Is it a problem for you if your boyfriend/girlfriend remain friends with his/her ex?

[creativewritings]

[D_Bone_Steak]

If it doesn't, it should, or else you're just a cuck. We all know why they want to stay in touch. They're basically "seeing other people" or "taking a break" aka "fucking other people."

Trying to start a relationship with someone that is basically "keeping their other options open" is dumb.

Oh, "They're just friends," she says..."He's just a nice guy," she says..."You're just paranoid," she says, "You're being controlling," she says... many "she's" have gaslighted the shit out of dudes with that rhetoric and guess what happens? It might not happen this month or in a few years, but it's going to happen if you accept that bullshit. If not with that ex, it will be with one of the other guys she uses the same gaslighting technique on you for. SHE'S TRYING TO KEEP OTHER OPTIONS... and that (her actions) says more than her words have to say to hide that fact.

It's a red flag, and she's already trying to cheat. Don't be a fool.

[Finchie40]

No, because she wouldn’t be my girlfriend to begin with , if she was still friends’ with her ex , unless she a had a child with him and they were mutual for the kids’ sake , but other than that , I wouldn’t commit to a girl that was still spending time with her ex period , she would just be a piece of ass and nothing more, maybe a FWB’s , but she wouldn’t get my heart and trust at all that’s a huge red flag Girls’ that hold on to their exes shouldn’t be dating period

[Nikki1989]

Insecure much?

Yikes, this is sad.

[Finchie40]

Not insecure , just respect , how would she feel if I was still spending time with my ex?

[midnightmoon05]

Agree with Finchie. 💯. We have to love and honor our new relationship.
Has nothing to do with insecurity.

[Finchie40]

Exactly @midnightmoon05 An ex is an ex for a reason , move on from them before pursuing someone else or dating someone else , it’s the respectful thing to do if you want your partner to be respectful to you

[SnowyOwl]

Yes. It's about investment. How can you invest in your new relationship, emotionally and time wise, when you are still investing in your ex. It's fucking disrespectful to your new partner, and they should dump you (no you specifically, anyone).

You can politely end your relation to the ex in question, wish them well and sayonara. You have new priorities if you're actually committed to your new partner.

Be real

[SnowyOwl]

The only exception to maintain communication, as @OlderAndWiser said, is if you and your ex have a child you will both take care of. In which case the relationship should stay respectful

[MemeSupreme]

sorta... it bothers me a little

but if he's communicating to me everything, they dated a while ago, and i don't get any major red flags from it like feeling one of them still has feelings, then it's not a problem

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some love and clarity on your concerns. Whether your partner stays friends with an ex can be a hot topic. It's all about trust and communication, darling. If you're both open, transparent, and respectful of each other's feelings, it shouldn't be a red flag. Just make sure no lovebombing or ghosting tendencies arise! Stay calm, be honest, and keep those communication lines open. 😉💬

[OlderAndWiser]

Not a problem if they have a child together. Otherwise, there is no good reason to remain in any relationship with an ex.

[creativewritings]

if there is a child, no problem of course. But just ex love, there is no marriage

[OlderAndWiser]

What reason (other than children) is there to stay in contact with an ex? It gives the appearance that at least one of the two wants to keep the connection alive, perhaps in the hope of reconnecting. If my wife insisted on staying in contact with one of her exes, I would constantly wonder about her level of commitment to me, and I would have never proposed to her.

[DrPepper12]

There's nothing wrong with ex's as friends. Relationships can change

[OlderAndWiser]

You are referring to what is possible, and I am talking about what is most likely.

[IslaTheWitch]

nope, why should I? they probably knew each other long before he met me... so it's alright... I also have close male friends and can't see any reason to end my friendships only because I got a boyfriend... :D

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

Am I not supposed to completely trust my significant other? Am I supposed to be her daddy and tell her when and how to form relationships with other people when she is a grown adult?

That would be on them if they are unfaithful to me. She would know I would be done with her if she was planning on cheating. Or keeping secrets. I give the benefit of doubt my girlfriend would never and should never betray me

[NathanDavis]

no... I am friends with my exes

if she's just like me, that's absolutely no problem at all

[Nikki1989]

Agreed 100%.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

From experience, it's an improbable case, so I don't mind much this scenario. If that scenario happens, we'll see how it turns out, I'm used to discuss many things, one more should not be difficult lol

[adventurous-1]

I feel that there may be to much history to not worry, if there's a big fight are they going to go back to them? Is there temptation that may creep back into the relationship? Are they truly over the ex? So yes it's a problem for me.

[katiesmuff]

No I don't think it would be. If everyone that breaks up with someone couldn't be friends with them afterwards it would be a pretty dull world to live in.

[Nikki1989]

No, not at all. We are not that insecure, immature or petty.

[Nikki1989]

Damn, reading these comments makes realize people on here are clueless about what having friendships means. What a miserable bunch of people.

[TheStaleMarshmellow]

"Men and women can't be just friends" -Says the people that never experienced boundaries for themselves

[midnightmoon05]

Yes it is a problem.
That’s disrespectful to me and to our new relationship.
what’s the reason to keep an ex?

[Alex-Snow]

Not really. After all they were together and probably shared some fun and some great orgasms together. As long as it stayed as only friends it would not bother me

[exitseven]

Yes, it is a problem. I never remained friends with anyone and it would really bother me if she would still want to hang out with ex boyfriends.

[alice55]

Yes, anyways any girls friends is a red flag to me, he either cut them all off or I'm getting out

[slatyb]

No, it's not. It's also not a problem in my marriage, as her ex was abusive.

[Crankor]

If they hang out, absolutely. They shouldn't even be talking to each other while dating someone else. There's no reason to do so. It just open up doubt for any relationship there after

[glennos89]

Depends on your partners personality. Some people are loyal to their partner, others are not

[DrPepper12]

Nope. They had a history before me and I'm an adult and accept that.

[nonchalantindividual]

I don't know. But one thing's for sure is that men will only receive their first flower at their funeral. Women normally look down on men who love flowers.

[lorenzomichael]

Yes, unless they have kids together other than that they shouldn’t be within fucking 2 miles of each other at any given time.

[Anonymous]

Yes considered some of his exs would have him back in a heartbeat and regret ending things.

[kaucky1]

It happened before with one of my exes run across them 20years later firstthingssaid Let Go Fuck But

[Sunlight4]

I think it’s not a good idea to remain friends with ex

[Delia2005]

Yes, especially if they don't have children. Cause you could be the side piece.

[Emmytexrex]

Hmm that's a tricky one

[Account]

Yes.

[justabuddy]

It depends on how and why things ended.

[Awomanof]

He has to be neutral towards his ex

[dudeinohio]

Deal breaker

[jahaims]

Duh.

[sibeluysalci]

definitely a problem

[In_Trance]

Deal-breaker

[Slim57]

Yep. Huge problem.