What things can be done in society to improve men’s mental health?

[Anonymous]

[D_Bone_Steak]

Why would being a man suck? The answers I'd get to that is where I'd start to find an answer. Actually since there is just so many answers... I can't even try to figure out solutions. I mean don't get me wrong, I could do the same with why it's great to be a man. I guess removing some of the negative to men double standards would be a start. Like you and me can both kill someone in the same manner and I guarantee I'd get a much larger sentence. If we divorced there's a good chance I'd end up paying child support and losing my kids even though I was the one at home taking care of them while you were out working all the time. Yeah the double standards is a big one... and one that I know affects women in negative ways as well, but I would argue in not as many blatant ways that are nothing but negative. I mean... I just lifted a freezer up 3 flights of stairs. Sure I was able to get it done through brut force, but if I was a chick you already know I would've gotten some help. Getting that help could be seen as a negative, but I think overall it's actually a positive.

[Brokenodometer]

Men have to open up and that isn't easy when you've been taught that you shouldn't. But it starts with men. Stop crying about the help women get. Frankly, whenever I've been in low spirits or just having a very off day, it's always a woman, whether a female friend or a female co-worker that's the first to ask what's wrong and if everything is okay. Nurture is their nature. I think a lot of them would welcome men opening up more and accepting some help. But we assume they don't care. Well you're not gonna know unless you drop the Clint Eastwood bullshit and say something.

[Asker]

Thank you for your well thought out response

[fonduegirl]

Let's remove the broken alpha beta system first. It puts way too much pressure on them, and gives them wrong messages to deal with women.

[MzAsh]

Encourage them to participate in various forms of therapy consistently.

[fonduegirl]

Very important!

[FilmGuy93]

Here's a big one; we have to stop punishing young men for being boys. Boys need to be getting in fights, chasing after girls, learning how to build stuff, go hunting, and all that. We don't want boys being scared to talk to girls. We don't want boys to be scared of getting into fights. We need to stop trying to educate boys like we educate girls. It doesn't work.

[Pyrofox]

Just lay off the whole negative traits of being a dad might help men's mental health and help society itself. And maybe guys will actually like wanna be a dad. Instead of it being a societal beast of burden.

[Asker]

What are the negative traits of being a dad?

[Pyrofox]

Society loves giving being a mom all the glory. And being a dad in this current age is seen as a borderline slave role. If society quit just ragging on fathers when they are there or not there and just appreciate them when they are more. I think more guys would be more open to wanting and having kids.

Cause right now having a kid is just seen as added liability especially if the couple is married. I think that society needs to change this muchless men choose to be the ones to sanatize the human race. By simply not wanting to be a father period. >.>

[Asker]

Maybe it’s a generational thing. Men in my age group are loud and proud about wanting to be dads. It’s very attractive.

[Pyrofox]

Whoops auto correct I meant "sterilize"

[Pyrofox]

I think those are far and between. Not many can actually finacially support having a child its generally a like 250K long term investment. /Per kid.

[Asker]

Yeah they’re talking about being excited to be a dad in the future. Not now.

[lightbulb27]

We need more mens groups and outreaches, support men being open (emotionally) and vulnerable, help them find purpose, encourage them to ask for help... and have it available.

[Anonymous]

We can start by not treating boys like defective girls. It's true, when ever boys are full of energy and less behave then girls, the go too solution is drugs to calm their mood. Did you know, if a boy draws a picture of two pirates sword fighting? It's automatic suspension with boy being sent for physiological evaluation.

[fonduegirl]

That's messed up

[Opinion Owner]

@anon1903 It is, but sadly will never change.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFpYj0E-yb4

[Anonymous]

Decriminalize "sex work" so that it is easily accessible and inexpensive for men. I guarantee that my mental health would improve if I simply got one erotic massage and a blowjob per month. Do you think I'm kidding?

[Asker]

I don’t think it would be inexpensive though. Those women will still want to make their money through the men desperate enough to pay for sex work.

