My ex said he will not take me back until I make myself happy. Is this a good or bad sign?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

personally i think it's bad. partners are supposed to stick together through the bad and the good. and if he only wants you at the good, he'll leave the second something goes a little bad. that's not commitment. that's just messed up. partners are supposed to support you through your bad days and good days. if you'd do the same for him, why won't he do the same for you? because there is no true love there. i understand it's not always fun being around someone that doesn't feel happy all the time, but it's unrealistic to make your own self happy all the time. there will be bad days in between. what he's asking from you is just not realistic and i doubt he makes himself happy 100%

[Cheeky2022]

Im not saying my situation is similar but I broke up with my ex as things were not progressing and I pushed her away due to my own mind and issues. I then tried to get her to give it another go 1.5months later but she said she didn't think I could change that soon so said we could be friends.

1.5 months after that I have worked on myself ( 3 months since the break). I feel like a new person. We text chat here and there but I always initiate contact. I suggested if she fancied trying again as I had improved myself. Id say Im a lot more happier and just emotionally available. She acknowledged that I seem like I have changed and said she would think about it and would come back to me. Its been over 2 weeks since that and she has acknowledged that she hasn't come back to me and would read all my messages... but she's just gone a bit weird. She will talk about everything but that question. So even though I have changed... She isn't interested so I won't contact her anymore. As time has passed also we only communicate on text. Never met or had a call. Even though I have suggested it. I think that just distances people even more. No emotions/body language/ touch etc can be conveyed on text so.

Not sure how long you have been split but if she's initiating contact I guess thats a positive or if you guys are still meeting up etc. If she isn't doing any of that it might be over. Also, like my situation, even though I have bettered myself it doesn't really matter.

But Ill take forward who I am now and embrace how my next relationship will go without the same mistakes.

[boggboss]

wouldn't say its good or bad just shows he is not willing to compromise what he wants

[WhitneySnow]

It’s a good sign. He’ll take you back once you work on yourself.

[DiegoO]

Lol, wth. He can keep waiting. Do yourself a favour. Live your life. If it didn't work out, it didn't work. If he is still holding on, that's him; you should move forward.

[melanieeeB]

Don't go back to your ex

[Apologies456]

Shit I don’t know babe

[Anonymous]

I say its a good sign.