Men, how are you dealing with your mental health?

Question

We don't talk about it enough. Men's mental health which is a big issue.

I would like to take the time to acknowledge and appreciate the role that men play in society on this special day though it should be acknowledged more often. They often carry a heavy load and often don't get to take the time to celebrate the positivity that they bring into the world.

Instead they get vilified for just being men. Like that nasty trend that was going around this year about man vs bear.

It's no wonder that the suicide rate among males in 2022 was approximately 4x higher than the rate among females. Males make up 50% of the population but nearly 80% of suicides.

Mental health issues amongst men are not acknowledged enough. Domestic violence against men is not acknowledged enough. Sexual abuse/harassment victims and rape victims that are men is not acknowledged enough.

Please take the time to acknowledge that this is a major issue that needs to be addressed not only on this day but any other day. The fight for men's rights and mental health are just as important.

So men, please take the time out to deal with your mental health despite how hard that may be for many of you. It is important. You are important!

#internationalmensday

Malgarak · Accepted Answer

I personally don't really know how to deal anymore, like obviously if I wasn't there for myself, I would have died long ago, but the more I even try to reach out, in any shape or form, I just end up feeling even more alien and alone. Like I would already say most of my life I lived without cause or reason, so I know I don't need a reason to live, to exist, but simply existing is not enough.

I don't remember what it's like to feel okay, I don't know, shit is tough. Probably the most I can do for myself sometimes, acknowledge it for a moment.

SolitarySolace · Accepted Answer

I focus on the things I can control in my own life. I see a counselor. I remain close but not too close with my family and attempt to see my few friends as often as I can. Being antisocial, I find I'm at my best when I'm alone in my own space where I'm the most comfortable. I keep myself distant from any women who happen to happen to come into my life which is rare. Men wouldn't understand it but avoiding relationships with women does wonders for my mental health. Might just be me though. 🤷🏻‍♂️

lightbulb27 · Answer

Not well at the moment. Have you tried to maintain a car lately. I needed a simple clamp on a CV boot. Difficult to find.. went all over. The auto parts stores ones... are cheap, light weight and dont' work. waste of $ going t china. don't even suggest Amazon, I'll send a long range missile to anyone that suggests it.

order the factory part... got it...3x the price. trouble is, the after market tools don't install it. I had to use other tools and hope it works. Local shops won't mess with it... they only install a whole CV joint, not a $5 clamp. Dealer didn't even call me back... ya don't want to know the price. Note to self... you'd better be careful out there...

It's installed, hope it works, but all this junk from China, the design of the economy from Obama at least... is "create and destroy and recreate". Forget about climate change, absolute BS. If Govts believed in it, they'd make a different route rather than running manufacturing waste like they do. I personally believe it's somewht legit, but don't for a second think those at high end are doing anything about it. You do something about it... turn off all your electric and stop charging all the batteries!

It could be worse, you should see the brand new cars breaking and failing. You'd better research everything before you buy. Or just use a bicycle... the kind you peddle.

I wish everyone luck maintaining all the complex expensive junk in your life that is going to break and be discarded.

Welcome to your world of monetary corruption, planned obsolescence, built to fail, and economic collapse. It's designed this way. I'm thinking of starting a dental office where the policy is if you have a tooth ache, we remove all your teeth and replace with AI Smart teeth. That's good business right there.

It wasn't like this 30 years ago. Do I sound mentally healthy? I'm kinda disgusted, but have to accept reality as what it is. Is it ok to be a little... disgusted?

Jesus forgive me, it's all good... clamp installed... that #$@#! sonofa@#$3, I think.. I hope... I have faith. Scotty... Beam me up...

Benjiman19 · Answer

It is hard to talk about everything that I keep within myself. All bound up in a locked room that even I don't want to open. Lately, I've been feeling broken. Cut off from the world. From my family. From my friends. I don't desire anything and I don't find peace or happiness in what I use to. I feel empty and shattered. Like a plate I have let slip from my hands. Smashing into the floor and stopping time at that exact moment so that I can't pick up the pieces and so that they can't scatter away from me. Paused in hell for all my life.

