When my son's dad got put in prison. It wasn't so much the fact that he went to prison, ( he's out now -he got a year, he served six months) it was the fact that doing what he did meant me having him to cut him out of our lives. I was so in love with him. It was instant with us, we were inseparable. When we had my little boy, we wanted him. We planned him. We wanted to be a family... and then he went and did that. I didn't want to leave him, I didn't want to say to him that I didn't want him seeing my son, because I knew that, despite everything else, he adored him. I didn't really want my son without his dad, because although I do my best, I can never be both parents, and I worried about what that would do to him. I was angry at my ex for letting my son down, but I felt like I was doing the same thing, yet, at the same time, I felt like I'd rather do it like that than let him have a dad who lets him down over and over again, which was so much worse in my mind. Actually having that conversation with my ex and seeing the look on his face, and the way he reacted was awful. I was in love with him and I wasn't doing any of it to hurt him. I felt like the worst person in the world. I felt like I'd let him down by not standing by him.
I got over it by just accepting it, by not letting myself change my mind and reminding myself why things have to be this way. I knew I was on my own, and I was & am determined to be the best person, the best parent I can be for my son. You never stop striving for that, you always think you can do better and that's what keeps me going. We are actually waiting for a court date ( my ex's decision) but I'll tell the court, and I'll keep telling them why he isn't a good influence. My ex can't control his temper and he's selfish, he'll be back inside before long, and if I let my child get caught up in that, that's worse than what I'm having to do now. I hate this situation, I hate everything about it, but it's just how it has to be.
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My fiancé left me at the altar because he decided that my mental illness (which I was not hiding and was in treatment for) was a dealbreaker.
i'm really sorry to hear that, and i'm sure you're tired of people offering sympathy, but you deserve someone who loves all of you and never finds you a burden. who will work with you, never against you. i'm proud of you for being in treatment, very brave wanting to treat yourself. all my love
Honestly, I'm glad that he did now. It would be worse for us to have gotten married and had children and then leave me, you know? There was a lot less at stake this way.
i agree, the father of your child should be a role model, someone who would support their kids if they were in the same position as you, not push them away and leave when things get hard
My high school sweetheart. Her family loved me. Her mother so much so she wanted me to carry her casket when she died - she had a terminal blood disease. That little bitch dumped me the afternoon of the funeral. She was going back to her abusive boyfriend. About the only time in my life I have cried - the other was when my sister, and when my dad died.
Funny, about ten years later I happened to be up in our old stomping grounds and ran into her. Two lovely daughters, divorced 'from that asshole'. LOL She still looked good, but gee, I was working on marriage #2 and it was far better than anything previous.
If you really loved someone you never get over them. You simply create new connections, have new loves, life goes on. You cannot go back in time and change things - it is what it is. :)
It was a relationship that ended my senior year of college. we had planned on spending a year in thailand and i was prepared to propose to her. I ended things no regrets she cheated on me I moved on. it took a while. probably a few months til i wasn't actively angry, heartbroken, upset, etc and a few years until i felt like I was truly ready to date again with an open heart
I think it was when I was 8 and I fell in love with a guy who didn't like me back. It really hurt me and I got over it by forgetting all the reasons I loved him one day and realizing that he was deeply flawed.
