What was your worst heartbreak? how did you get over it?

who ended things? do you have regrets? what was the reason? have you moved on / how did you move on & how long did it take? What was your worst heartbreak? how did you get over it?

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  • My high school sweetheart. Her family loved me. Her mother so much so she wanted me to carry her casket when she died - she had a terminal blood disease.
    That little bitch dumped me the afternoon of the funeral. She was going back to her abusive boyfriend. About the only time in my life I have cried - the other was when my sister, and when my dad died.

    Funny, about ten years later I happened to be up in our old stomping grounds and ran into her. Two lovely daughters, divorced 'from that asshole'. LOL She still looked good, but gee, I was working on marriage #2 and it was far better than anything previous.

    If you really loved someone you never get over them. You simply create new connections, have new loves, life goes on. You cannot go back in time and change things - it is what it is. :)

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  • It was a relationship that ended my senior year of college. we had planned on spending a year in thailand and i was prepared to propose to her.
    I ended things
    no regrets
    she cheated on me
    I moved on. it took a while. probably a few months til i wasn't actively angry, heartbroken, upset, etc and a few years until i felt like I was truly ready to date again with an open heart

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  • My fiancé left me at the altar because he decided that my mental illness (which I was not hiding and was in treatment for) was a dealbreaker.

    It’s fine. He was quite controlling.

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    • i'm really sorry to hear that, and i'm sure you're tired of people offering sympathy, but you deserve someone who loves all of you and never finds you a burden. who will work with you, never against you. i'm proud of you for being in treatment, very brave wanting to treat yourself. all my love

    • Honestly, I'm glad that he did now. It would be worse for us to have gotten married and had children and then leave me, you know? There was a lot less at stake this way.

    • i agree, the father of your child should be a role model, someone who would support their kids if they were in the same position as you, not push them away and leave when things get hard

  • When my son's dad got put in prison. It wasn't so much the fact that he went to prison, ( he's out now -he got a year, he served six months) it was the fact that doing what he did meant me having him to cut him out of our lives.
    I was so in love with him. It was instant with us, we were inseparable. When we had my little boy, we wanted him. We planned him. We wanted to be a family... and then he went and did that.
    I didn't want to leave him, I didn't want to say to him that I didn't want him seeing my son, because I knew that, despite everything else, he adored him. I didn't really want my son without his dad, because although I do my best, I can never be both parents, and I worried about what that would do to him.
    I was angry at my ex for letting my son down, but I felt like I was doing the same thing, yet, at the same time, I felt like I'd rather do it like that than let him have a dad who lets him down over and over again, which was so much worse in my mind.
    Actually having that conversation with my ex and seeing the look on his face, and the way he reacted was awful. I was in love with him and I wasn't doing any of it to hurt him. I felt like the worst person in the world. I felt like I'd let him down by not standing by him.

    I got over it by just accepting it, by not letting myself change my mind and reminding myself why things have to be this way.
    I knew I was on my own, and I was & am determined to be the best person, the best parent I can be for my son. You never stop striving for that, you always think you can do better and that's what keeps me going.
    We are actually waiting for a court date ( my ex's decision) but I'll tell the court, and I'll keep telling them why he isn't a good influence. My ex can't control his temper and he's selfish, he'll be back inside before long, and if I let my child get caught up in that, that's worse than what I'm having to do now.
    I hate this situation, I hate everything about it, but it's just how it has to be.

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  • I met this girl in theatre in college. It was my senior and her freshman year. We became close friends quickly; not just the two of us but also my roommates and her roommates. After being friends for about a month or so we started dating.
    We went out for almost fifteen months. I graduated college within that time and I moved back home, so our relationship became long-distance and we went from seeing each other daily to seeing each other only monthly. We Skyped often.
    Then my friend (former roommate who also graduated) asked me to be in a play for a community theatre group he was in, and I accepted. So during tech week, as to not overstay my welcome, I alternated between staying with him and staying with my girlfriend because she was faily close to there too.
    Then it was closing day of said play. She came to watch me perform. I went to greet her after the show and she eventually rushed home after refusing to go to dinner with me once more before my trip home. So I instead went to dinner with the rest of the cast.
    When I finally did get home that night, she broke up with me over Skype.
    She claimed "we had nothing in common," which simply isn't true. If it was, we wouldn't have lasted nearly as long as we did. She also said that I was seeming less interested in her, which I did not see in myself. Even that last day, I expressed an interest to spend time with just her after my play, and I told her I loved her every chance I had (and I meant it each and every time).
    I think she may have lied about her reasons for breaking up. I think it's more so that she noticed I've been far less happy in general since graduation.
    Admittedly I have become quite miserable. I hate to say this, but can you blame me? I now live far from my closest friends including my girlfriend at the time, I struggled heavily to find work in my field and put up with minimum wage, I was back at home with my single mother and two brothers in a house that's falling apart, and I lost my grandfather.
    She and I have been broken up for almost 18 months now. I tried remaining friends with her, but I eventually stopped talking to her entirely. She doesn't do theatre anymore even and her now former roommates stopped talking to her, but they still talk to me.
    I'd like to think that that says a lot about her.
    But despite all that, I'm still not sure I'm entirely over her. Admittedly I do still miss her at times.
    But I accept that by now we've both changed in ways that make us no longer compatible.

