Who is affected more by a breakup, the boy or the girl?

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EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

Biologically speaking, I don’t see why it would be the men, despite a lot of men saying it is when it comes to questions like this. I feel like these men are bitter and/or have negative experiences with women so they are biased. Also, they do not know exactly what goes on when it comes to the woman’s side when it comes to a breakup. They’re too focused on their own feelings. It makes more biological sense for a woman to be more affected because she went more pickiness and selectivity through to choose the man than the man did to choose the woman. The woman had to make
sure the man was suitable for her so she had to get to know him, test him, spend time with him, talk to her friends about him, parents, etc. A man just sees a woman on the street and decides then and there within minutes of whether he wants to sleep with her, but a woman spends an infinite more amount of time. Now, if you want to talk about resources and who spends/gives away more money or valuables during a relationship then that’s more varied but we all know men on average are the higher earners within a relationship so in this department men may be the losers. Perhaps when it comes to the mental/emotional front, women are affected more, but financially men might be.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

Studies have proven that men take much longer time to recover from a break-up given if the guy was invested emotionally. Women can get affected aswel, but pale in comparison to a guy who is in pain (generally speaking). Women are biologically programmed to move on quicker. It's part of their adaptability in order to surivive and adapt to whomever she is with. Men on the other hand are wired very differently and feel like they have lost something irreplacable which in turn makes them feel like faillures.

Let's not also forget that women generally have a much more supportive network to help them get over the break-ups while men are expected to bottle everything up.

meggykentums · Accepted Answer

The only reason I think this is true is because women are quicker and more likely to think, "Good, he wasn't worth my time anyway."

Guys don't have that thought typically. A lot of men lack the self worth to prefer no girl over a toxic relationship. Sooooo many guys try to get back with their exes out of loneliness.

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

I think men because they are expected to bottle up their feelings and just get under someone new straight away. Some guys don't want to but experience pressure from their friends. Having sex right after a breakup can sometime make the pain even worse.

HawkPerception · Answer

My ex dumped me recently and that post picture you have there is a very accurate portrayal of my personal experience

She came to my place and gave me the news and I said "Alright it's your decision. I support you." in the moment, while she was tearing up and asking how I was so calm about it. Then a few months later, I'm feeling depressed and lonely as hell, always picturing the times we had together and remembering the way we used to talk while she seems to be living it up. It's pretty painful stuff.

Anonymous · Answer

I think both genders are equally affected, but how they handle it varies. Women tend to be very sad right away. They cry to their girlfriends, eat ice cream, watch sappy movies, cry some more. We let ourselves be sad and we reflect on what went wrong.

Men tend to act like they're okay, especially at the beginning. They don't say much to their friends, other than maybe, "It just didn't work out" or something along those lines. They tend to go about life as usual, just without their significant other. This tends to drag out the healing process.

Long story short, I think both genders feel roughly the same AMOUNT of pain from a breakup. The difference is, women experience pain at a level 10 for a short period of time while men experience pain at a level 5-7 for a longer period of time.

***Also, I realize this is an overgeneralization. We all deal with things in our own way and in our own time, regardless of gender.

t-8900 · Answer

the first few break ups for a girl can be soul crushing. But in the longer term I think guys are more affected. Well... the "nice guys" are... just absolutely devastated and I've been there. You know how we can resolve these issues? Throw ever Walt Disney movie from the top of the Eiffel tower and BURN IT ALL! THE LIES MAN! THE LIES!

Apope16 · Answer

Studies show that men take longer to get over breakups. Women have more support networks and are encouraged to express emotion. Men have an internal pain that is hidden and lingers. Women also have more sexual and dating options. All they need is to wear tight spandex, a push up bra, and a tank top and they have a world of sex, gifts, and a new boyfriend. Men have less abundant choice than women on dating apps etc.

livin_hi_808 · Answer

Both I think. In my own experience it depended on my attachment to the girl. If I felt a void afterwards then it showed. If not then I would bounce back like I never knew them. And time has no effect on how you process your breakup. So it doesn't define how long you hang on to it. I think with any relationship that you felt affected by during, it will always linger someway. Either on the surface or deep in your subconscious. Girls are worse with that tho lol.

MuffinBoi · Answer

Depends entirely on the individual. If we're talking on average, then I suppose I can try and draw from my experience as a guys. Generally, I tend to feel some initial sadness, but then I kinda get used to being single within a month or two and from there it's back to normal.

Some feel a much harder fall from the relationship ending, others may not feel anything at all. This is just my experience. As for girls, well you'll likely have to ask a few

Lavender_Rose · Answer

I think it depends on the situation. In some cases, it could be that both moved on and both are hurt. However, it is more seen that girls are more hurt than guys but it is often the stereotype since guys often don't show their feelings because of competition/social pressure. I have seen both guys and girls get hurt after a break up or divorce but I have seen more girls affected although I won't generalize based on what I have seen.

jgokgotit · Answer

It really depends on the individual and circumstances involved. I am the kind of person who puts my all and then some into a relationship. I go into each relationship expecting that we will make it through anything. I also deeply believe that love is a commitment, not an emotion. I take love as a serious oath and do not back down when things get tough. These things combined make it so hard for me to move on.

