1 I don't take breaks. If someone wants a "break" then I break up.
2 If we split for a short period... a week or two and then get back together... if I find out you had sex with someone else... you become disgusting to me and once again... we break up. Hey if we break up and are separated for a year or two and date others and come back... ok, but if we take a short break... days, weeks a month and you already have other men inside of you. I'm done.
A break means you are free to do as you please, which in many cases is the reason the break happens in the first place. Wanting to take that break tells us there are problems that need repaired and the thinking is the break might fix it. WRONG! This is the point you need a long sit down with your partner and totally open up about what the problems are and get them worked out and forget this break thing.
That's the kind of boundary you have to discuss with your partner. Some people would consider it cheating, some people wouldn't. Some people think a break is the same as a breakup (but only temporary) and others think it's just about taking some time apart, but you're still officially together. You should always discuss the rules with your partner to make sure you're on the same page, and that goes for everything. Not just breaks.
Did you set terms in your break. Like no dating no kissing no sex with others? Was the break so you could get space? Explore the things you wanted to do without your partner? Assess if this person was the one?
Only you can answer these and then according to this you can decide whether its cheating.
Everyone's relationship is different. No one rule for all.
In all seriousness though, if you and your SO are taking a break from one another, in my eyes, that’s a temporary break up. It’s like taking a break from studying, are you not allowed to do other things besides study in that time? Of course you can, same deal here.
i would talk to my partner about what it is we're doing, like are we just single until we sort out stuff or are we still in a relationship just not seeing each other for a while for whatever reason.
If single then yeah sleep away if your just not seeing each other for a while but you are still in a relationship then don't.
Agreed lol that was my first thought, although I hate the whole break thing, if it seriously is a case of needing some time apark aka alone then why not say that, ya know, as a guy would you be seriously offended if she said "I'm not feeling up to seeing you I'm just gunna have a nice bubble bath with a book and then hit the sack' - if there was nothing planned past a casual meet anyhow
I think of it in these two ways. No it’s not cheating but if we’re on a break and he does sleep with someone else then I wouldn’t want to be with him since it would make me think he was so eager to jump into bed with someone else. Would 100% put me off how it took him no time to sleep with someone else.
But at the end of the day I do think it’s cheating. You’ve not broken up, you’re just on a break. Though I don’t plan to have breaks, you with or without me.
I did this, and it felt like cheating to me. I told my girlfriend about 2 days after we got back together, and she cried pretty hard and was hurt, so I think it felt that way to her, as well.
I even thought about not telling her, but it felt too dishonest not to say something, so I carried it until I couldn't handle it anymore, which was as I said, about 48 hours.
A break is a break. They're massively childish, but they're a thing. You've both made a decision to be apart and that makes you in essence single. I you're doing it right then there's no questions about your break if you get back together. But if you're needing a break in a relationship then the relationship is probably pretty crappy to begin with, and neither of you has the balls to call time on it.
It depends on the circumstances of why you are on a break and what was or was not okay with the partner. It can go either way depending on the circumstances. On a side note, does anyone else have Ross and Rachel from Friends arguing and saying "We were on a break!" going through their head right now? Lol
if you broke up and call things off how could it be cheating Now it would be something a little different if that person had something to do with the the break up because of fondling hugging kissing that type of stuff you know it's can we Gray area that there's not enough information but if you actually broke up Jennifer to do it want to but me personally I have to have that healing time is unwanted carry that at heard that anger and disappointment into a new relationship
If you didn't discuss it before parting, then it's only fair that neither side has any right to be upset at the other for assuming the opposite, both are guilty for assuming the other person shared their same values. Ironically, both sides will see the other as the a-hole with garbage morality.
Best thing you can do make it clear with each other exactly how broken up you really are - before you leave the conversation.
There's no "break". Either you're with someone, or you're not. And if you take a break, that just means you won't see each others but are still together. If you ask me for a break, I'll just end things. And sleeping with someone while in a break is cheating, simple as that. You can't just say you take a break, fuck around, and then come back as if nothing happened.
Yes I think it is. If you already know you’re just taking a break and that eventually you’re going back to your partner, why sleep with someone else? But that’s subjective I guess just like any other thing in life. It all depends on your own definitions and your partner’s. In my books, yes it is considered infidelity.
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This is one of the reason why "break" is stupid concept.
You can see most people divided here. Its usually the case the person who did sleep with someone else, would say that it is appropriate.
Personally, I would never agree for a break. We are either together, or not.
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Yes, because the purpose of the break is to serve as a method of fixing the relationship. Its the hope that by taking time apart, you two can return back together with a better appreciation for each other, or a better understanding of yourself, your wants, and your needs. It allows time to reflect and think. Not only does having sex with someone else not really let you reflect as well, but it also is still cheating because the relationship is not officially over. It's over when it's OVER, but a break is not over. So sex during a break is like saying, "I already feel this relationship is done, so I'm not going to use this break to work on us."
Kinda yes, kinda no. Depends how you look at it. A break is shortened from a break up. Only so that they can have sex with someone else behind your back. If anyone takes this person back, then I will have no sympathy for them. I would get straight to the point and say "We're over. Don't bother coming back."
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1 I don't take breaks. If someone wants a "break" then I break up.
2 If we split for a short period... a week or two and then get back together... if I find out you had sex with someone else... you become disgusting to me and once again... we break up. Hey if we break up and are separated for a year or two and date others and come back... ok, but if we take a short break... days, weeks a month and you already have other men inside of you. I'm done.
A break means you are free to do as you please, which in many cases is the reason the break happens in the first place.
