How do you overcome depression after the person who supposedly loved you dumped you for someone else?

[Anonymous]

[btbc92]

Firstly, Give it all to God and remember that HE LOVES you. And loved your FIRST.
Secondly, Get professional counseling services if it is available in your area and have insurance.
Thirdly, learn from your mistakes with that relationship and remind yourself that you are WORTHY of love. Any sins or other things you did that were not healthy, repent of them, let it go. Forgive her, forgive yourself. Don't do them again. PROMISE yourself that. Because only you can hold accountable for YOU.
Lastly, allow 6 months to a year at LEAST to heal from the emotional trauma and to detach spiritually from that person. Remember to do the basic things:

• If you have ANYTHING of her's that she has given you, contact her for your things she took, and give back the things you got. If she doesn't care about it, have her to legally get it in writing in case she wants to take back her word. Don't keep ANYTHING of her and what you gave to HER. Anything she had, throw it OUT. I don't care how expensive, or sell it for money if able. Once that is done...
• Block and Delete her phone number. Block and Delete her social media, put yours on private. If she tries contacting you AFTER you two left things alone, do NOT hesitate to report her.
• Delete photos, videos, etc that have her in it. Do NOT KEEP THEM. I don't care if it means so much to you. You will live with those memories and suffer more if not reopen those wounds. And make it difficult to allow another to come into your life IF another relationship is what you want.
• If your friends and family know anything about her, remind them not to talk about her anymore, especially in front of you. And you also make it your business to do the same for yourself.
• Always check anything like your diary, stash, etc that have her memories there, and remove them as well. Leave no traces of her around.

Once you have done all of these things. All you can do now is ALLOW yourself to heal, ALLOW yourself to let go, and ALLOW yourself to move on.

[Asker]

Thank you. Your words have power

[btbc92]

Not my words. GOD's words. Your very welcome and I pray that you receive and move and go on in faith. Don't her or the devil any more power with your tears. That's how they end up having victory over you. Have victory over your circumstances. Jesus overcame physical death and the WORLD, you can overcome this.

[DarthSader518]

Thank you!

[yaseminleylaoğlu]

The best way to get over someone is when that someone left you for someone or cheated on you. Cause you now know that there is no going back to that person. You shouldn’t have any question marks about getting back to them or having a relationship again. You should be completely done with that person. Try meeting new people and make new friends. The best way to get over is to look better

[Anonymous]

It takes time, start doing things like exercising, weight lifting if you are over weight, start loosing weight. Do any thing that will make you feel good about yourself. Get a new hobby that might start a new interest. Don't try following her on Face book, don;t try being friends with her, never ask about her, if you see her do not wave. If you try to follow her or be friends, it only hurts more when you see her with someone else, if you had a lot of feelings for her. You need to shut her out of your life, just like she died. All the love you had for her will become hate, this is normal. By doing this you are not letting her hurt you more. My ex-wife left me after 9 years of marriage and this is what I did. I even got a restraining order on her.

[Asker]

And did it help you? Doing this.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it did, if stay interested in her it will only hurt more. She is dead now as far as you are concerned. Do not waste any more interest on her, she left and hurt you. You will develope a hate for her , but this is normal. Love and hate are 2 sides of the same coin. You only hate as much as you loved. Another thing the faster you find someone else the better. This is what she has already done, that is why she left you. When a female looses love for you, there is usually another man involved.

[someginger]

Just take it one day at a time and know that it is ok to feel like this and is perfectly natural.

Hang out with friends and family, take up hobbie something to take your mind off things and remind you, you can still have fun.

If your really struggling then i would say seek help with a counsellor there are plenty you can do online and ring of the phone.