GrimmGothBabe · Answer

Who ever was more emotionally connected to the person during their relationship usually suffers the most regardless of gender. This usually tends to be the person who was asked for the breakup more than the person who wants it.

Feelicks · Answer

Oh please, I've never been that upset about a break up. That said I'm usually the one who breaks off relationships that aren't working.

I've only been dumped once when I still liked the person, and that was because she was a bit crazy. She said I was frigid because I didn't want to have sex with her with her dad in the next room LoL (yikes).

ChattyGuy43 · Answer

It all depends on how long the relationship has been, how attached you are to each other, I think it's the girl that is affected more then the guy in my opinion, having said that, my first breakup was so hard, I was lost for a few months after it, she already moved on as it was a long distance relationship.

nevernevernever · Answer

honestly that's kind of a dumb question because the answer is the same as it always is for this type of question. It depends on the couple, that's really it

cheapshotbob · Answer

that seems accurate lol , its been a long time since i broke up with her and im still hung up on her ha ha ha , wish you was not so brutally honest asking this ha ha ha ha
i miss being young but god the hurt was real . lol

TDeans1987 · Answer

Men, easily. Women can easily find another partner anytime they want to but most men do not have that luxury.

Account · Answer

I get over such things pretty fast, but I think it has nothing to do with gender.

Siren777 · Answer

Both genders. Depends how deeply you loved that person. The longer you take the more you loved that person.

warrenstone · Answer

Men because women can walk down the street and hop on a new dick without any upfront investment and turn it into a relationship. Men can’t do that with women.

JuneLady · Answer

The girl, nine times out of ten. Men tend to get stung, but push through and focus their feelings. Women are more likely to just wallow.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Depends on the person and the situation, not the gender.
For example my ex tried to kill herself when we broke up. I was fine. But on the relationship before that one I was the one who took longer to recover.

msc545 · Answer

The boy. The girl can go out and get another man in about 10 minutes or less. The man can not do that.

Theresachemin · Answer

I can’t speak for everyone obviously but for me I feel like I’m always the one affected more. Regardless if I broke it off or not

Sparklegirl1616 · Answer

Depending on the breakup and depending on cheating like if the girl cheated usually it’s the boy or if the guy cheated the girl can get upset too, so it’s hard to know depending on the situation.

Leavesbound · Answer

well it certainly isn't the one doing the breaking up.

Sia_nee · Answer

Depends on who loved most and was most invested. In my case I'm never that invested so I'm good lol

rajjjjjjkkkk · Answer

Jisko pyar ki jyada jarurat hoti hai wo jyada dukhi hota hai.  Emotional, sexual bond aur Confidence level (breakup see pehle) bhi affect karta hai is chiz ko.

PinkHamster · Answer

It depends on the person who love the other person more will be hurt more

DrunkenMaster · Answer

The person who didn't want to break up is affected the most.

_no_one_ · Answer

I personally never faced any drastic brrakups yet so for me it wasn't a big deal ig, dunno bout the other side.

exitseven · Answer

I know that breakups used to really mess me up big time.

LazyProphet · Answer

Lol, it really just depends on the people involved, whoever cared the most is the most hurt. Funny animation though, somewhat true.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I'd say whoever got dumped is affected more. Because the relationship didn't end on their terms.

Satish2607 · Answer

I would rather not bring gender into this. It depends on who was more emotionally attached to the other.

nobodyspecial99 · Answer

Obviously the guy because the girl has like 10 guys lined up for her

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Girls don't care a less who they hurt & most think its funny so there ya go

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

Most guys move on. Most guys already have a side chick on lineup.

RowansQs · Answer

It depends. If the guy tends to be more emotional then definitely the guy, the other way around for girls

Ifriqyan · Answer

Whoever was the most invested.

FrenchBanditi · Answer

2 years on. 3 suicide attempts. Twice hospitalised. Been on medication for 1.5 years You tell me who's more affected.

Anonymous · Answer

It's subjective. GAG has some of the dumbest post man. The gender doesn't matter man. You cannot through us all in a box

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

Lol great post, very inspiring!!! 🤣

SphynxUK · Answer

I think both. We all have feelings you know.

TaeTaeTeaBTSSS · Answer

Depends on the person. Not the gender

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Who cared more, hurts more.

Caunsos · Answer

It depends on the breakup.

khayecv02 · Answer

Depends. Who love the most hurt the most

Shihab91 · Answer

The one who was more in love

alexander3244 · Answer

Clearly it depends on their personalities

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women just hop right back on the cock carousel.

Slim57 · Answer

Depends on the person

jimmy2 · Answer

Depends who put in more to the realtionship

Firat6556 · Answer

Depends on the person man

msbrightness · Answer

The parents usually

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

The uglier of the 2

Anonymous · Answer

Obviously guys

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