Is it the time is it the memories is it small hope that they might come back

A lot has to do with the depth of the love, the reason for the break. my last girlfriend and I split mutually for mutual reasons, not for any issues, it was a life change issue and we agreed to part in Dec 2019. so yeah, 12 months of bollox lol. The memories remain for ever, for all those we love through life, time, meh, you still have triggers about things, photos, food, smells (perfume etc) The coming back is one we often fool ourselves with, but an end must be clean and a full severing.

I think its like an addiction. You feel a certain way and you want to keep feeling that way. What sucks is trying to not get caught up with someone who is just using you cause it can get toxic

Because when someone isn't around, some people focus on the good memories but forget the bad memories, why broke up in first place.. But most times yet to go back, it never ends well, and then you back at square one, rehurt and being too get over the same person all over again

It’s the hope. You need to let go of the hope and accept that it is what it is.

a broken heart is Not falling out of Love, falling out of Love means you stop caring... so, no feelings at all

Think about it this way... if it was easy it would cheapen Love and then it would lose its meaning. It would no longer be precious.

Sure. But I guess it’s the not knowing if that was the “love of your life”. Which is of course absurd. There is no one person. Just people who fit together.

It is the time and effort we have spent in hopes of keeping a person

I read once love is like an addiction that’s hard to break free from like nicotine.

I think it’s the bond and time invested

Why is falling out of love so hard?

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Is it the time
is it the memories
is it small hope that they might come back

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ChrisMaster69 Follow
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A lot has to do with the depth of the love, the reason for the break.

my last girlfriend and I split mutually for mutual reasons, not for any issues, it was a life change issue and we agreed to part in Dec 2019.

so yeah, 12 months of bollox lol.

The memories remain for ever, for all those we love through life,

time, meh, you still have triggers about things, photos, food, smells (perfume etc)

The coming back is one we often fool ourselves with, but an end must be clean and a full severing.

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  Yes see it’s no good
  
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- ChrisMaster69
  
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  Yep agreed, part of reason I end up on here.
  
  Sitting along in a nice house, I basically just sitting alone.
  
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I think its like an addiction. You feel a certain way and you want to keep feeling that way. What sucks is trying to not get caught up with someone who is just using you cause it can get toxic

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- Justneedtokno
  
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  Definitely feels like an addiction
  
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- Justneedtokno
  
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  It is definitely in a diction the ups and downs
  
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- COMMODOREII
  
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  It's just better to be around people who will support you while you heal.
  
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Because when someone isn't around, some people focus on the good memories but forget the bad memories, why broke up in first place..
But most times yet to go back, it never ends well, and then you back at square one, rehurt and being too get over the same person all over again

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  Thanks for mh
  
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It’s the hope. You need to let go of the hope and accept that it is what it is.

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a broken heart is Not falling out of Love, falling out of Love means you stop caring... so, no feelings at all

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  Well I wish I could get to that point already
  
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  to "Date" me is to learn to "hate" me... I am the cure... lol
  
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Think about it this way... if it was easy it would cheapen Love and then it would lose its meaning. It would no longer be precious.

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Sure. But I guess it’s the not knowing if that was the “love of your life”. Which is of course absurd. There is no one person. Just people who fit together.

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It is the time and effort we have spent in hopes of keeping a person

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I read once love is like an addiction that’s hard to break free from like nicotine.

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I think it’s the bond and time invested

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  Yes 🥺
  
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It really isn't that hard

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  Normally for guys
  
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- msc545
  
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  I just need to remember that the person I thought I was in love with wasn't real.
  
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- Justneedtokno
  
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  Like they don’t exist
  
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- msc545
  
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  exactly
  
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Emotional attachment

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All of the above.

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