How to deal with break up?

[Anonymous]

I just broke up with my girlfriend and bad and sometimes when the memories with her flashes in mind i feel like hell. What should i do?

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Thanks guys these opinions will help me a lot 😊

[sonic_fever]

Man I’m probably not the best to give out advice on this because I’m literally going through my second break up with my ex. We broke up the first time a year ago and in between that time I got back on my grind. I hit the gym, started therapy, got back into drawing and just worked a lot more hours at my day job. It helped but here’s what you shouldn’t do that I really regret. For one, don’t keep her location on your phone if you were sharing it. The amount of times you’ll be looking to see where she is will mess with your mind so bad. 2, cut off contact completely. I tried to and she would text me maybe every week or 2 and I would always reply back or answer her calls. 3, I was always at her beck and call mainly because I wanted her back and she took advantage of that. Really made myself look stupid multiple times. And 4, do not and I repeat do not go out on dates or sleep with other people until you feel you are absolutely ready. The feeling of disgust and guilt you will feel after is terrible. Just focus on being happy alone in the meantime. Hope this helps

[Anonymous]

Here’s what I did. Firstly you need your best bud to hang around. Someone you can trust. Play some video games, play cards, go and get some Denny’s or something and hang out for a week or two. Not every day, but talk about it if it comes to mind. Next go grocery shopping. You’re single now and Lobster is expensive for two! It’s probably been awhile since you had lobster. Have a lobster and enjoy it with some butter and lemon! Next go buy some furniture! If she moved out of your place and your home looks empty then maybe fill it with a bookshelf! Maybe a new computer chair too? A book shelf never hurts and you can store books, movies, video games, music CDs, and other cool stuff. Building it and thinking what to put on it will keep your mind on focus. If she didn’t move out then still go out and buy some furniture! Your best friend could even help you put it together! Well that’s all I did and it really helped a lot. I hope it helps you too!

[Asker]

I'll do all the things you've told me to may be it can help thanks bud

[Lostpearl]

Keep yourself doing busy things, find a hobby, sometimes even go out for a walk watch a movie, call family or loved one. Keep yourself busy. Stay strong, you got this!

[Asker]

I'm trying my level best to do that and i hope i'll get out from this pain soon

[Lostpearl]

With time you will, please be patient with yourself ♥️

[Asker]

Sure thanks for that opinion

[19LEGION74]

18-24 years old get you another woman, you don't have to date her, or sleep with her you need to make new memories so the fresh feelings take their place

[Asker]

I know but i feel, i'll be good if i stay single for a while so that i don't have to face the rejection of a new women.

[19LEGION74]

Always do what you think is best for you friend, I would never say someone is wrong for that, I went through something similar at 18 had a beautiful Dominican girlfriend thought we would always be together bought her a ring and we broke up, she talked my best friend into sleeping with her which to be honest probably wasn't hard , and that was it, but instead of letting that hurt fuck me up I went and found the attention I wanted and never really hurt another day after and actually still really close with the dude and have her as a Facebook friend and it's been 30yrz so believe me iy doesn't go anywhere it just hurts less and less til it doesn't but making yourself suffer without affection is gonna make you fall for the first person that makes you all tingly because you haven't given yourself a chance to be happy because of it you seem pretty intelligent so you know you're. goimg to have to try anyway might as well be while you're still on gaurd before it's to the point you've been alone to long and rejections the easy part now getting out there and just looking will be harder, now you are looking to keep yourself safe from everything and everyones going to throw up red flags because you didn't give yourself a chance at anything but being alone and miserable, I'm not staying facts just opinions but in my opinion get back out there with a female friend you don't have those types of feeling for and get back your own happiness instead of relying. on misery to heal you I'm not saying you're wrong and not saying don't be sad but don't let it defeat you on the inside the brain and the heart very rarely work together on shit

[EdwinLivingston_]

Keeping yourself busy is the best way.
Focus on improving yourself, a hobby or your career.
Take some gap and find someone new.
Try dating apps.

[Asker]

Bro i'm trying all these and these sure are helping but this was my first relationship and it is 5 years long i keep have flashbacks it is not like i don't smile or do anything everything i do, i enjoy that but suddenly the memories come back and then i feel sad.

[EdwinLivingston_]

That's normal and it takes time to forget. Keep on doing things that you enjoy. I've been through this and i really forget her when i tried dating apps.

[exitseven]

Get right back up on that horse.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/rSqcxFGFVas

[Anonymous]

Keep yourself busy and don't spend too much time alone. And don't be against having some rebound sex too.

[Asker]

I'm focusing on myself and it is doing a good job bit the flashbacks are really bad for me it is like a second i'm good and another second i'm sad.