Is it okay to remain friends with your ex?

[Anonymous]

Dated 3 years.

Broke up due to long distance.

Yes

No

[blueonblack22]

There a key difference between being friendly vs. friends. Women tend to call anybody they are just friendly with “friends”. Men are more usually more hesitant with that. To them there is since loyalty and special respect we have towards people we are true friends with. And that’s not something most people will ever have with an ex.

One of you still has some feelings somewhere deep down. Always will even if neither of you shows it. The only time I think it’s ever possible for exes to be true friends is if it was an arranged marriage (this still happens in some part of the world) and neither side had real feelings during the relationship/marriage.

Anyway back to my original point. Not every break up is angry and devastating for everybody. One side will almost always be more heartbroken than the other. But sometimes things run their course.

However this is someone you likely spent a good chunk of your life with. Just cutting them off like they’re not even human can be cruel (unless there was cheating, legit abuse, etc.). You can be friendly and respectful to that person. Maybe an occasional phone call if both of you are still single. But actual real “friends” no. Not a good idea.

[Sjoerd85]

Only say "we can stay friends" if you can really do it! It has been said multiple times to me in the past, and in 100% of those cases, the woman who said it ghosted me after. That hurts just as much as the breakup did. So just be honest about it, and do not propose to remain friends if you know it is not going to happen.

[DaisyM23]

if it ends on amicable terms i don't see a problem with it, unless it starts interfering in any other relationship you may have

[DaveJord]

I agree with this, I might stay freinds after a breakup if I think it could lead to something down the line. But the second I start dating someone else I distance myself from all of them. I don't even say she is a freind of mine, because honestly, she is just some woman, I used to date... but I do now and don't ever want to.

Woman that keep all these guy freinds around them... red flag.

[DaveJord]

When I met a woman who is still freinds with her ex boyfriends after breaking up... it's a red flag.

[slatyb]

I'm still friendly with the one I was with the longest. That's are days when I wish I could talk to her.

[MementoMori777]

i chose not too cause its just gonna complicate the healing process of the breakup.

[dudeinohio]

Definitely not. The person you get into. a relationship with next will be very upset.

Move on.

[lorenzomichael]

Sure because you never know.. You guys might end up back together again. If not at least for a booty call.

[DextroShade]

Most men won't like this and the ones who are fine with tend to be losers and simps.

[gothbxtch]

yes, of course

[Anonymous]

i mean, i personally don't see the point.

[LiamJHayden]

Some can, some can't.

[strateguy632]

no..

[In_Trance]

Pointless. Move on

[KrakenAttackin]

Why?