All's it is, is that he feels like if he said I love you a million times or other compliments they would loose their meaning an d become a dull repetition so don't take it hard he just saves his words so you know that you are the special one to him
Do you appreciate him in the same way you want him to appreciate you?
This sounds like you are living on a lot of stereotypical one sided expectations. Some givers gives automatically what they get, even test the other one if they tend to be a one sided that takes with expectations.
Than does your text give signals that you are insecure and requires a lot of shallow attention and confirmations to feel secure. (To be secure is the same as being happy, you chose to be it in your mind)
You seem super insecure and you seem to be basing your thoughts of what you think other people think about you.
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How am i supposed to feel my boyfriend likes me if he doesn’t show physical/verbal affection towards me? And he often (which i just found out) compliments girls in the DMs in a flirty manner?
Lmao. How am i a mother figure? I didn’t want to find out. But, I did. I feel you don’t view relationships through a monogamous lens or something. I do. His behavior is inappropriate and detrimental to the livelihood of a relationship.
Oh I this people can be monogamous, I just don't think people should be monitored all the time. That is what I view as motherly. You see it different, you won't break up with him. I guess we're at an impass here
Young lady, pack your bags and run. He's not into you, he's using you for his own pleasure and fantasizing about other girls while f@#$&+* you. Get out as soon as you can.
Social media killed my marriage for the same reason. She couldn't see what was happening right in our own home due to being into fb all the time. Caution. Go on a social media diet and see what you've been missing
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Yes. But, he is actually messaging girls on social media - no just to say hi, but, he sends them compliments/flirty messages. His social media habits are detrimental to a relationship because he doesn’t show me affection/love in real life. He doesn’t tell me I’m pretty or beautiful, or that he loves me. He just tells me “You look good”. That’s it. No one can tell he’s my boyfriend, and are surprised when i mention it. People have also told me “i can tell he doesn’t treat you right “. But, he always blames me and makes me the bad person! I have dated other guys who do stuff on social media, but, it doesn’t bother me as much because they don’t do what he does and they showed me real life attention.
the fact is, you're allowing him to compliment other women. that's the problem. Him doing it to other women, is making you feel insecure, and that's the MAIN problem. if you don't allow him to flirt with other women, it won't make you so insecure, however, then you'd be controlling his life. It's up to you. I can't tell you what to do, since this is something you'd have to decide, but, that's the problem. you're allowing him to flirt with other women
Maybe ask him if you're not making him feel appreciated? Like maybe he's not good a talking and tries to show it through actions? I don't know seems like a lost cause though.
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I have asked him! I said “what can i do for you !” A while ago i found out he updated tinder. I came to him about it, and he lied to me at first. Then i said “do i not make you happy? What can i do?” And he told me he’s happy and there’s nothing more i can do. But, i have lost so much trust in him since he updated tinder. He doesn’t understand why i don’t trust him.
Honestly a guy should tell you how good u look and make u feel like the only girl in the world and that's something he should want to do not be asked for
Doesn't sound very good. He could've lost interest, but at the same time doesn't like it when you express distrust. I suggest try and leave him asap. (I was that guy once)
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Sit him down and tell him and if this goes on and you feel that it's toxic you might have to reevaluate your relationship
All's it is, is that he feels like if he said I love you a million times or other compliments they would loose their meaning an d become a dull repetition so don't take it hard he just saves his words so you know that you are the special one to him
It sounds like from what you said, this is a toxic relationship. Regardless of his feelings towards you, either on purpose or not, he is being cold.
Relationships should make you feel happy, and loved. It seems from what you're saying you aren't.
Do you appreciate him in the same way you want him to appreciate you?
This sounds like you are living on a lot of stereotypical one sided expectations.
Some givers gives automatically what they get, even test the other one if they tend to be a one sided that takes with expectations.
Than does your text give signals that you are insecure and requires a lot of shallow attention and confirmations to feel secure. (To be secure is the same as being happy, you chose to be it in your mind)
Breakup with the guy. You two don't mix well together and it seems like he doesn't care.