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    • At the end of the year in which she broke up with me, I quit my minimum wage job and then lost my other grandfather as well as a once removed cousin, both from the same side of the family and only two days apart.
      I've been struggling to keep up with debt since I quit the job.
      But then I got another job. I still hated it but it had much more reasonanle pay.
      But even that job didn't last long because only a month later I started, I finally got a steady job in my field! And I even had a promising interview for another good job. I've been catching up on my debt and I managed to find time for a side hustle I wanted to pursue.
      So even though I struggled for a time, the struggle has paid off.
      I've am still, and have been, single since that last break-up, but I'm hopeful about finding a new sweetheart, just hopefully one that will stay by my side, support me, and not give up on me when times get tough on me.

  • My fiance broke to me that she was cheating by telling me she was pregnant with another mans child and she was leaving. I got over it by drinking listening to music and disappearing. I dropped off social media, left my phone, and retreated for awhile to a tent.

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  • I dated a girl for 3 years and everything seemed perfect then one morning she called me and said “i woke up this morning and i didn't love you anymore. we need to break up”
    Legit just like that... im over it now but i had trust issues for a long long time (like didn't seriously date anyone for 10 years) but now i met a girl whos amazing and makes me happier than ever
    It just takes time to get over those things and sometimes there are traces that never go away

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    • So u were 16 then?

    • Younger
      People play it off like “oh you were just a kid blah blah blah” but honestly i think it effected my mental development
      As fucked as the sounds
      Legit i purposely fuck up relationships when i think they get too serious (1-3 months) this is the real relationship I've been in

    • Of course, no matter how old u felt the pain and even though u are grown the emotions behind the memory of it is not very different

  • I dated a girl in eleventh grade with all the innocent passion 17 year olds think they are the sole owners of. I had to move to a new school my senior year but we decided to stay together and pick up where we left off when we got to college. it started off fine, but soon every conversation would devolve into snipping and snapping at one another. she almost broke it off with me on more than one occasion, but I talked her out of it and ended up taking her to prom that year. it was wonderful. all my old friends and teachers said how great it was to see us together. summer came and went and we met back at college and then...

    she told me she found someone else. a 24 year old guy who ran a computer repair business. she then detailed precisely how inadequate she found me as a boyfriend. I was devastated. I didn't date again for nearly the rest of my days at college, I was so afraid of being hurt again.

    here's my advice: if you move, just break it off clean. it'll sting, sure, but otherwise it's like trying to keep your sick old dog alive.

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  • I was 19. I loved that girl, she said she loved me back. It was a LDR, she didn't live that far but still not close. Stupid, I know. It lasted 9 months.
    One day, she told me she wanted me to come. She didn't have to tell me twice, I didn't have the money, so I worked my ass off, did night shift in a factory, got the money, bought the train ticket and even a gold necklace as a gift. And then I went there.

    I arrive at the station. No one there, she wasn't here. I tried to call her, no answer. Things aren't going well and I start panicking. It's late, 9pm, we're in January, it's freezing outsite so I stay inside the station, and try to call her a few more times, to no avail. 11pm, the station close, I have to leave. No money for a hotel room or food. And since my train ticket back to home can't be used before 3 days... Well i'm basically homeless.
    I spend 3 days alone, outside, without food, trying to call her unsuccessfully many times, breaking down a bit more every time she doesn't answer.
    The last day finally comes and I take my train back home. I've never felt so bad in my entire life and I'm totally lost. Once I finally arrive home, I start my PC. A minute after I go online, she talk to me on an instant messenger. She explains me, without a bit of shame, that she met an ex the day before I come, they went out, and then they come back to her home, and fucked. And that's what they basically did for 3 days. While I was freezing outside, she was getting fucked by her ex, wasn't ashamed of it, and even told me it was amazing.

