Want to break-up with my girlfriend but don't want to hurt her feelings?

[JayTexas]

So I've been with my girl for a little over two years. I was crazy about her at first, but after awhile the feelings I had slowly faded and now I just want out but I don't want to hurt her. She still really loves me and wants to get married and spend the rest of her life with me and I have to pretend like I still love her. This is really hard on me and I don't know what to do. Please help.

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Thank you everyone for your advice. You all seem to say the same thing. I guess I know what I have to do now.

[rdabby]

honestly, if you re not willing to work things out that perhaps the love will come again then just be honest. just speak your heart out. leading her on is just gunna make things even harder for both of you...

but what I would really suggest is that you make sure that you re not in love with her anymore and that you don't see her in your life at all... If there is a 1% possibility that you re thinking maybe I will regret it later then listen to your heart and wait a little longer.

perhaps try to spice things up and to do more romantic things just like other suggested.. but dumping her now and regreting it later is a huge mistake so please make sure first then act on it.. because A LOT of times, couples feel that the love is gone and after the breakup they realize it was a huge mistake...

[pocketasian]

One thing that I absolutely hate is being led on. That's one of the worst things you can do to a girl. Be frank with her and tell her how you feel. Break off your relationship if you're sure about it, and don't wait until way down the road to do something you should have done long ago. And besides, there's no point in living a lie and pretending to love someone you don't. Sure, she'll be hurt and she'll probably cry, but she'll get over it. That's life, but with pains come time to heal. It's better for her to get over it now and move on with her life than to keep loving you and having to get over it much, much later. Good luck.

[JayTexas]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

please tell her the truth about ur feelings. cause if not she will keep loving you and will never give up. its better to now the truth rather need to lie to her its worse, so my advice is tell her the truth about ur feelings ok good luck..

[JayTexas]

Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

Ur welcome:) my other advice is, don't tell her some excuses like, I need a long time to graduate, you deserve a better man or need a long time to get the right job. all these will make her feel as if you are giving excuses and not to the point. hope these help :)

[darkknight1x]

Maybe your being with her too much. Take some time apart. I loved a girl for a long time before and then my feeling for her faded but they came after about a year and a half. You might regret letting someone that was great for you later.

[Danielwelch]

your going to break her heart either way. the best thing to do is do it sooner than later. cause then the healing process will start earlier and she can hopefully find another man. (BE HONEST)

[kkara]

there's really no easy way to break-up with someone- whether you're with them for two weeks or two years, the pain still hurts the same so there's no way of getting around it. you can't just keep pretending to love someone that you don't, and you can't be with someone just because you feel sorry for them- just try to do it as honestly and as compassionately as possible- I mean, think of it this way: treat her the way you would want to be treated. I'd be like, "look, it's been a great two years, but I have grown into a different person who wants different things in my life, and I just don't feel the same about you anymore."

hope this helps!

[Jesss]

As much as I'd love to tell you there is a way you could end the relationship and not hurt her ...I can't.

Be true to her. Tell her your feeling towards her had faded in time and that you don't want to waste her time because she wants to start a family and you don't.

I know it's gonna be hard but if you care about her you should be true to her.

[JayTexas]

Thank you

[CaliBabe101]

I agree with everyone else, but have you tried going on romantic dates and finding your love for her again? Sometimes when people get busy and they spend less time with each other they feel less interested in them. I would just everything before breaking up and regreting that you could of done something different... Sorry if I was no help=\

[rissaboo45]

honestly I don't think there is anyway to not hurt her.. especially since you have been in a relationship for so long.. but I don't think you should have to pretend that you still love her.. I think that you should tell her what you told us (for the most part) give her time and she will be fine again.

[littlepop22]

If at any point you loved her than just be honest, tell her you care about her, but can't picture spending the rest of your life with her anymore, sure it'll hurt, she'll cry and she'll wish you hadn't done it, but if she loves you as much as you say she will respect your decision.

Do not be surprised if she still wants to remain friends, some do and it can be functional, and if she loves you as much as you say she does, if at any point in the future you find someone new, she will be happy for you.

Don't pretend to still love her and keep up the charade, tell her the truth so you both can move on.

[Anonymous]

There’s never an easy way to break a heart , never a tender way to tear someone’s world apart when you’re leaving.. never a gentle way to say goodbye when you know someone will cry

there’s never an easy way to break a heart ...you gotta walk away , she’s gonna cry and deep inside its killing you because making her cry is the very last thing you wanna do ...that won’t change anything when you gotta move on when you find the feeling is gone...

ps : its a song bt works good =) g luck

[Nickishguy]

Whats this song :]

[Opinion Owner]

Never an easy way - jay sean =]

[quietgirl69]

If you keep faking it things will just end up worse. A girl, or anyone for that matter, would rather things end soon than get played and become more attached just to get hurt worse. If you are planning on ending it just don't keep putting it off

[stalinhornsby]

Is she hot? If she is a keeper and you have a good job just tell her you want to continue dating because you can't really afford to be married with all the responsibility of children and a mortgage.

[JayTexas]

First of all we don't have children or a mortgage. Second of all, I am assuming you're a pretty shallow person by your response. I am in a relationship with a woman that I still care about and don't want to hurt, but I want to end the relationship and be SINGLE and I am trying to figure out the best way to do this that hurts her the least.

[stalinhornsby]

Sorry Iam wondering who is being the optimist her? Best of luck.

[JohnRJohnR]

Sorry dude. That's a tough spot to be in. I guess all you really can do is tell her the truth. At this point your going to hurt her no matter what you do. Just be honest. Sorry bro good luck

[severino]

just be honest with her..she'll be hurt but in the end you'll feel better than lying.

[JayTexas]

Sorry dude tough spot to be in. All you can really do is suck it up and tell her the truth. Yeah your going to hurt her regardless but you gotta do what you gotta do. Good luck bro

[JayTexas]

Guy below I re-wrote what you said so it would stick in my mind. Everyone says the same thing. I guess I know what I have to do then. Sorry dude, tough stop, suck it up, tell her the truth, I'm going to hurt her, but you gotta do what you gotta do, good luck.