If a boyfriend cares for you, will he always care for you as an ex, if it ended on mutual terms (just in different places etc)?

[Anonymous]

[FunkyMonkee]

I told my ex-fiance that, even if we split up, some day, I'd, most likely, still be friends with her. Split up, as in, it was pretty much a mutual divide or at least just that one of us just didn't feel it happening for them anymore and we discussed it and agreed to let it die. But, the mini-bitch had been cheating on me for a while (and this was not long after she flat out told me that she just wasn't interested in men anymore but, if she ever was, she'd want to be with ME! Then, when I found out she'd been cheating on me, I reminded her of her statement that she'd ONLY want me and she said she never said that!!) before we broke up so, I really had nothing more to say to her and broke it off clean. OBVIOUSLY, I couldn't trust her anymore (she lied to me a few times, stole from me and even cheated on me!) so, I just didn't want her around me anymore!
If she hadn't done those things to me, and proved that I couldn't even trust her, I WOULD still be friends with her!!

[NathanDavis]

I'm friends with my exes... we still care for one another, yes

but we're friends nowadays though, with two of them

the other two, we're just friendly and in very good terms, still check out on each other from time to time


but I should point out, that there is NO romantic feelings within us, that part is gone and over on both sides

[Asker]

My ex doesn’t believe you can ever truly be just friends with an ex, but said he’ll always care for them.

[NathanDavis]

it is not a matter of belief though...

some people have friendships with their exes like me and many others

and many other people are not friends with their exes for many different reasons

a belief is just an idea that you have when you are not able to experience something yourself

[Asker]

I agree. I said this to him too at the time but he still doesn’t believe he can.

[NathanDavis]

definitely not for everyone

many people have horrible relationships and end them in really bad awful terms, so I understand why they would not want to know anything at all about their exes

for me though... it was a completely different experience so I can do it without complications, that's all

[Asker]

He meant it more as in the sense that there will always be that romantic or sexual aspect there, that they could never solely just be only friends again. They’d always feel like they could go back to more if it was offered.

[NathanDavis]

well... after 10, 12 years or so

I can assure you that no, neither romance or sexual drama has happened with us

and no kind of "offers" either... lol

past is the past and ti is long gone

[rosemilk]

depends. if together for a longggg time, over 4 years, then probably.