Can I ever have my ex back after acting crazy and desperate?

[Anonymous]

I have acted very crazy before breakup, my boyfriend became cold so i was constantly aaking him why was he so cold, crying, telling him how much i loved him.
He broke up with me and i was begging him to not leave, telling him i couldn't live without him, how much i loved him. :( i have sent him so many messages on that day. He replied that he wasn't interested to be with me again , so i have sent him one last message saying that i was sorry for acting like that and that i won't bother him anymore , i wish him all the best and good bye.
Do you think he will ever respect me again or it's all lost because i have acted so crazy?

[Itsok2behapp-e]

I know one woman who ran away and played the field.

When she realised what she had lost she posted her newfound 'wisdom' on the same site she was using to play the field. A cry for help, hmph!

She too was crazy and desperate doing anything and everything to gain control, to no avail.

To this day she suffers from what she can and never ever have again... Me.

As per Track 9 'Takes One To Know One' on '1 x 1' by Calyx & Teebee:


"... You think you hanging on, but you won't let go,
You look down struck by vertigo,
Oblivious to what you left behind,
Looking in the corners of your mind,
Haunted by the things you didn't do,
Trouble always seems to follow you,
You think you're immune to what you've become,
Well it takes one to know one.


You think you know it all, but you don't know me,
And that's all you'll ever know,
You think you have it all, but you don't have me,
And that's all you'll ever have,
You think you get it all, but you don't get me,
And that's all that you'll ever get,
You talk about lies and hypocrisy,
Well it takes one to know one."

As for you Ms Anonymous, leave him be dear. You had your time with him and you didn't use it wisely.



Your actions has resulted in him walking away. If you're a decent person you'll accept to let him walk out of your life as that's the best thing for him.


I have no further words of advice for you.

[Itsok2behapp-e]

Thank you for MHO :-)

[kemo56]

Of course is always it depends on how your relationship was anyway... But can somebody come back from that yes hill battle... You have to back off and quit pressing him. I assume you have friends together well then when you're around them you just act normal and as a friend don't hang around and play a little bit hard to get so to speak I mean not to say don't talk to him if he walks up to you but you don't go towards him you don't express your love at this point and with time he can say you've changed and if there's something there you'll get back together if not don't worry about it thanks a lot of guys out there and they just wanted you're going to be a match with

[Asker]

Maybe if few YEARS pass and i won't contact him or see him anymore then maybe after years he can forget my crazy behaviour and give it a chance?

[kemo56]

If it's going to work it probably isn't going to take near that long let's be a little patience this friend see what happens good luck

[Mikuchan454]

No. You weren’t. You deserve a explanation, it’s completely rude, and how you acted was very much normal. It wasn’t crazy. He’s just a prick.


Sadly, he *might* come back, or not. You never know what the future holds, but from what you’ve written your better off without him. Focus on yourself.

[Asker]

On the day that he broke up i sent him 12 messages saying "why don't you reply? I know i am not perfect but please tell me something", "am i that horrible to not deserve an answer?", "i would like to hug you and kiss you"- messages like this.. do you still think it wasn't crazy? He was online but didn't say anything and it drove me crazy to be ignored :(

[Asker]

And when he answered after 1 day his reply was so short like "i am not interested in you anymore, things changed, you behave like a psycho sending milion messages"

[Mikuchan454]

My answer still stands. This isn’t crazy, this is normal. I would give him a pretty backhanded retort, but that’s me. You’re not a psycho.

[Asker]

Thank you for making me feel better, because i felt so guilty and crazy

[Mikuchan454]

Of course! I offer the truth, and honestly sweetie he sounds like an asshole. You reacted a way anyone who geniunely cared would. He’s the one acting weird. Like he’s acting like a cold hearted bastard. He deserves a slap, you didn’t do anything deserve being called psychotic. Don’t feel guilty or crazy girl there is nothing wrong with be human! But I’d suggest backing off he doesn’t deserve even a penny of your time.

[Elsa143]

He's a selfish bastard. He NEVER loved you that's why he lost interest. You're not a TV channel who will keep him interested. Relationship works from both side. What the hell. I know it's the worst feeling because we are so loyal and stable. You have to be careful in future.

[Asker]

The day when he broke up i have sent him 12 messages begging for an answer, asking what did i wrong.. he wasn't replying and it drove me crazy. He said i behaved like a psycho sending him so many messages , but why couldn't he just reply and explain me things?

[Elsa143]

He is the one who is emotionless. Hear me girl! He is EMOTIONLESS. These kind of people only show love and romance until you quench their THIRST. After that they move on to their NEXT target. 😡

[Elsa143]

I can guarantee that he's showing your messages to his friends and they're making fun of you. This is what guys do.