Talk to him or leave him no other options so don't overthink it and waste your time too much
You seem super insecure and you seem to be basing your thoughts of what you think other people think about you.
How am i supposed to feel my boyfriend likes me if he doesn’t show physical/verbal affection towards me? And he often (which i just found out) compliments girls in the DMs in a flirty manner?
Seems like you're his mother figure also, which is not sexy for him. There we have a catch 22. So break it off.
Lmao. How am i a mother figure? I didn’t want to find out. But, I did. I feel you don’t view relationships through a monogamous lens or something. I do. His behavior is inappropriate and detrimental to the livelihood of a relationship.
Oh I this people can be monogamous, I just don't think people should be monitored all the time. That is what I view as motherly. You see it different, you won't break up with him. I guess we're at an impass here
Young lady, pack your bags and run. He's not into you, he's using you for his own pleasure and fantasizing about other girls while f@#$&+* you. Get out as soon as you can.
Social media killed my marriage for the same reason. She couldn't see what was happening right in our own home due to being into fb all the time. Caution. Go on a social media diet and see what you've been missing
Yes. But, he is actually messaging girls on social media - no just to say hi, but, he sends them compliments/flirty messages. His social media habits are detrimental to a relationship because he doesn’t show me affection/love in real life. He doesn’t tell me I’m pretty or beautiful, or that he loves me. He just tells me “You look good”. That’s it. No one can tell he’s my boyfriend, and are surprised when i mention it. People have also told me “i can tell he doesn’t treat you right “. But, he always blames me and makes me the bad person! I have dated other guys who do stuff on social media, but, it doesn’t bother me as much because they don’t do what he does and they showed me real life attention.
Ohhhh in that case he's moving on. Sorry but he's not doing good things with his thoughts and heart. Sorry sweetie. I hate the truth
the fact is, you're allowing him to compliment other women. that's the problem. Him doing it to other women, is making you feel insecure, and that's the MAIN problem. if you don't allow him to flirt with other women, it won't make you so insecure, however, then you'd be controlling his life. It's up to you. I can't tell you what to do, since this is something you'd have to decide, but, that's the problem. you're allowing him to flirt with other women
How am i allowing it? I tell him it bothers me.
A man should be able to compliment other women without disrespecting his woman.
a man shouldn't be able to compliment another woman, if he has a girlfriend.. same with women, and complimenting men
You're an idiot.
just sayin'
He can compliment other girls, but, he has disrespected me while doing so.
you're contradicting yourself by saying that "he can, but its disrespectful". MAKE UP YOUR MIND
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend everyone deserves to be happy in the relationship there in
Maybe he's not that into you.
If he gets mad at you bringing it up and doesn't want to chance, then dump him.
same exact thing happened to me. he then ignored me since the 26th of last month so i'm guessing we are broken up.
Maybe ask him if you're not making him feel appreciated? Like maybe he's not good a talking and tries to show it through actions? I don't know seems like a lost cause though.
I have asked him! I said “what can i do for you !” A while ago i found out he updated tinder. I came to him about it, and he lied to me at first. Then i said “do i not make you happy? What can i do?” And he told me he’s happy and there’s nothing more i can do. But, i have lost so much trust in him since he updated tinder. He doesn’t understand why i don’t trust him.
Break up. He seem like an asshole. I think he probably cheats too. And If he talks like that. Itd not good. Get away from him.
First at all you should not find your self worth on social media
Second leave him if you aren't feeling appreciated and need the valuation from him
Just leave him. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better.
Sounds like you need a new boyfriend, you definitely deserve better.
Honestly a guy should tell you how good u look and make u feel like the only girl in the world and that's something he should want to do not be asked for
Doesn't sound very good. He could've lost interest, but at the same time doesn't like it when you express distrust. I suggest try and leave him asap. (I was that guy once)