How did you get over heartbreak, and or how long did it take?

[Anonymous]

I've never had my heart broken but, was just wondering how you did it

[jennifer_bloom]

When I was 18 I liked a guy and he rejected me, then I went through the most traumatizing health issue I ever had in my entire life which completely changed me from a timid and fearful girl into a confident and brave person and I lost interest in that guy in part, because I had stopped caring about the superficial things that attracted me to him in the first place like his demeanour and cultural charm which were precursors to me noticing his character and inner beauty and I met another guy that did not give me the same joy, but filled with a kinship type of attachment as if we were kindreds but he turned away from me due to gossip and misunderstanding and before this happened I said a prayer to God to control my emotions so I do not feel extremity when I meet people and to protect me from the pain of rejection. Learning to trust God is the main thing. I was a secularist and a doubter and my lack of confidence in God was the reason my heart break was so painful cause it took 6 years after I became a Christian for me to stop doubting God’s existence.

[Asker]

God may or may not existence, and this has no place here

[Anonymous]

You know what they say, time heals every wound. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years and it felt like hell for the first 6 months, I felt very vulnerable and like I lost someone important to me. I was basically mourning our relationship and its potential, I had a lot of regrets and what ifs. I basically went over all of the stages of grief. Eventually I accepted the loss and instead of grieving, I felt grateful that I’ve managed to share my heart and life with someone who cares about me for the past 6 years. I learned a lot and I’ve become a better person thanks to him, now I’m ready to move on and meet someone new to start a new journey.

[Asker]

What happened?

[Opinion Owner]

We grew up and turns out we wanted different things. We tried doing the long distance thing but it wasn’t really working out, we also realized that we were holding each other back from truly going after what we want so we mutually decided to end it. No regrets, I still want the best for him and vice versa. We couldn’t properly stay as friends tho bc we’re both dating someone new now

[Asker]

Ah, yeah, exs can't be friends, everyone knows that

[Anonymous]

I just focused on moving forward, but also giving myself some time.