Continue to ignore her or tell her to stop contacting me?

[GoBucks1]

My previous question that I had asked everyone to provide an opinion on was supporting my concept to continue ignoring my ex girlfriend.a short run down for you is this.my girl and I broke up about 4 months ago, basically because she wanted to be with someone else and currently is with the same person. During this time we continued to talk but for the past month I have completely ignored her texts and phone calls! I took the advice I had gotten from everyone on here to continue to ignore her. AFter taking the advice to continue to ignore her, she had begun to text me more constantly for the past 3 days. Not with anything mean, but with hi, or how are you.still no response from me. Yesterday her final text was "I really wish you would just stop ignoring me." My question is if she's so in love with her boyfriend, why wouldn't she just stop contacting me after I haven't responded for a month? Also, should I text her back next time she writes me something with "will you please stop contacting me?" or something of that sort, or should I just continue to ignore her? It's eventually gotta stop at some point doesn't it? Or not? I really do not want to be mean to her because I really did love her but enough is enough.please help me :(

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Do you think she is trying to just keep me around for a :just in case" things don't work out with the guy type of deal, or do you think she actually truly has feelings for me still?

[lost-angel]

Hey I don't know if you the one I answered to last time (he was anonymous), but anyways, don't tell her to stop contacting you, unless that is what you really want.

You said enough is enough. What do you mean? What is it that you really want to happen? Do you want her to stop contacting you for good? Or do you want her to break up with her current bf?

If she is still contacting you even after she's acknowledged that you are ignoring her, then it is obvious that she is still inl ove with you, and is not happy with her current bf.

I know girls/guys like her, and I really don't think she will stop contacting you. She will bug you until she gets what she wants, your attention.

Hell I won't be surprised if one day she just shows up at your place.

She doesn't want to lose you in her life. That's all it is. Ya, she is with this dude who she is supposedly in love with, but obviously you mean more to her than him.

If you want to test to see if she REALLY loves you still, then text her saying, leave me alone, and if she still continues to text you, then, there's your answer.

If you continue to ignore her, she will continue to text you, until you text her back.

Do you really want her out of your life?

[GoBucks1]

For an update she called me last night, and tried talking to me today on the computer and I ignored her still, she IMed me with saying she met someone that looked like me and after no response from me said,ok stop ignoring me, its been long enough...like what does all this mean?!? But to answer your question I don't want her to break up with the guy, I'm so over it, and yes, I kinda do want her to stop contacting me for good...I thought she wouldve given up and gotten the point by me ignoring her

[GoBucks1]

And yes I am the one you answered to! :) It was anonymous

[lost-angel]

Man, you really got to her :)

I really don't know what you should do to get her to stop contacting you. You have now become her mission! :p no seriously though.

Try telling her you've met someone, who you really like, and you'd appreciate it if she (your ex) quit contacting you.

If she still doesn't stop, then change your number, block her email adds..etc.

[lost-angel]

I'll email her and tell her to leave you alone :p

[Infinite]

She needs to be put straight and direct I think. It needs a bit of both you telling her to stop contacting her, then ignoring her afterwards, because if you told her to stop, and she still messages you back, she's going against your wishes and still contacting you.

So, tell her politely something like ''Please don't contact me anymore, I'm moving on.'' Then just leave it be, she's got the message and if she doesn't respect what you want after you have clearly respected the choice she's made, it's her own problem.

[mimi4]

ha! ignoring her is making her want you. trust me.

although she still loves her boyfriend.

umm

ignore her till the weekend, then if she messages you by sat night or sunday or something, reply with something like: " will you please stop contacting me, you ended us a long time ago. sorry but this has to stop. x "

[Money]

I have had a similar experience but from the opposite end. I got broken up with and her and I were close to getting back together but I decided to date other people. I got in a relationship and stuff made me miss my ex. We would talk and text and then she stopped responding. It really ate me up. Continuing to ignore her may not be the best idea. Sit her down and talk to her. Do not admit too much emotionally. You can say you miss her but not much more than that. Then start distancing yourself slowly. Tell her you'll send her a message later in the day but don't. Start breaking small commitments. She will get the vibe that you have your own things to be interested in. If she sends you a message don't respond for hours or a day or two. Just make sure you do not want her to be a real part of your life anymore.

[NobodySpecial2U]

Women are emotional and make decisions based on how they feel about a person or issue. Which means basically she can feel a couple of different ways and resort to giving conflicting messages. As I'm pretty sure you know by now... the correct option would have been to ignore her all around. She chose her own destiny here. You should insure she sticks to it. When a person leaves one person for another its says a lot about their integrity... they have none! She was working on the other relationship while she should have been working with you.

[wongmum]

I really hate guys who always ignore a girl's text!

Stop acting mean to her! Treat her as your friend!