I won't convert for him?

[Anonymous]

I was dating a guy for 6 months and he knew I was a Christian when we were dating. I had known the guy for 6 years before dating him. We had an amazing valentines day but 11 days after he dumped me because I wouldn't convert to catholicism for him. I love him and want to be with him but giving up my Christianity isn't an option. I later found out it's his mom who disapproves of the difference. He broke up with me only to ask for another chance 2 weeks later since then he has left me questioning what is going on. We still text and he claims to unconditionally love me and miss me but no actions have been made. I am lost as to if it's reasonable to ask him to defy his mom and choose me. I am tired of trying to sell him on the idea of us working. Is it even possible that a relationship could work if he has to defy his mom's wishes?

Updates

+1 y

I do think Catholics are Christians it's his family that doesn't. I am a firm believer that as long as you have similar underlying values it can work.

[CountessSarah]

Minor correction - catholics are christians, just a different denomination. That aside -

You need to tell him that it's impossible to convert just for the sake of a relationship. You would need to be convinced Catholicism was true, it's impossible to just change a sincerely held belief purely out of convenience. It doesn't work that way.

I would add that if he needs his mum's approval for such a petty difference like this now, he's /always/ going to be at her command. Your entire life with him will be full of similar bullshit. Tell him to grow a spine. It this his relationship or his mother's?

[Asker]

i agree that catholics are christians it's his family that doesn't agree. Thanks for the help

[Guy13]

It is not your job to save this lost Soul. The Mind and Body does as one’s Soul instructs. Pray 🙏 for him. Be there for him. Do all these thing In and Through Christ Jesus. Walk with and talk to the Spirit. This is the world we reside in. Have your Mind and Soul in unison in all of your moving…Continuous Prayer.

[Iron_Man]

They are all Christians just go to your own church you’ll have to separate on Sundays

[Asker]

thanks i am going to suggest this

[Iron_Man]

Nice I am also a Baptist Christian

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for most helpful Award 😊

[jshm2]

Nah, it's nothing to do with "converting" you were just not able to fit into his family dynamic is all.

[whereismyjohnny]

Catholics are Christians.

[whereismyjohnny]

Also, don’t make him choose. He shouldn’t listen to his mother in the first place when it comes to dating and also religion should stop you from dating. You just need to respect each other, without forcing your religions on each other and it will be fine.

[Asker]

that was my answer but according to his family they are not

[whereismyjohnny]

shouldn’t stop**

[Asker]

thanks for the help!

[Avicenna]

You can ask, but don’t expect him to say yes