I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and were going strong.. I do love her so much (you will question that later). A girl started talked to me two months ago and we became friends. No big deal. Well we got to really know each other well and became slightly attached. I resisted some, but she was so nice and funny and more outgoing then my girlfriend. We kissed and did some things below the belt. No sex tho. That was last month. Now, a month later, she out of the blue says this is hurting her and that I need to either stop being friends with her or break up with my girlfriend for her. I wish we never kissed because that started it all. I loved just being friends but I enjoyed the other stuff too. So should I really leave my girl of three years for this new found friend? Please help me.
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1.) If a girl knowingly dates you and helps you to cheat on your girlfriend with her, she's bad news. How can you trust someone like that ever? How do you know that she won't cheat on you? Because obviously she has no problem with you cheating on your girlfriend.
2.) I think you should leave your girlfriend and the other girl, because you don't deserve your girlfriend. You cheated on her, for Christ's sake. How could you do that to her? If you cared at all about your girlfriend you wouldn't even have to ask us this question, because the answer would be relatively simple.
I understand that peoples feelings get swayed and it's easy to feel crushes for other people when you are with someone else - I think it is only natural. However, crossing the line, I think, is entirely unacceptable. Your girlfriend does not deserve that at all. If you think she's not outgoing enough you should leave her, but don't do it because someone else told you to.
I speak from experience because I was in a similar position as your girlfriend - another girl came along, saw someone vulnerable, took advantage of my boyfriend and left me. What I learned from it was that I can't trust guys, and it's incredibly hard for me to trust someone the way I used to trust him. Don't do that to your girlfriend - it's an incredibly hard way to live, and a hard mindset to change. I've tried.1