Why would an ex girlfriend want to keep tabs on you?

[Anonymous]

well my ex had been contacting me and asking our friends about me. Our friend told me that she just wants to keep tabs on you. I don't understand this because she broke up with me. Its not making much since to me, especially when she has a new dude

[everconfused800]

Honestly, I don't know "why," she would want to keep tabs on you, but I can say it is perfectly normal that she does.

I for one, would never ever want to be back with my ex...but I still check out his facebook and email from time to time. I don't know if it is just because we like our decisions to be validated or that we are just incredibly nosy by nature and can't help ourselves. I think part of us does still feel a bit possessive of you and like we have a right to know what you are up to, which sounds really bad I know. On the nicer side, she may also be interested in knowing you are alright.

Like when I look at my ex's stuff I see that he still talks to all of the friends I practically forced him to go out and make, and it makes me feel good and its a bit of ego, because I realize his life is less crappy thanks to me.

I also think most women, my self included have this thing where they never really want you to move on. It's a power thing, its a self confidence booster, and we don't necessarily feel good about it. But it usually has nothing to do with wanting you back.

Especially, if she has a new guy, its probably just run of the mill female "check-ups".

Sorry if this makes us girls sound ugly, and if its not what you wanted to hear, but its just part of the hard truth.

[Anonymous]

I think she still cares for you - because to be honest, even though its normal to be curious about an ex, I can say that I'm not curious enough about ALL of them to keep tabs on them - I've only done that with one of them. Well maybe two. But mainly one because I was more interested in him.

Girls don't keep tabs on exs if they didn't care for them. They don't even care to do it more than once.