[Anonymous]

i'm sorry you're going through that. i'm going through far worse. the woman I been deeply in love with for 3 years is engaged to another guy after knowing him for a few months. every part of me has been hurting so bad I been a nervous wreck every day crying angry resentful I been trying to emotionally distance myself from her sometimes but in the end my heart still loves her. it hurts so much.
i'm sorry you're going through all this. I hope things get better for you. I truly do. I hope you find love and happiness with the right person who will love you and make you happy and truly love you unconditionally

[Asker]

Thank you. It is going a bit better now, i stil cry a lot and miss him so much but i think we must have hope that there is someone better for us. This heartbreak will make us stronger. Hugs

[VIVANT]

He was cold in the first place and didn’t care to fix that. It was over then in my opinion. Move on he’s not worth it. You don’t want a cold boyfriend even if he came back. What kind of part need makes their partner feel desperate just for wanting some warmth.

[VIVANT]

I’m really sorry 😐

[1truekhaleesi]

Ignore him and work on yourself. You might not get him back and that's a good thing. The right man you will not need to beg for him to give you attention. He will do everything and anything for you.

"If someone wants you in their life, they will do anything to keep you in it. And if they don't want you in their life, absolutely nothing you do or say will make them change their mind. Stop trying. Do not beg anyone to want you. You are much more worthy than that." -Najwa Zebian

[Heartonmysleeve88]

No girl. He is never going to respect you. I am going to say this in love but I am going to be 100% real with you. You acted like a damn fool.

It's ok. We all make mistakes. I think you should look at Tony Gaskins on youtube and get some coaching.

Leave him be. Why do you want someone cold and distant? It's just your ego that is hurt. You didn't actually love him.

[Asker]

Maybe after few years he can forget about that and give me a chance? Or it is lost forever? I can't stop thinking about him

[Heartonmysleeve88]

No, please no no no no no- Please love yourself and have respect for yourself. It really breaks my heart that you feel this way about yourself. Just give it one month and start dating again. I promise you that you will forget about him.

I used to be obsessed over this one man and I acted a fool and I just gave it a month or so and I forgot about him. Dont put all your hopes on one person.

Maybe this is the time to heal and love yourself. I would look at Tony Gaskins videos. They really helped me and you will be addicted.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DMceN_8IxdY

I am praying for your healing.

[Asker]

Thank you for praying for me. I don't know why do i remember only good memories about him now? When i was crying he didn't react, he rarely told me any compliments, he didn't want to have meaningful conversations with me.. why do i want him back anyway?:(

[Heartonmysleeve88]

You only like him because you wish he was the person he used to be and trust me when I tell you that you don't love him, its just that you don't feel that there's any other option that's why but when you find someone else you will forget about him. What id do is just be patient and block him everywhere.

[Anonymous]

That was a good message to send. But as far as him coming back, you know when most women decide it's over, there's no going back for them. Often the same with guys. That's not to say it's hopeless, there is a possibility maybe, but I would try to move on as best you can now. Stay busy and try to distract yourself (hard I know). See if he contacts you again. But I would give him space now. Don't contact him again.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know either of you or your relationship, but this makes me wonder if your feelings for him were a lot stronger than his for you?

[dantheman1118]

This. 100%

It's the shitty part of life. The thing is if you two ever got back together, no matter how good it was, it will always be weird. I'm not even saying it's your fault. I know absolutely nothing about either one of you or your relationship but I do know those awkward second wind relationship 2nd Chance one more try bla bla blah. you're young. Like I said it's the shitty part of life but you have two options. Shit or get off the pot. Do or don't. Sit and be absolutely miserable thinking about it or go use the most precious thing you have. Time. Don't waste it on bullshit.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Same shit happened to me. I think somethings can't be turned back. I guess it's game over. We can chat and cry together 😂 but in all honesty, maybe it's for the best? It's hard to see it this way but... well, at least it's a lesson learned.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Ok same on my part, not on his part. So I guess there is a slight difference
But your guy told you he never liked you anyway so that should be your wake up call

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mind this type of behavior. It doesn't sound that crazy.

He might just not want you for other reasons.

[Asker]

Really you think it wasn't so crazy? But i sent him like 12 messages on one day, he replied that i acted crazy sending him milion messages. But i felt so hurt and just wanted an answer and he wasn't replying

[Opinion Owner]

okay well maybe that's a little crazy but he was probably going to leave anyway. I doubt it was your messages or being desperate that ended it.

[TrulyPink28]

My sweet, don't ever beg for a man, send several texts or act all crazy ever again. Men interpret that as desperate and repulsive. If he wants you he'll come back, it's natural. If he doesn't, you've escaped being in a loveless relationship.

[_SOARER]

His reaction is just as much as an overreaction tbh.
He under reacted

Dont waste your time anymore
It won't work with him, he doesn't care about you.
Save your energy for someone else

[Ciel66]

• Fuck that asshole up
• and find sth else to do
• Such mentally abusive unhealthy turning you to slave to such stupid feeling
• Unreplicated love lean you torture yourself

[KrakenAttackin]

You lost him to the crazy train. Learn from this and never do it again.

[dmm31888]

I wouldn’t want him back. Once an ex, always an ex in my opinion

[phatdrummer650]

Ignore him. Make him think you're not interested anymore.
He'll be back

[Mado108]

You should do no contact for a long time.

[In_Trance]

nope. what's done is done. move on

[Lovedonce]

Did he ever come back? Update?

[LEADFOOTboi]

i'ts possible...

[Anonymous]

Ignore him.