My ex and I were together for a long time and are both in our thirties. I had no idea he was unhappy until one day we had an argument and I came home and all his stuff was gone... he told me when he broke up with me that he loved me more than he ever loved anyone & that what we had was beautiful, but he had made up his mind to leave...wtf? Anyway, I tried to cut contact, but eventually we kept contacting each other... I told him that if he didn't want to be with me then we shouldn't talk and he didn't want that & ket saying "no, let's keep contact." But the entire time he was being blowing hot and cold... then he just became really cold. The whole thing blew my mind because we were best friends before... he never would tell me the truth about why he really wanted to leave (even though I begged him) which makes it hard to have closure. It's like he loved me so much one day and the next, after he broke it off, instantly cold. Nobody had ever been like that to me and it hurt me more than any break up... does anyone know why ppl. do this? We had talked of marriage, so I thought he was really in love. Eventually, I had had it with the iciness, so we haven't talked anymore and he's fine with that . It still hurts because I've never loved anyone as much as him and for him to be great one day and the next a total stranger, I don't get it. I hate him and miss him at the same time. Also, I'm afraid to get into another relationship because of this. I'm a mess.
Why are guys so cold immediately after they break up with you?
