Heartbreak Anniversary. What was your worst heartbreak and when was it?
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My worst heartbreak began on Sunday 12 JAN 1992.
It is still going on.
However, 30 years ago at this time, there was something of a hopeful détente in which my exGF was friendly with me again, albeit we were living 3000 miles apart. She came and visited me for 12 days 30 years ago next week. Then, in August, I visited her; it would have been the 3rd anniversary of us becoming a couple. After that, she got cold and I have not seen here since. I have not had 2-way communication with her since 1997.
I am still devastated. We each married other people, but she is happily married to her friend with whom she became a couple right after I visited her in 1993. I am not so happily married.
I am confused as to why all this had to occur. She was the girl I was supposed to marry and I knew that less than 2 months of being in a couple with her.
I knew I had to move on so, in late 1995, I got into a short LDR rebound relationship that failed.
I met my wife in 1999.
However, with both women, I made sure they could not have any more kids.
I did not want children because my exGF was supposed to be the mother of any kids I might have.
I could not accept the possibility of looking at a child of mine and secretly wishing that my life would have been different and thus that child would not have existed.
So, at 60, I have no children although I have adult step-children and even adult step-grandchildren, but our relationships are essentially non-existent because my wife and her sons are somewhat estranged and she has no interest in actually being a grandmother - she's too focused on her desires.
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When I was 19... we met at a neat, secluded club... called. The Sands'... the band and the band member I STILL remember...she was 22... and we danced and danced and danced. The liked my dancing, and I was mesmerized by her. I was not experienced, and never tried to 'feel her up' and she later told me that I should "go as far as you want, until you realize what you are doing is completely wrong" I realized I was out of my depth with her, and it broke my heart. She dropped me, for another man that had his own business... and it left me a basket case.
I went to our church and talked to a ministers assistant for a long time and it helped, but I never forgot her or what we might have had...
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My fiancé cheated and left me for her ex 3 days before we were supposed to start our lives together. It was the week of Christmas and I had to cancel all our plans and tell my family. He immediately went back to abusing her, she started laying a foundation to leave him and come back to me (I was honestly vulnerable enough to say yes), she found out she was pregnant with his kid, she decided to treat me like crap to drive me away.
My heart hurt so bad that 10 days later I called my doctor (I had collapsed at work) and after a long questionnaire, he told me to call an ambulance because I had almost every possible symptom of a heart attack. At the emergency room they gave me 2 sedatives and I sat alone for 5 hours waiting for test results. My resting heart rate never went below 140 bpm and usually stayed between 150-165.They determined a heart attack was unlikely.
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Relationally, none. In life in general, my dad's unexpected death.
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Multiple. The day I confirmed that she canceled domestic partner agreement.
2019
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Easy peasy. My divorce 20 years ago.
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Back in April. 😥
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Why to remember such nasty stuff?
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When my dog died 🙁
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