How do I move on from this hurt?

[Anonymous]

Was dating a guy and he ghosted me. I missed him terribly. Just out of the blue he messaged me. He did give a valid excuse, so I forgave him.

He messaged me to meet up with him for a night out, but when I turned up he was with his new girlfriend. I just pretended I was OK about it, but it cut me to the score. I felt hurt, emarassed, manipulated and played. Don't know how to move on from the hurt

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[melnc]

Try your best not to judge yourself for having normal emotions. It may not be obvious at first, but you're not weak, stupid, or unworthy of love. You just didn't know the real person you were dating. It's okay, we all have flaws, and it's better to realize that fact early in your relationship before too late. The best thing you can do to move on with your life is (forgive). Yeah, forgive him and forgive yourself. I know it's kinda hard but It also means that you’re stepping out of the role of a victim and taking charge of your life. I know what happened really hurt, but it's up to you to start changing your life. You're a valuable person, always remember that.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I appreciate you taking the time to give advice and help. That makes total sense. It's made me feel better inside. Thank you again

[Anonymous]

What a POS. You get over him by realizing you dodged a bullet w this POS. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. It’s just going to take time. Occupy yourself, hangout more w friends but be glad he showed his true colors cause that dude is a twat.

[Asker]

Thank you. I feel such a fool

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t feel that way. Trust me a lot of people have been through similar things. I’d think you’d feel more like a fool if you had married this dude only to realize this after the fact. Hang in there. If you’d like to talk I’m open to talking. But you’ll be fine, once it’s all said and done, when you e met someone else who is so much better for you you’ll think how could I have been w such a moron lol

[Asker]

😂 thank you for cheering me up. I really do appreciate your advice. Means a lot

[Opinion Owner]

What exactly was his excuse anyway that’s why you forgave him?

[Asker]

That he had family issues, which I previously knew about. But I now know that was just an excuse to ghost me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, which was a mistake on my part. My gut told me he was lying. I had a gut feeling he was seeing someone else

[Opinion Owner]

Well your instincts were right. Trust me you’ll me someone who’s way better for you. It sucks that we have to go through things like this but trust me it’s all worth it once you meet that person.

[Asker]

I really liked him. He had the nerve to message me tonight , but I've just ignored him. He's fooled me once. I want be taken in by him again

[Opinion Owner]

Good! Don’t!!! I’m sure he will try coming back at you w all kinds of excuses why he left n he’s sorry. I won’t do it again, I only ever thought of you.

[Asker]

I'm done with him. I've blocked his number. He causes me too much pain and anxiety

[Opinion Owner]

That’s good. Just move on. Trust me you’ll find the right person for you. That fool will just be a memory. You don’t deserve that. There’s something wrong w him to show up like that k wing how you felt about him.

[Asker]

My friend said the same thing. That there's something wrong with him. There was a few red flags that I foolishly overlooked. But lesson learned

[Opinion Owner]

Well I’m sorry it happened that way but it’s a good thing it happened sooner rather than later. Had it happened later in the relationship you would have been even more devastated as you would have been invested more emotionally. But you sound like you’ll be ok. Exactly what are you looking for if you don’t mi d me asking?

[Asker]

I was hoping it would have developed into a relationship. I'm not into casual dating. I prefer to be in a comitted relationship. But you're right, I'd be absolutely heartbroken if we were in a serious relationship and it happened then. The experience has made me more wary though. But next time I'll trust my initial judgement. Instead of ignoring red flags

This souds crazy but in my heart, I knew he was lying and playing me when he said nice things to be. But it felt good to feel wanted, cared about and needed. Even though it was false.

[Opinion Owner]

Well someone wants you that’s for sure, they just don’t know it yet and neither do you. If you were my girl I’d want you lol hang in there you’ll meet the right person. For now enjoy life, I wouldn’t worry so much about finding that person. They may just find you

[Asker]

Thank you. I hope you're right. I worry in case some thing similar happenes again 😕if I see red flags, I'll never ignore them again. But I worry in case I don't see red flags and get played again. It's so painful. I know I'll get over it, but I couldn't bare anything like this happening again

[Opinion Owner]

No I’m sure no one could bare it happening once. Is there a certain age category? I only ask because maybe someone a little older than you may be a little more suited for a relationship as opposed to someone younger. Not always but i think there’s a better chance. Hopefully you’re not too demanding like a lot of women can be in what you’re looking for in a man because that narrows down your chances of meeting that man.

[Asker]

I've always wanted to meet a likeminded person. A guy with similar morals, values and personality to mine. Someone who is open and not a closed book. A guy who is open about himself, his life and his feelings

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think that’s too much to ask for. What ages are you willing to date? You open to dating other races? What’s the longest relationship you been in? Any kids?

[Anonymous]

Lessons learned is all I can day. Don't let it happen again.

[In_Trance]

get under another guy