I met this girl in theatre in college. It was my senior and her freshman year. We became close friends quickly; not just the two of us but also my roommates and her roommates. After being friends for about a month or so we started dating. We went out for almost fifteen months. I graduated college within that time and I moved back home, so our relationship became long-distance and we went from seeing each other daily to seeing each other only monthly. We Skyped often. Then my friend (former roommate who also graduated) asked me to be in a play for a community theatre group he was in, and I accepted. So during tech week, as to not overstay my welcome, I alternated between staying with him and staying with my girlfriend because she was faily close to there too. Then it was closing day of said play. She came to watch me perform. I went to greet her after the show and she eventually rushed home after refusing to go to dinner with me once more before my trip home. So I instead went to dinner with the rest of the cast. When I finally did get home that night, she broke up with me over Skype. She claimed "we had nothing in common," which simply isn't true. If it was, we wouldn't have lasted nearly as long as we did. She also said that I was seeming less interested in her, which I did not see in myself. Even that last day, I expressed an interest to spend time with just her after my play, and I told her I loved her every chance I had (and I meant it each and every time). I think she may have lied about her reasons for breaking up. I think it's more so that she noticed I've been far less happy in general since graduation. Admittedly I have become quite miserable. I hate to say this, but can you blame me? I now live far from my closest friends including my girlfriend at the time, I struggled heavily to find work in my field and put up with minimum wage, I was back at home with my single mother and two brothers in a house that's falling apart, and I lost my grandfather. She and I have been broken up for almost 18 months now. I tried remaining friends with her, but I eventually stopped talking to her entirely. She doesn't do theatre anymore even and her now former roommates stopped talking to her, but they still talk to me. I'd like to think that that says a lot about her. But despite all that, I'm still not sure I'm entirely over her. Admittedly I do still miss her at times. But I accept that by now we've both changed in ways that make us no longer compatible.
At the end of the year in which she broke up with me, I quit my minimum wage job and then lost my other grandfather as well as a once removed cousin, both from the same side of the family and only two days apart. I've been struggling to keep up with debt since I quit the job. But then I got another job. I still hated it but it had much more reasonanle pay. But even that job didn't last long because only a month later I started, I finally got a steady job in my field! And I even had a promising interview for another good job. I've been catching up on my debt and I managed to find time for a side hustle I wanted to pursue. So even though I struggled for a time, the struggle has paid off. I've am still, and have been, single since that last break-up, but I'm hopeful about finding a new sweetheart, just hopefully one that will stay by my side, support me, and not give up on me when times get tough on me.
My ex ghosted me in real life after two years of a great relationship. Gave no reason. Just stopped interacting with me totally. It took me a couple months to get over that. Mostly...
Then she came back. But she just used me for sex. But I never even knew it was her. To be completely honest I never even knew it was happening. She did some pretty messed up stuff while I was drugged out. I only found out because my relative saw her in my house one night and called the police. She's in an asylum now. This went on for a few weeks before that.
I haven't been back to my house yet. And I haven't gotten over it. I do regret being so blind when we were together. She was so controlling and manipulative. And I should have known she was only using me then. But she was so... perfect. She was perfect. And I can't get over how she was when we dated. Now she's insane and I can't get over her still. She was perfect. I loved her. And I can't let her go..
She said she loved me when they arrested her. And I know she's lying. But I couldn't move on... I'm starting to now. But it is still so recent I can barely see past her. And I'm not sure I'll even get over her. Or get over what she turned into.
I just wished the only girl who had in my life actually loved me like that hadn't turned out to be so... evil?
I was 19. I loved that girl, she said she loved me back. It was a LDR, she didn't live that far but still not close. Stupid, I know. It lasted 9 months. One day, she told me she wanted me to come. She didn't have to tell me twice, I didn't have the money, so I worked my ass off, did night shift in a factory, got the money, bought the train ticket and even a gold necklace as a gift. And then I went there.
I arrive at the station. No one there, she wasn't here. I tried to call her, no answer. Things aren't going well and I start panicking. It's late, 9pm, we're in January, it's freezing outsite so I stay inside the station, and try to call her a few more times, to no avail. 11pm, the station close, I have to leave. No money for a hotel room or food. And since my train ticket back to home can't be used before 3 days... Well i'm basically homeless. I spend 3 days alone, outside, without food, trying to call her unsuccessfully many times, breaking down a bit more every time she doesn't answer. The last day finally comes and I take my train back home. I've never felt so bad in my entire life and I'm totally lost. Once I finally arrive home, I start my PC. A minute after I go online, she talk to me on an instant messenger. She explains me, without a bit of shame, that she met an ex the day before I come, they went out, and then they come back to her home, and fucked. And that's what they basically did for 3 days. While I was freezing outside, she was getting fucked by her ex, wasn't ashamed of it, and even told me it was amazing.
