My friend wants me to break up with my girlfriend for her. Help :(

[Anonymous]

I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and were going strong.. I do love her so much (you will question that later). A girl started talked to me two months ago and we became friends. No big deal. Well we got to really know each other well and became slightly attached. I resisted some, but she was so nice and funny and more outgoing then my girlfriend. We kissed and did some things below the belt. No sex tho. That was last month. Now, a month later, she out of the blue says this is hurting her and that I need to either stop being friends with her or break up with my girlfriend for her. I wish we never kissed because that started it all. I loved just being friends but I enjoyed the other stuff too. So should I really leave my girl of three years for this new found friend? Please help me.

[ConfidentNerd]

Two things:

1.) If a girl knowingly dates you and helps you to cheat on your girlfriend with her, she's bad news. How can you trust someone like that ever? How do you know that she won't cheat on you? Because obviously she has no problem with you cheating on your girlfriend.

2.) I think you should leave your girlfriend and the other girl, because you don't deserve your girlfriend. You cheated on her, for Christ's sake. How could you do that to her? If you cared at all about your girlfriend you wouldn't even have to ask us this question, because the answer would be relatively simple.

I understand that peoples feelings get swayed and it's easy to feel crushes for other people when you are with someone else - I think it is only natural. However, crossing the line, I think, is entirely unacceptable. Your girlfriend does not deserve that at all. If you think she's not outgoing enough you should leave her, but don't do it because someone else told you to.

I speak from experience because I was in a similar position as your girlfriend - another girl came along, saw someone vulnerable, took advantage of my boyfriend and left me. What I learned from it was that I can't trust guys, and it's incredibly hard for me to trust someone the way I used to trust him. Don't do that to your girlfriend - it's an incredibly hard way to live, and a hard mindset to change. I've tried.

[cuteshark]

Totally agree with you.

[AScott]

the girls below say it all. You cheated. Own up to it. I just answered a question regarding this. If you respected your relationship..you would have resisted. Ever seen fatal attraction? you need to tell her the truth and decide what you want. I'm gonna tell you the same advice I gave to another guy..in most relationships your only gonna get 80% of what you want..not 100%. So if your looking for that other 20% and you find it..then your left with 20, instead of 80. You will regreat it. Three years girlfriend or New found friend? it says it all.

[cuteshark]

It's the same thing as when a married man has an affair, and the mistress asks him to leave his wife (ok, maybe not the same, but you get what I mean).

Usually you'll see the guy stay with his wife because they share something beyond attraction, and there's a feeling of security in the relation.

Think of the reasons you love your girlfriend, and if she can't beat that girl after 3 years of a loving relationship, then I guess you should break up with her. But if you guys are doing fine I don't really see the point honestly.

[Buunry]

Bruh, drop the friend, she's setting you up for a massive L. No you didn't cheat, but you came real close. And if you love your girlfriend still phase off the friend.. She's trying to validate herself at the expense of your relationship.

[DJxMurderxThem]

Wow dude you sound like a jackass. You cheated on your girlfriend you've been with for 3 years? Seriously that's a lot of commitment just thrown out for some "friend" who's most likely trying to get under your pants for a night.

[xxOiloveyouxxO93]

You are a d*** if you loved your girl so much why would you do. That you don't deserve your girl she needs better than you seriously just go for the slut nasty whore if you did sh*t with her and you feel OK near your girl you got somethin wrong with you let the good one go and date the one you will never trust kay

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Darn, you took my answer. Lol although you worded better than I was going to:) I agree with everything you said 100%...especially the part about him being a d*ck. Haha

[xxOiloveyouxxO93]

Lol thanks (:

[MikeVick4MVP]

dude lie to your friend...saying you broke up then f*** her then go back to your girlfriend and ignore this friend ignore her for ever!