    That's when my heart broke. Took me several month to finally feel better.

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  • I was forced by my parents to end things. She was the best girl id ever met (and probably, will be the best I've known for a long time) But my parentd didn't like me in a relationship. Like wtf does me being taken have to do with them? But being Asian you NEVER disobey your parents...

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    • it took me a whole year to patch up.

    • Sorry to hear that, must’ve been hard.

      It happens with Asian families. My grandma once told me a story of two people she knew when she was young and how after the male told his family of his love for a local girl and wanted to marry her, his mother resolutely hated it. It got so bad the guy actually left his family and disappeared. His mother throughout her whole life never ever got to see him ever again.

  • My fiancee dying in a road traffic accident 9 years ago. Never 'get over it' but came to terms, strengthened & rebuilt my soul & now can cope with anything. Nuclear war? No problem!. Anyone here feeling depressed? Never give up. Believe me, battle & fight & beat that depression because it makes you more resilient & stronger in the future. All part of the game of Life.

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  • The other one broke up. of course I have regrets, primarily I was a loner before hand and she was the first person I was close with, I didn't mean to be but it happened, had it never happened I never would have felt alone because I'd never know the alternative.

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  • With my ex-wife I ended it only regret is didn't end it sooner she was constantly cheating definitely moved on took about 6 months but was it 10 year relationship off and on my most recent an actual worst heartbreak she ended it only regret is I have no closure don't know the reason trying to move on was with her for a year it's now been 3 months

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  • At 23, I realised that getting in a relationship with a girl I actually love, one that I have affection for, is highly unlikely. So instead, I decided to gain experience wherever I can, with whomever I can. Maybe it will come in handy some day. I haven't looked back since.

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  • I ended a relationship for reasons I don't really want to say. I moved on for the most part, but I occasionally think back on that experience and learning from it. It took a short time to "get over it" by accepting the facts, but it's not completely gone.

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  • My wife died, trying to carry our child to term. And no, I didn't get over it; I simply survived.

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  • My worst one we were dating for nearly 3 months then out of the blue said we weren't compatible and broke my heart ik that's not very long but I truly thought I loved her she was actually the first person of many I cried when left my life I don't know if I ever fully got over it tbh just had so much else going on didn't think about it much

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  • Was with her for two years, knew her since high school. I regret not being able to keep things together. My father and I started a business so I was gone 16 hours of the day. Kept getting yelled at and treated like shit because I wasn't around as much. Asked her to take a break and move into her parents for a little but and it just went downhill from there. I think I am over her though. Not entirely sure. I miss her for sure, but it doesn't really bother me anymore.

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  • This girl I fell in love with over the internet and I were kind of e-dating (yes, I didn't know any better at the time. I'm stupid.) And a few months after we met, she straight up tells me she had had a boyfriend the whole time and she just had me as a backup. Way to shatter my confidence. Was depressed for at least 4 months-ish. I just felt like I was only good as a side and that I couldn't trust the people I love.

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  • Got out of a bad relationship.. started dating this wonderful girl reluctantly who actually got me to start trusting again, and felt like all woman weren't the same. Fast forward 4 years, I proposed to her. She said yes. Month later I found out she had been cheating on my with her "best friend" for almost a year... been broken up almost a year now, it still hurts. I don't think it ever will stop.

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  • She ended things, the reason behind it is still a mystery. She just said it was over. A week later she was with my "best friend". I still haven't really moved on, just learned to accept the reality

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  • When I was with a woman and she said she liked me a lot but she went back to her ex because apparently she still had feelings for her while we were dating...

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  • Caught the love of my life cheating. I set her up in a coke bust, She went to prison for 5 years. And I beat the guy's ass, Put him in the hospital for a month. That's how I dealt with heartbreak.

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    • Sorry to hear that, must’ve been hard.

      It happens with Asian families. My grandma once told me a story of two people she knew when she was young and how after the male told his family of his love for a local girl and wanted to marry her, his mother resolutely hated it. It got so bad the guy actually left his family and disappeared. His mother throughout her whole life never ever got to see him ever again.

    • Sorry wrong post lol

  • I caught my girlfriend talking to a dush bag named emre... and she is cheated on me well I think so but she said he was just her friend thats all... I CAN'T get over it like it happened 3days ago

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  • It was an abusive relationship i was in and like every over optimistic person i too believed that everything would be fine one day. He used to cheat on me. I forgave him n no of times till one day when i actually realised that he is draining every single happiness out of me n i left. Its been more than 1 year now. I do miss him sometimes but i dont love him now. I do have trust issues that's why, have decided to stay single.

