We just broke up last week. It was mutual, but I had brought up breaking up first awhile ago. Honestly, I was running away from my own feelings because he’s the first person I loved. I never told him this though. The day we broke up we agreed to remain friends. He has brought it up prior to our break up, and originally I shot that idea down. For me it’s heartbreaking to go from girlfriend to friend, especially from someone I loved. I don’t think our feelings were on the same level during our relationship, so I guess it makes sense why he would be ok with being friends still. I thought I could suck it up and try to remain friends, because I care about him so much, but I’m just so heartbroken. I just wanted him to love me like I loved him. When I left, he said he would text me, but it felt like I was the one putting in more effort to communicate. A week later now, I asked him over text if he still saw a future with me or if he was completely done/moving on. He have me a short answer to my paragraph, saying he didn’t know what the future would hold but he would have to work a lot on himself first if we did get back together. My heart sunk at that response, because it was too familiar. I had given that response before to my first ex who I knew I didn’t want to be with anymore, but still cared about as a person/friend. I wanted to hold on to our relationship for the future, but it’s so difficult now. I also feel like I’m being devalued as a women by waiting around like this. I love him, I care about him, and I don’t want to lose him, but I don’t think I can stay just friends. Should I still try to be friends? Is there a way I can be? If not, should I tell him I can’t? I don’t know what to do
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