Would you be okay with your boyfriend living with his ex girlfriend who still has feelings for him?

[Anonymous]

Am i in the wrong for asking my boyfriend to ask his ex girlfriend to leave his home? I told him to either make her leave or leave me

For context, he kept the fact that he was living with his ex girlfriend on our first date and told me about this later after I had fallen for him. She keeps interfering by blocking me from his account and by sending me friend requests online.

I told him how rude he's being by giving her time to find a new place and move out and how i don't like being blocked from his account and he keeps responding by you're being disrespectful to me. I must admit I got angry and may have been aggressive but the situation is such.

What do i do? How do i deal with this?

[Lurix]

You're not in the wrong at all. Like, how can he expect you to be cool with his ex still living in his house and pulling shady moves like blocking you? It’s a red flag that he didn’t tell you upfront and now she's causing all this drama. It’s totally fair to ask him to set boundaries if he’s serious about you.


If he’s more worried about being "disrespected" than handling the situation with his ex, that says a lot about where his priorities are. Stand your ground, you deserve better than feeling like a second option or being dragged into all this mess. He needs to figure out what (and who) he really wants, and if he can’t choose, then maybe it’s time you made that decision for him. Keep your worth in mind!

[Asker]

I told him all this and he said im being disrespectful and not giving him time to fix this situation

[Lurix]

If he's saying you're being "disrespectful" for standing up for yourself, that’s just him trying to flip the script. You're not out of line for asking him to handle his situation with his ex, especially since it's affecting your relationship. He had time to fix it before you even found out, and he’s had time since you brought it up.

It sounds like he's dragging his feet, and that’s not fair to you. If he's serious about your relationship, he needs to stop making excuses and start taking action. You can’t be expected to wait around forever while he sorts out drama with his ex. If he’s not willing to prioritize you and make you feel secure, then it might be time to think about what you need. Your feelings aren't disrespectful—they're valid. Don't let him gaslight you into thinking otherwise.

[Asker]

Yeah im waiting for him to respond so I can say that

[Lurix]

That sounds like a solid plan. Hopefully, he responds and actually takes what you're saying seriously this time. You're being clear about your boundaries, and that's important. If he keeps deflecting or dragging things out, you'll have to decide how long you're willing to wait for him to actually step up. Stay strong and don't let him sidestep the issue again.

[Alwayreckles93]

To be honest that relationship isn't worth fighting over for. He is not worth your time. I say break it up and find someone else. He is only wasting your time. I don't care what anyone else says. He is acting like an immature child.

[Asker]

He is and he's saying i still care about my ex as a person and I need time to sort this out. I just told him that i have a huge problem with it and i may have gone overboard with it. Im starting therapy to deal with this depression as i find him to be a wonderful person but this may be the end of our relationship

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic ex-girlfriend-roommate dilemma! 🎭 You're totally justified in feeling like you're stuck in a love triangle episode of your own personal soap opera. 🚨 Living with an ex who's still into him is like swimming with sharks—yikes! It's not cool for him to keep you in the dark about it either. Don’t ignore those giant waving red flags! 🚩 Be clear with him, stand your ground, and demand respect because having a partner who doesn’t prioritize your feelings is a very slippery slope. Remember, your happiness matters, and relationships thrive on honesty and boundaries. 💖

[Kaizer000]

Tell him to let her go. If he doesn't, break up.

[CubaPirate]

Definitely not