Mens mental health?

[Anonymous]

So I’m currently building my mental health I was super depressed because my girlfriend left me. It hurt me so much that I could tell I needed to strengthen my mind because of how bad I took it. She didn’t take the break up as bad and she still talks to me as friends. When I talk to her I get sad and feeling start to come. Is letting those feeling come back knowing damn well she isn’t coming back healthy in strengthening the mind to no be so weak? I know I should just delete her from my existence but I don't know what I’m doing right now

[devilish-cutie]

you should definitely distance ysf from her, this is like touching the wound all the time. You may "be friends" at some point eventually but for now tell her you need space and time away from her. You need to heal man and bury the feelings for her and to be able to do that you need distance from her. Remember all the bad things and all the things you dont like about her. Realize why this is a good thing cause if she was the one she would want to date you, cause you are an amazing guy, an its a loss for her. If she cannot see that than she is not a woman for you and another woman could make you way more happier.

[Asker]

Thank you so much this is some great advice

[Ευδεμονια]

I think honestly you’re risking to fall in a depressive spiral. If talking to her gives you bad sensations like sadness or nostalgia, i think honestly the best option is to eradicate that person from your life, before it becomes real pain.
The first good act for your improvement is to clean yourself from all people or things that give you bad vibes, like her or something related to her. I know it can be drastic but I speak as one has been in depression, the most important thing is to elide all possibilities to depression to overwhelm you.
Go out more with friends, with those friends that makes you smile and be happy, do something you like, a sport, a hobby, something that sets your mind free. It’s very useful to overcome every depressive instinct.

[NamerOfStars]

It'd probably be better to keep your distance for a while. Breakups are never fun, and you may need to rebuild before you can reconnect, to her or anyone else. You don't mention how long it's been, but if it's enough that it still hurts to think about, you probably need more time to rebuild WITHOUT confronting it.

It's like letting a wound heal before you start using that body part again. Pause and reassess yourself first.

[Asker]

It’s been 3 months we had good conversation but I definitely felt some kind of way afterwards. I woke up with my mind all over the place and I want to be in control of my mind. Im trying to toughen up as a man so I don’t feel like this anymore and be able to handle hard times in the future but I don't know if that’s the right direction to go

[NamerOfStars]

Well, you're not going to be able to change how it FEELS unless you're not invested enough in the relationship to make it worth it. What you need to change is how you react.

[Anonymous]

You're a weak liberal.
EFF that hoe

How you crying over a female.

Go get another one.