That's when my heart broke. Took me several month to finally feel better.
I dated a girl in eleventh grade with all the innocent passion 17 year olds think they are the sole owners of. I had to move to a new school my senior year but we decided to stay together and pick up where we left off when we got to college. it started off fine, but soon every conversation would devolve into snipping and snapping at one another. she almost broke it off with me on more than one occasion, but I talked her out of it and ended up taking her to prom that year. it was wonderful. all my old friends and teachers said how great it was to see us together. summer came and went and we met back at college and then...
she told me she found someone else. a 24 year old guy who ran a computer repair business. she then detailed precisely how inadequate she found me as a boyfriend. I was devastated. I didn't date again for nearly the rest of my days at college, I was so afraid of being hurt again.
here's my advice: if you move, just break it off clean. it'll sting, sure, but otherwise it's like trying to keep your sick old dog alive.
Well, I am still not over, me and this guy meet around 5 years ago, he always had a crush on me and I kinda did as well but because his best friend (he also had a crush on me) we never did anything. One day they got into a very bad fight and because of that he started talking to me, we got along extremely well, little time later we started dating, we didn't told anyone because we didn't want to his friend to find out. He was extremely depressed and committed suicide a year ago (next week will be a year), I was the last person he talked to and said everything was fine. I do not know how to move on, specially because no one knew we were together, people didn't even knew we talked, and here I am, a year later and still crying almost every day because of it.
Hey. Try to forget past. It's not your mistake. You have to live a good life ahead. Forget things happened in past and move ahead in life. Don't spoil your life like this. Best luck.
The hardest heartbreak was my engagement to a girl I was with for almost 4 years.
She ended it because I kept pressuring her to tell her family about our relationship (her dad was racist and she was Spanish).
I don’t always regret it exactly but I do wonder if I kept my mouth shut I would still be with her but that broken heart taught me values and appreciation for friends/family and made me a better lover.
I did move on and took a lot of mistakes, partying, doing stupid shit, getting into bad situations, drinking and barely sober. But I learned I had to get the emotions out of my system by embracing it and crying till my heart learned to be happy again.
It took almost two years but I learned to find inner peace and even a new found purpose in life. She even popped back up in my life months ago and I let her in as long as she didn’t cause drama. She did and I removed her, I regret that
Kind of but I was with someone at the time so I turned her down, besides , even if I was single I would of said no because she wasn’t the same person anymore.
She was this free spirited full of positivity and optimism which inspired me to be who I am today, now she’s very cold and pessimistic
I had a girlfriend who cheated multiple times with a lot of people. But luckily, it wasn't a long relationship, and I think it was timing as well that just didn't make it has hurtful as it could have been, I suppose.
Who broke up with who: I wrote a break up note, I was done with her, but she officially beat me to it by calling me before getting the note (supposedly). At that point, it was mutual.
Do I have regrets? Not really. Few small ones, but overall, no. I was a great boyfriend. I didn't get too too invested in such a short lived relationship. I was fairly happy on how mature I was on dealing with her and not letting the emotions rule me or "make my decisions for me."
I'm over her, but not necessarily what she did. It might affect how I deal with other relationships, but who knows?
Biggest heartbreaks were probably high school. Usually not related to a girlfriend or actual breakup.
I was talking to this boy back in April and he seemed really nice but I knew his past. He had cheated and been with many girls. I have been with other guys in the past but he felt genuine. I ended things because he cheated. For some reason a week or two after I felt so lonely and wanted to get back with him. I did anything I could to get over him but then I realized I didn’t miss him. I miss the relationship with someone. He was a jerk and you have to realized that you did break up for a reason but first identity if you miss him or a relationship with someone.
