For people who were dumped or cheated on by someone you loved did you get over it and find love again?

[TheVoid777]

Yes

No

I am a sucker and stayed with the cheater.

[TurboKid]

Yes, and never thought I could again. I did end up doing it again though some years later with my now-wife. I wasn't cheated on but I had an ex that broke off a wedding with me just 2 weeks before marriage only to start dating a new guy a week after.

[TurboKid]

Some people say time heals everything but in my case, I don't think that was true. I could have just as well stayed all depressed about it for years and years to come, yet having a wedding canceled on you just 2 weeks before is a pretty extreme case. It's like all my ideas and expectations of the future came crumbling down.

So I had to kind of consciously seek healing which I did by building new goals, pursuing new interests, revisiting my old hobbies, meeting new friends, traveling to new countries, etc. Then slowly and surely I started to move on. It's like the world gradually returned to color once more since it looked black and white when I was brokenhearted.

[TurboKid]

It's a different kind of love though. The way I love my wife is different from that ex. They're pretty different types of people. My ex was bipolar and wild and prone to wild mood swings, but extremely passionate and fun-loving. My wife is like the most mentally stable and mature woman I ever met (although she has a fun-loving side she keeps hidden up her sleeve). It's not quite the exact same type of feeling. But it's just as strong and far less volatile in my wife's case. Well, my ex was like fire: dangerous and unpredictable. My wife is like water: soothing and calm.

[Slartybartfast]

No.

Ruined my life, I'm just hanging around waiting for it to be over.

[exitseven]

I got over it in time.