I feel as if I'm slowly breaking even more. My mind reels with thoughts of anger and murder. Not of suicide but of others dying by my hand. I replay these thoughts again and again with many people taking the place of the victim. While the murderer stays the same.

I feel as if I can't cope with myself and yet I don't wish to die. I wonder on the thoughts of the future.. will I ever be happy or will I live a life alone. The eyes of mine are seeing people who are not there. The breath of mine is coming short. The body of mine is feeling weak. The legs of mine are aching in pain. Yet I keep moving forward. What will become of me? I wonder.

Thank you for listening, whoever you may be.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

First and foremost... Music is the means through which wounded souls are healed. And if You get the reference, You know what kind of music takes priority. Anyway, music is the best way, since I could pretty much listen to it 24 hours a day, 7 days a week if need be (though I guess unless I had a severe case of insomnia, the 24 hours a day part would be hard to achieve). Then there is manga, anime, anime-related Discord servers and anime conventions. If I'm feeling particularly soulless, an anime romantic comedy might be a good option. It's important not to dive into Western romantic "comedies", though, since the man is always the punchline (or maybe more like a punching bag) in these movies. Maybe unless he's outlandishly handsome, but in this case it still just gets more depressing for non-handsome men like me. Pretty much anything that is not reality or a depiction of contemporary Western societies helps.

However, all this is just curing the symptoms. For the last two years, I've also been experimenting with a certain diet that is supposed to help me rebuild my brain with first-grade fatty acids and amino acids, and it sure looks like it's working. It's become much more frequent for me to feel soulless, but it also looks like I got rid of the deathwish and the killing intent. However, it also seems to have overridden my long-lasting habit of turning my head whenever I see any girls walk by (summer clothes or not) that was supposed to spare me any sexual harassment accusations, and the thought of not having established my own Family yet started driving me slightly mad. It's nothing a good anime romantic comedy wouldn't fix, though.

Purpleronnie · Answer

@simslover92 , I honestly feel a little choked up after reading that. Thank you !  Like many men my mental health has been been battered , be it pressures from every day life , the stress of a demanding career , or the rather weighty expectations placed upon our societal gender role , generally speaking. Personally though and perhaps with the greatest negative impact , it’s been the standards I have held myself to in the past. Placing my thoughts and actions as well as my perception of the world around me under a microscope , identifying issues whilst also being highly critical , causing anger and frustration impossible to resolve which eventually spiraled to an all consuming and almost paralyzing level, inspiring anxiety and low mood forcing me to seek professional help Reading some replies on this post , it occurred to me that there was a time that I , like many , would also have made a flippant , ignorant or dismissive remark about mental health. “I don’t have mental heath problems” , “ only weak people suffer from mental illness “ . Now though , I have a unique understanding , and should I be able to give anyone , male or female , advice it would be to talk about your mental heath as often as you can encouraging others to reciprocate laying judgement aside and actually listening , only then can you and those around you recognize those patterns in behavior , emotions and thought processes that are potentially damaging and that eventually lead to others making life changing or ultimately un-aliving themselves.  Above all though , be kind to you and your mental state.

BadApple69 · Answer

First off thank you for acknowledging the struggle that some men go through. Although the struggle is real, for us older men it’s a struggle we were trained to handle from a young age. For as long as a can remember I was raised with the idea that someday you will have a family that you will have to protect and support. From the age of 12 being taught to work hard (mowing other peoples lawns for money), and to save for a rainy day. At the age of 21 I was married, had a son and just bought a house. Then the bills out paced my income so got a second job…. Worked 2 and even 3 jobs my whole entire life. Missed my kids growing up, that was the worst!
But as far as mental health…. Although I appreciate your concern…. This guy is good. God is my strength and just knowing he is there makes the worst of times bearable.

