My ex and I were together for a long time and are both in our thirties. I had no idea he was unhappy until one day we had an argument and I came home and all his stuff was gone... he told me when he broke up with me that he loved me more than he ever loved anyone & that what we had was beautiful, but he had made up his mind to leave...wtf? Anyway, I tried to cut contact, but eventually we kept contacting each other... I told him that if he didn't want to be with me then we shouldn't talk and he didn't want that & ket saying "no, let's keep contact." But the entire time he was being blowing hot and cold... then he just became really cold. The whole thing blew my mind because we were best friends before... he never would tell me the truth about why he really wanted to leave (even though I begged him) which makes it hard to have closure. It's like he loved me so much one day and the next, after he broke it off, instantly cold. Nobody had ever been like that to me and it hurt me more than any break up... does anyone know why ppl. do this? We had talked of marriage, so I thought he was really in love. Eventually, I had had it with the iciness, so we haven't talked anymore and he's fine with that . It still hurts because I've never loved anyone as much as him and for him to be great one day and the next a total stranger, I don't get it. I hate him and miss him at the same time. Also, I'm afraid to get into another relationship because of this. I'm a mess.
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Some guys just don't know what they want. Maybe he was afraid he was getting to close to you.
I know my ex was the same way as far as being really hot and then cold the next day. We were on and off about 5x... by that time I blocked him in every way I could, he eventually got ahold me and I told him I didn't want to deal with him anymore. He told me how much he missed me, but if he couldn't notice that when we were together, he didn't deserve me. You eventually just have to learn to move on, guys like that like to be in control and will tug you around. I know you loved him, but things will get better, you'll find someone who knows how to take care of you. Don't be afraid to move on with someone else, they might not be right, but they may help you get over him further and then move on, and eventually find the one who matters.
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