[Opinion Owner]

I have sports injuries that necessitate physical therapy. I am not desperate for sessions but need them. Sex work should be priced as therapy and maybe covered by insurance like psychological counseling. Sexual outlets are simply unavailable to some men.

[Asker]

Maybe those men should be more desirable so they don’t have to be desperate enough to pay for sex

[Asker]

And no buying hookers is not therapy. Maybe get some actual mental help instead.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe it's not about "measuring up" to an arbitrary standard. There are things nobody can make better. Like the song says: "When the world is running down
You make the best of what's still around."
And desperation is a negative value judgment on your part. Sometimes it's just the way things are. Like needing heart medicine. Betting you are a "karen".

[normalice]

20 hour work week. That's pretty much "the whole kahona." We are overworked and it is nickle-and-diming our attention spans into insanity.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lmao. We're paid by the hour, dude. That will just make a lot more homeless people.

[normalice]

Unless hourly wages were doubled.

[Jamie05rhs]

@normalice Good luck with that.

[normalice]

Oh, were you imagining I was claiming this is likely to happen? Like, if I said a storm generator is the mosy obvious way counter droughts, would you think I had plans to make a srotm generator? It's a hypothetical solution to a problem no one actually expects to get solved.

[Jamie05rhs]

I gotchu, man.

[OddBeMe]

Nothing. Its all on each of us.

I have clinical depression so I got a prescription to make me feel better. It's working well.

[Aimée__LJ]

Stop stigmatizing men having feelings.

Men also need to get involved with helping your guy mates. Ask them how they are really doing.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Therapy and medication such as Seroquel.

[Anonymous]

Stop telling them from the time they are old enough to understand words that they're shit for being born without a vagina.

Make the public school system work for boys and not just girls.

[BarryLiverstone]

Education. Encourage more young boys to ask questions and learn rather than being insecure and anxious

[Pyrofox]

I don't think its about young guys or young gals asking more questions. I think its more a matter of holding the teachers to a higher degree and as a society we need to invest in education more. As at least in the US on average a garbage man is paid TWICE what a teacher earns in wages and makes about 100x the reasources.

[BarryLiverstone]

I was actually not thinking of public education. I meant within the nuclear family and those kinda support systems. Parents need to step up more and be active in their kids lives.. not rely on schools to boost their mental health

[Pyrofox]

True I'm more so saying I guess saying we as a society need to invest in it. Parents ultimately can only be role models I guess is my argument. ^w^

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep it’s not just one way of improving. Teachers and school is one way. But grandparents, cousins, friends… all aspects of a guys social network have to help him realize mental health is important and not leave him feeling alone or depressed.

[Luckycharms12]

Don't know suffer with it since teen mostly have it under control do right thing but have my bad weeks and months too

[Anonymous]

You dont have to. You can give me euthanasia, so you end this ridiculous cycle of people pretending to care about men.

[Anonymous]

Legalize prostitution, and I will have all the therapy I need for the rest of my life.

[Jamie05rhs]

We should stop persecuting boys for being who they are.

[Anonymous]

Start caring about them and protecting them the way society does with women.

[Asker]

How?

[Opinion Owner]

There are endless female only clubs, housing, funding, shelters, support groups, government programs, health funding and programs, social campaigns, etc…

Maybe if society did even a little of this for men, it would help.
Maybe if society wasn’t bias against men and gave them equal parental rights, didn’t rob them financially through divorce courts, believe women without evidence when they make claims against men, etc

If society treated men less like they were disposable and didn’t blame them and hold them responsible for the stupid choices and actions of females, men wouldn’t end up on the streets, they wouldn’t end up penniless, they wouldn’t end up with nothing, they wouldn’t end up broken and without support or help.

They wouldn’t have to turn to suicide as the only alternative to being societies scapegoat.

[Asker]

It’s women not “females”. But point made. Not sure if I agree with all of it but most of it a I do. Thanks for sharing.

[msc545]

well said.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s females when I feel like saying females. It is a proper term for female humans.
i say male just as often and never has a male been triggered or played victim because of a word.