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    • I'm sorry you had to go through that, but good thing you got out of there when you did.
      Hopefully someday you find somebody much better than that piece of trash.

  • Guy I dated four years ago. I ended it. I did it so he wouldn’t get hurt.

    I haven’t really moved on. I’ve dated other people, but I still love him. He is the only man I’ve ever wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

    We are still in each others lives.

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    • That's why you can't move on. You have him as a constant reminder. After my ex and I broke up, I couldn't move until I cut him out of my life, yes I do miss him but I realize that my emotional and mental health is more important than my love for anyone.

  • Me and my ex had something special. It was being a loving and supporting couple without friendship. After 4 years we broke up. He couldn't take my jalousy of his ingame myteodea flirt/ soon to be wife and I needed a friend. We still loved each other, but had no future in any way. Letting someone you love leave your life is hard.

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  • He did. Yes not screaming and yelling at him , just walking away. I caught him on another date. At 21 I cried for 3 days then my real best friends took me out to a pool party and I forgot all about him when Inseen this one fuy. I chased him all night. I got other numbers for dates the next weekend and I got the guy I jumped in the pool after😝!

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  • I think it was when I was 8 and I fell in love with a guy who didn't like me back. It really hurt me and I got over it by forgetting all the reasons I loved him one day and realizing that he was deeply flawed.

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  • When i found out that my ex was cheating on me with his best friend since we started dating. I broke up with him and i decided to forget about him and move on. It took me a year to move on but i finally did it and I'm crushing on another guy now. My ex regret it every day and he tried many times to get back with me be he can only dream about that.

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  • My ex broke up with me because he wanted to "focus on himself". It wasn't easy because it was a surprise and I thought our relationship was great. I got over it by surrounding myself with friends and trying to keep busy.

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  • I ended thing with my ex girlfriend I got tired of being accused of cheating no matter what I did. I loved her put up with her kids all she did is accused me I told her i didn’t wanna be with her. I went hang out with my friends and drink.

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  • Well, I am still not over, me and this guy meet around 5 years ago, he always had a crush on me and I kinda did as well but because his best friend (he also had a crush on me) we never did anything. One day they got into a very bad fight and because of that he started talking to me, we got along extremely well, little time later we started dating, we didn't told anyone because we didn't want to his friend to find out. He was extremely depressed and committed suicide a year ago (next week will be a year), I was the last person he talked to and said everything was fine. I do not know how to move on, specially because no one knew we were together, people didn't even knew we talked, and here I am, a year later and still crying almost every day because of it.

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    • Oh my god I’m sorry to hear

    • Hey. Try to forget past. It's not your mistake.
      You have to live a good life ahead. Forget things happened in past and move ahead in life. Don't spoil your life like this.
      Best luck.

  • When my ex and I broke up. I just let time heal me. Sometimes when I think about it, it still hurts but nothing as much as when it first happened.

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  • When I see my boyfriend ignoring me in front of other girls, the girls that I will get jealous if he talk with them.

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    • So why do u remain his girlfriend when he disrespects u like that?

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    • 14yrs old is but a child. Are u sure he was avoiding u tho? If yes, what makes u think it wasn't intentional?

    • I'll wait... but if he got cheating on me the next second he will not be in my life... but I trust him...

  • I was talking to this boy back in April and he seemed really nice but I knew his past. He had cheated and been with many girls. I have been with other guys in the past but he felt genuine. I ended things because he cheated. For some reason a week or two after I felt so lonely and wanted to get back with him. I did anything I could to get over him but then I realized I didn’t miss him. I miss the relationship with someone. He was a jerk and you have to realized that you did break up for a reason but first identity if you miss him or a relationship with someone.

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  • I tend to get over people as soon as I meet someone else

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  • It was a new school year and I was just going into the 9th grade and there was this boy I liked his name was Zachary Smith and he was dating. My best friend but a couple days later I was going to my bus and he asked me if I wanted to be with him I said sure and we went on the bus he tried to touch enough in a dirty way at first I didn't care since we were dating. But then my best friend texted me and said Zach hurt me earlier in a dirty way don't sit next to him kicked Zach in the dick and said we are through in not gonna be with u if ur gonna hurt the people I love the most it took. Little while to get over him but now I'm looking for someone to be with i know I can trust and love

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  • I've had more than one.

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  • I did. My regret is only loving him

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  • It took me around a year

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  • My boyfriend of a year told me last week that he never loved me. So I'm pretty heart broken rn still not over it

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