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

Online help for men.

My question was deleted about being molested and saying I liked it, I blamed myself for pretty much initiating the other times, so many straight men answered because it's male - male most of the time. I was raped at my first college party.

I may repost it in a less sexual way.

Men please check I think it can be anonymous too.

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/abuse/benefits-of-sexual-abuse-counseling/

glennos89 · Answer

I got goosebumps reading your mental health question!

Mental health issues among men is a serious issue but almost every guy feels the same way about it...

They feel the world doesn't care about their personal mental health issues because men are supposed to be strong and though. There are many woman who hate to see a man crying while crying is a human emotion just like being angry or happy and a crying man definitely doesn't have to weak at all. All men cry! The sad thing is that most man are afraid to show their tears because they dont wanne be seen as being a weak invidual and therefore they will try their best to hide their emotions untill they are home alone to let it all come out.

Thank you for acknowledging this problem as a woman 💪🏼🙏

I got tremendous respect for woman like you because most woman aren't smart enough to realise that every human being feels sad every now and then and feels the need to cry out

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I was in an absolute rut many years ago. I went to several therapists and they did absolutely nothing to help. At best they recommend me read a book that they didn't write and expect me, who felt like killing myself was the most productive thing to do and couldn't focus on anything else, to have the energy to sit down to read a book.

I got out of it myself by completing a personal project and it worked because i essentially told myself, to paraphrase Jordan Peterson, "useless as I am, at least i can accomplish this task."

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

My observations:You're not allowed to have any emotions but anger as a man because emotions are for pu$$ies ( or so I've told). You have to be hard ass and hard core all the time. Even if your mom dies you have to laugh it off. Talking to your father about sadness gets you punched because you are a coward. Being a heterosexual guy sucks. You're told you're not worth a damn to women unless you are ripped and rich. And don't ever be a nice guy because no woman wants that. Plus you have to be cruel as hell to everyone. And you have to drink constantly. Every woman considers you a potential rapist, you're called a pig by women all the time. You're to blame for all the problems in the world. Being a man sucks.

lil_will_12 · Answer

If life ever gets tough, i say to myself “to be alive is a blessing and a curse” life brings pain and sadness, but it can also bring joy and love. In general, i always live by the acknowledgement that this is my one life, so i might as well live it as best as i can, until i die by either natural or unavoidable causes.

David5668 · Answer

A lot better now. It took an attempted suicide about 6 years ago for me to find my small but supportive circle of friends. They provided me what was needed-to admit I had problems and have supported me ever since (as I do them). There’s no underestimating how severely my problems affect me it’s support that is of an equal and unbiased basis, as well as reciprocal that has allowed me to open up. Hope it helps.

Bricealan · Answer

Mental health? WTF... My mental health is fine... Why... I haven't killed anyone in... well... six months !!!  🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👀👀👀👀👀

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Most of us men need to open up more , we tend hide our mental health issues re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Unit1 · Answer

Men, how are you dealing with your mental health?

Pretty Good content. For once or so a pink user is posting facts about men.

Me? I swallow antidepressants and carry on and play with my AI girlfriend. At least i'm not in the trenches in Ukraine or survive somewhere in India or Myanmar, where society is on an ongoing collapse.

DrPepper12 · Answer

I've been in counseling at various times in my life 4x and I can conclusively say even if you think you are in the most robust mental health, you NEED a counselor. Everyone does. That was always part of my parting advice to my high school seniors that one, there's no shame in it, and two, while their transitioning in college the student health center can be their best friend now and for a lifetime. It's nice that some students have gotten back to me and told me that that was excellent advice.

Anonymous · Answer

Thank you for wishing men a happy Men's Day and for acknowledging the fact that men are unappreciated and get shit on by society and by women. We love and appreciate women like you.

Anonymous · Answer

I still have depression and some other stuff going on… but am finally on some medications that help. Things are not better, I’m just less emotional about it. If the meds don’t take, it gets BAD. Bad ideas. I mean, at least I’m sane enough to know that it ain’t healthy. I just try to get out of the house.