Wanting to take that break tells us there are problems that need repaired and the thinking is the break might fix it. WRONG! This is the point you need a long sit down with your partner and totally open up about what the problems are and get them worked out and forget this break thing.
That's the kind of boundary you have to discuss with your partner. Some people would consider it cheating, some people wouldn't. Some people think a break is the same as a breakup (but only temporary) and others think it's just about taking some time apart, but you're still officially together. You should always discuss the rules with your partner to make sure you're on the same page, and that goes for everything. Not just breaks.
It depends on the break. If your partner and you just need time apart for a week, then yes that's cheating.
Honestly people know if they cheated. It just depends on how much of a piece of shit they are.
If you cheated and hide it you a coward. If your honest yo an asshole but there might be redemption.
Did you set terms in your break. Like no dating no kissing no sex with others?
Was the break so you could get space?
Explore the things you wanted to do without your partner?
Assess if this person was the one?
Only you can answer these and then according to this you can decide whether its cheating.
Everyone's relationship is different. No one rule for all.
THEY WERE ON A BREAK!!!
Rachel was WRONG.
In all seriousness though, if you and your SO are taking a break from one another, in my eyes, that’s a temporary break up. It’s like taking a break from studying, are you not allowed to do other things besides study in that time? Of course you can, same deal here.
A “break” is slang for “break up”.
Just like “ho” is slang for “whore”.
Two different words. Same exact meaning.
You can’t leave someone and expect them to remain loyal to you.
Only way this flies is if you both agreed to be celibate.
We were on a break! Sorry couldn't help myself.
i would talk to my partner about what it is we're doing, like are we just single until we sort out stuff or are we still in a relationship just not seeing each other for a while for whatever reason.
If single then yeah sleep away if your just not seeing each other for a while but you are still in a relationship then don't.
Agreed lol that was my first thought, although I hate the whole break thing, if it seriously is a case of needing some time apark aka alone then why not say that, ya know, as a guy would you be seriously offended if she said "I'm not feeling up to seeing you I'm just gunna have a nice bubble bath with a book and then hit the sack' - if there was nothing planned past a casual meet anyhow
I think of it in these two ways.
No it’s not cheating but if we’re on a break and he does sleep with someone else then I wouldn’t want to be with him since it would make me think he was so eager to jump into bed with someone else. Would 100% put me off how it took him no time to sleep with someone else.
But at the end of the day I do think it’s cheating. You’ve not broken up, you’re just on a break. Though I don’t plan to have breaks, you with or without me.
I did this, and it felt like cheating to me. I told my girlfriend about 2 days after we got back together, and she cried pretty hard and was hurt, so I think it felt that way to her, as well.
I even thought about not telling her, but it felt too dishonest not to say something, so I carried it until I couldn't handle it anymore, which was as I said, about 48 hours.
A break is a break. They're massively childish, but they're a thing. You've both made a decision to be apart and that makes you in essence single. I you're doing it right then there's no questions about your break if you get back together. But if you're needing a break in a relationship then the relationship is probably pretty crappy to begin with, and neither of you has the balls to call time on it.
It depends on the circumstances of why you are on a break and what was or was not okay with the partner. It can go either way depending on the circumstances. On a side note, does anyone else have Ross and Rachel from Friends arguing and saying "We were on a break!" going through their head right now? Lol
if you broke up and call things off how could it be cheating Now it would be something a little different if that person had something to do with the the break up because of fondling hugging kissing that type of stuff you know it's can we Gray area that there's not enough information but if you actually broke up Jennifer to do it want to but me personally I have to have that healing time is unwanted carry that at heard that anger and disappointment into a new relationship
If you didn't discuss it before parting, then it's only fair that neither side has any right to be upset at the other for assuming the opposite, both are guilty for assuming the other person shared their same values. Ironically, both sides will see the other as the a-hole with garbage morality.
Best thing you can do make it clear with each other exactly how broken up you really are - before you leave the conversation.
Now a days people take breaks in relationship to free themselves from drama for a time period.
In that time if u hv sex with someone else and later go back to ur old partner... Its cheating.
It won't be cheating if u tell him/her during break that u will b having sex with someone.
There's no "break". Either you're with someone, or you're not. And if you take a break, that just means you won't see each others but are still together. If you ask me for a break, I'll just end things.
And sleeping with someone while in a break is cheating, simple as that. You can't just say you take a break, fuck around, and then come back as if nothing happened.
Yes I think it is. If you already know you’re just taking a break and that eventually you’re going back to your partner, why sleep with someone else? But that’s subjective I guess just like any other thing in life. It all depends on your own definitions and your partner’s. In my books, yes it is considered infidelity.
This is one of the reason why "break" is stupid concept.
You can see most people divided here. Its usually the case the person who did sleep with someone else, would say that it is appropriate.
Personally, I would never agree for a break. We are either together, or not.
Yes, because the purpose of the break is to serve as a method of fixing the relationship. Its the hope that by taking time apart, you two can return back together with a better appreciation for each other, or a better understanding of yourself, your wants, and your needs. It allows time to reflect and think. Not only does having sex with someone else not really let you reflect as well, but it also is still cheating because the relationship is not officially over. It's over when it's OVER, but a break is not over. So sex during a break is like saying, "I already feel this relationship is done, so I'm not going to use this break to work on us."
Kinda yes, kinda no. Depends how you look at it.
A break is shortened from a break up. Only so that they can have sex with someone else behind your back.
If anyone takes this person back, then I will have no sympathy for them.
I would get straight to the point and say "We're over. Don't bother coming back."