What parts do you not agree with since it seems pretty logically and easy to verify.

[DavidRaul]

By spreading awareness and some therapy groups

[WhitneySnow]

Therapy and maybe support groups?

[Asker]

I agree with this 100%. I’m interested to see what men will say though.

[WhitneySnow]

Me too

[Kryzo]

Make women better. Men will improve.

[Asker]

How?

[Kryzo]

Because when women have better standards and sex isn't as easily available, it'll force men to step up. I guess porn needs to be banned too. Why do you think Hitler banned porno content? It makes men weak. Why work hard for stuff if you can get it with a click of a button?

[Asker]

Interesting that you are using women to justify males’ failures. I guess men aren’t that strong and dominant after all. Thanks for sharing!

[Kryzo]

Why do you think men and women are complimentary? If one sex fails, it rubs off on the other. Loved that you flipped it around back though. Like I said, another woman that needs improvement. Good day!

[Asker]

I didn’t flip anything around. Just quoting what you said. I agree with another user. What men need is deep therapy and counseling so they could learn how to logically solve their problems and take accountability. Good luck to you. Seems like you need it :)

[Kryzo]

Likewise. Future cat lady :)

[Asker]

Thanks man who will die alone❤️

[Kryzo]

Only proving my point. :) Crappy women.

[Asker]

Someone’s bitter and angry haha

[Kryzo]

Far from it. Just sniffed what sort of a woman you were straight and called you out. See how petty and offensive you are... only proving my point. Go on, prove me right even more.

[Asker]

The only one offended and petty is you. You literally said men can’t take accountability and I just reiterated that. Be mad at yourself.

[Kryzo]

Men shouldn't take accountability when it isn't just them involved. Stay mad Karen.

[Asker]

Sounds like a man who doesn’t take accountability. Sad.

[Kryzo]

Don't have to entirely if trashy women are half to blame. So, which cat breed do you like? Russian Blue or British Shorthair?

[Asker]

Yeah you definitely need therapy

[Kryzo]

You definitely need dick, but won't be getting much of that. At least not in a stable relay. So decide up on which breed cats you want.

[Asker]

I have a boyfriend of three years and you?

[Kryzo]

My condolences to your boyfriend. 3 years and not proposed or married yet. So basically a cumdump. I'm 20. Got some skirt now and then. Now waiting to finish my course before getting back in the game.

[Asker]

Yeah we’re only 19 started dating at 16 so no need to get married just yet. Any man who says “got some skirt” definitely needs considering.

[Asker]

*counseling

[Kryzo]

Extra condolences to your poor boyfriend then, if that character isn't like Santa Claus. Imagine having to spend 3 years with... this. Take my counselling offer and give it to him. He'll need it way more than me. I'm sure. The poor cuck.

[Asker]

Lonely and bitter. Please get therapy. This anger you have in your heart is not good for your health.

[Kryzo]

Why are you describing yourself to me? Please get your santa claus some therapy. You'd need it to for assuming things about strangers. Delusion.

[Asker]

Maybe check into a mental hospital while you’re at it? I am genuinely scared for anyone who may come across you.

[Kryzo]

Sure. Can you tell me which one your santa claus is admitted in?

[Asker]

Sending my condolences to your family

[Kryzo]

I will give my condolences to your mum directly. Don't worry :)

[Asker]

Do you have a fund we can donate to to get your the mental health you need?

[Kryzo]

Give it to your mum. I'll tell her to hand it over after our round tomorrow night.

[Asker]

Link to your fund?

[Kryzo]

yourmumismyhoe. com :)

[Asker]

Praying for you

[Kryzo]

Oh. That link didn't work? Use this one. urdadismycuck. com

[Asker]

How sad

[Kryzo]

That's what I thought about your dad too... ikr...

[andreasderjuengere]

What's wrong with ''our'' mental health? :)

[exitseven]

Make more beer.

[msc545]

Stop using the legal system against us.

[AngryCarl]

Sex on prescription.