My ex left me for a narcissist friend. How do I piece my life back together?

[Anonymous]

My ex of 5 years left me for my narcissistic ex-friend about 2 months ago. She, my friend, was always in competition with me, and always trying to stir the pot up between me and other people to cause chaos in my life. She secretly didn't like me and bullied me in front of people, but I didn't realise how bad it really was until our friendship ended. She started getting close to my ex while advising me about him to my face, and I think she did it on purpose to hurt me and try and get a one-up on me. My ex is also the worst, he suddenly sneaked off with my ex-friend with no regard for how I might feel.

I've heard from mutual friends that since they got together, my ex-friend has been seeking his reassurance that I'm not "prettier than her" and that she's "better than me" and that he wants her more than he ever wanted me. And apparently he talks badly about me as well to anyone who will listen. He's even said I'm "not pretty" to make her feel better.

How do I begin to heal from this? I've blocked them both.

[Anonymous]

Girl, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Let me start by saying that. But you may not realise it now, but what they both did to you was a blessing. They both sound awful, so be glad they showed both of their true characters and took out the trash for you. At least they are out of your life.

I would get it all out, it's not going to be easy. And that's totally understandable. Lean on your TRUE friends and family for support. Go out with your true people. Meet some amazing guys when/if you feel ready. Forget those two people were ever in your life, because they are trash. They sound miserable so they deserve eachother and you should be glad they paired off. Water seeks its own level. Go meet an amazing guy.