the best that you ended the relationship.

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  • You don't have 'relationship OCD' I don't even believe that's a real thing. Just people trying to make themselves special snowflakes. It's very normal for people in a relationship, particularly if they're not 100% into their partner, to regularly fixate on whether they're doing the right thing.

    Obviously you're starting to miss her now you've realized you might not be seeing her again. It's the simple 'you don't know what you've got till it's gone'. Completely normal. The best thing is to not get back with her and move on. You weren't 100% committed to her, that's why you ended it, respect that decision.

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What Girls Said 16

  • This happens to me all the time. I might feel like I am into a guy and then something destroys the picture and I get more and more negative vibes when even thinking about him. Then I end things and afterwards I feel awful. I don't long for that guy but I just feel empty and angry that I had no feelings for him.

    Once I also had this guyfriend that I only liked as a friend, him I long for. Sometimes it hurts me to think about him. But he had stronger feelings for me and I couldn't let him get false hopes all over again, so we went our separate ways. It hurts to miss someone who you know are better off without you.

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  • I'd never break up with someone I was serious about over a "sudden" change of feelings. I'd need to be sure that my disinterest was real and that there was absolutely nothing I could do to fix it.

    That said, reminiscing about the good times is normal following a breakup, and does not automatically mean that you made a mistake.

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  • Better than wasting his/her time and giving false hope. I guess I do feel guilty and bad about not living up to their expectations/hopes at some point but then being honest with them and with yourself pays off in the end.

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  • When I'm done with someone, I'm done. I don't feel anything more or anything less. Especially if I'm the one to end things. I don't regret any of the break ups I've had.

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  • Yes, I do.

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  • Maybe you should give it time. Let time heal the wound. Your not really intersex in her.

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  • no. i might feel bad during, but, after... generally guilt free

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  • feelings died coz.
    you got bored or because she was too creepy. it was just attraction n not love. its normal happens sometimes. love needs to go slow. Rome wasn't built in a day.

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  • Yes this happened to me, I was with someone for only about 3 months and I just didn't want to be with him anymore, but he was the most caring, kindest man id ever met so letting him down made me feel awful. I just wasn't ready for a relationship!

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  • Perfectly normal, especially at your age when you aren't totally sure what you want yet. However, don't try to get back with her because you'll end up losing interest again and it will just be cruel.

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  • totally normal, the main reason you feel depressed is because you feel gulty To ended up this relationship. it is never easy To be the reason who broke. I dont think you still have feelings for her, it is just a little bit of nostalgy. And honestly 1month is veeeeery short To develop real deep feeling.

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  • I don't know, I've had people that I expected to break up with me that just disappeared for a while then came back, so I just left them..

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  • I don't regret it but it seems to me you rushed a little bit

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  • The only reason could be because you got used to her, but that'll go away soon enough

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  • Yes you can.

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  • No. It happens. No big deal

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What Guys Said 4

  • Whenever I set my mind to something, I never have regrets. So if I feel like I've lost all interest in someone then I wouldn't regret it

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  • Not at all

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  • No, but sometiems I feel bad for the girl, though it depends on her

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  • Never has happened to me, i don't think i have ever lost interest in someone.

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