I dated a girl for 3 years and everything seemed perfect then one morning she called me and said “i woke up this morning and i didn't love you anymore. we need to break up” Legit just like that... im over it now but i had trust issues for a long long time (like didn't seriously date anyone for 10 years) but now i met a girl whos amazing and makes me happier than ever It just takes time to get over those things and sometimes there are traces that never go away
Younger People play it off like “oh you were just a kid blah blah blah” but honestly i think it effected my mental development As fucked as the sounds Legit i purposely fuck up relationships when i think they get too serious (1-3 months) this is the real relationship I've been in
My last and only relationship last 6 years, we started "dating" (we were too young and we didn't know what to do) when we were 12 years old. I started to talk with her when she entered to my primary school but we started to be in love as we started middle/secondary school (usually from ages 13 to 18). As a young couple we started to explore more of ourselves, we discovered new things that we like and we helped each other on every problem we had (I practically lived in her house on the week). But as we keep growing we started to be distant. When I met her she had a lot of family problems and no friends, now I'm really happy because I could help her on getting more friends and finding a vocation (she is really into all kinds of arts). We just broke up because we felt it was a finished stage of our lives.
That's why you can't move on. You have him as a constant reminder. After my ex and I broke up, I couldn't move until I cut him out of my life, yes I do miss him but I realize that my emotional and mental health is more important than my love for anyone.
My fiance broke to me that she was cheating by telling me she was pregnant with another mans child and she was leaving. I got over it by drinking listening to music and disappearing. I dropped off social media, left my phone, and retreated for awhile to a tent.
It was a new school year and I was just going into the 9th grade and there was this boy I liked his name was Zachary Smith and he was dating. My best friend but a couple days later I was going to my bus and he asked me if I wanted to be with him I said sure and we went on the bus he tried to touch enough in a dirty way at first I didn't care since we were dating. But then my best friend texted me and said Zach hurt me earlier in a dirty way don't sit next to him kicked Zach in the dick and said we are through in not gonna be with u if ur gonna hurt the people I love the most it took. Little while to get over him but now I'm looking for someone to be with i know I can trust and love
He did. Yes not screaming and yelling at him , just walking away. I caught him on another date. At 21 I cried for 3 days then my real best friends took me out to a pool party and I forgot all about him when Inseen this one fuy. I chased him all night. I got other numbers for dates the next weekend and I got the guy I jumped in the pool after😝!
It was an abusive relationship i was in and like every over optimistic person i too believed that everything would be fine one day. He used to cheat on me. I forgave him n no of times till one day when i actually realised that he is draining every single happiness out of me n i left. Its been more than 1 year now. I do miss him sometimes but i dont love him now. I do have trust issues that's why, have decided to stay single.
I'm sorry you had to go through that, but good thing you got out of there when you did. Hopefully someday you find somebody much better than that piece of trash.
Me and my ex had something special. It was being a loving and supporting couple without friendship. After 4 years we broke up. He couldn't take my jalousy of his ingame myteodea flirt/ soon to be wife and I needed a friend. We still loved each other, but had no future in any way. Letting someone you love leave your life is hard.
When i found out that my ex was cheating on me with his best friend since we started dating. I broke up with him and i decided to forget about him and move on. It took me a year to move on but i finally did it and I'm crushing on another guy now. My ex regret it every day and he tried many times to get back with me be he can only dream about that.
I was forced by my parents to end things. She was the best girl id ever met (and probably, will be the best I've known for a long time) But my parentd didn't like me in a relationship. Like wtf does me being taken have to do with them? But being Asian you NEVER disobey your parents...
It happens with Asian families. My grandma once told me a story of two people she knew when she was young and how after the male told his family of his love for a local girl and wanted to marry her, his mother resolutely hated it. It got so bad the guy actually left his family and disappeared. His mother throughout her whole life never ever got to see him ever again.
My fiancee dying in a road traffic accident 9 years ago. Never 'get over it' but came to terms, strengthened & rebuilt my soul & now can cope with anything. Nuclear war? No problem!. Anyone here feeling depressed? Never give up. Believe me, battle & fight & beat that depression because it makes you more resilient & stronger in the future. All part of the game of Life.
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