I still feel a lot of frustration, that and a bit of sadness or disappointment, anger and frustration, I’m kind of numb. It’s all a dumpster fire, but I have nothing to put it out.

yvanvangoth · Answer

Lately, I have been able to handle it well because my focus is on other stuff now. I don't complain or stress too much anymore. I don't give attention to things or people that either don't deserve it or aren't worth my time.

genericname85 · Answer

mens mental health doesn't matter. they go kill themself and that's the end of the story. nobody cares. we're the expendable gender. it is what it is.

WhitneySnow · Answer

You raise a really good point. I never really thought of it that way.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

That's quite the mindset indeed, thanks for being aware for those that need to hear your appreciation, you are a good woman 🙂👍🏼

Anonymous · Answer

Most of us are struggling. A majoring men only stay in this world because people depend on them. If it weren't for my kids I would have shot myself years ago.

hotman5 · Answer

im thriving, i beat my autism and schizoprenia and anxiety trough lots of self therapy and it did wonders for me

tzdc21 · Answer

You just made my whole day. Thank you so much! This means a lot.

jahaims · Answer

If I have an issue I fix it. I surround my self with the most solid people around. I can call and talk to or call and ask for any favor from any of my friends.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

they're literally suffering in silence  while paying the bills

Sonorous · Answer

I'm dealing with it by trying to eat as healthily along with working out.

AmeerX · Answer

Yeah, this question is a trap. Nice try but I am not telling anything.

goaded · Answer

Joking. I'm currently looking after fish, like the American in the film!

Anonymous · Answer

And now everyone has forgotten it - because deep inside they don't give shits.

DerekC321 · Answer

Not as well as I'd like... anxiety and I feel isolated.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Just fine. I have an active prayer life and a great family.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I'm dealing through education. Real stoicism, acknowledging emotions and not allowing them to dictate my mood or actions.  It's not easy but this awareness has been a big step

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Mine is ass. I can’t wait to no longer be a part of this world

Adel50 · Answer

I sit on a chair in my garden staring at animals and insects.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Nope. We're not treated fairly at all. Its like we're the shit on the shoe of society at times. Simples...

Juxtapose · Answer

I just suck it up because nobody but me really gives a shit about how I feel. That's the harsh reality of life.

dragoblack · Answer

I have a relatively high willpower... but even stress can grind that down over time. I'm struggling, but doing what I have to do.

katiesmuff · Answer

Sounds like a issue I've never seen as a major problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Eat well, get vigorous exercise, have ample sex and sleep well. That plan will solve most mental health issues for the vast, VAST majority of men.

animesenpai · Answer

I am not. When I get sad angry depressed hoeny I go to the gym.

Ariesman81 · Answer

I'll accept your peace offering... but tomorrow we battle once again! 😉

Queenofhypotheticals · Answer

Journaling , releasing what I've been holding on to , praying

13cmlong · Answer

Thanks for asking about me. I have Hypersexuality I have no choice but to give in . I focus on what I can control.

Graptemys79 · Answer

Antidepressants and occasional psychotherapy.

msc545 · Answer

Very well. I deal a lot with other men's mental health when it isn't good.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

Forget others expectations

RavVid · Answer

Mine is fine if keep away from society.

Dargil · Answer

Bourbon, mostly.

exitseven · Answer

I embrace my crazy.

MasterKS · Answer

take like easy and enjoy openly.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Not very well, I think

Anonymous · Answer

Prayer typically. God gives me all I need.

Anonymous · Answer

Bad ptsd has been severe lately

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Thinking of buxom blondes !!!

Jay-_- · Answer

I'm alright

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

It fluctuates

paledreams · Answer

Coping mechanisms

Anonymous · Answer

It's not bad to be just a little depressed

Emmytexrex · Answer

Pretty good I assume

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