Do you stay friends with your ex when you break up?

[Jeilasoyun]

When you break up with someone do you think you could stay friends or not?

No I have to distance my self

Yes we can be friends and hang out without being in a relationship

[OlderAndWiser]

1. If you have a child together, your child - AND you - will live better lives if you remain on friendly terms with your ex.

2. If you do NOT have a child together, trying to remain friendly has huge problems:

a. one of you probably does not want the break up and will cling to the hope that, by remaining friends and staying in contact, the relationship will eventually reconcile. This hope/fantasy prevents that person from moving forward wth their life.

b. One of you may simply want to use the other for convenient sex and this will eventually cause extreme resentment.

c. the partner who wanted the break up will eventually move forward and find a new partner. The new partner will be very suspicious and distrusting of why you want to keep your ex in your life. . . and that is a reasonable question to ask.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Jdjfjcjj]

I distance myself with respect to offering anything above and beyond that I'd offer to some random person I didn't know.

However, I wouldn't oppose her coming over at 2am when she's emotional says she want to talk but really wants to hookup

[Laura131]

Depends on a break up really, if it was peaceful and you bouth decide to brake up then I guess friendship whit ex is OK as long as it doesn't turn into a toxic one.

If one of us broke up cuz of something (like cheating falling for another person etc.) then no, friendship like that would harm you or them (depends who broke up) hurting and can and will probably lead to jealousy.

So in that case I would prfear to block ex and move on whit my life, if it happens that they live in my town a normal hi would be enough

[Laura131]

Thank you for MHO

[melanieeeB]

I'm "friends" with most of people who used to be in my life.
Like if I would walk into my recent ex, we would definitely say hello, even hug and have a talk about how each other and the family is doing, wish us well and so on, nearly the same with past close friends... unless they did something unforgivable

[Pinay_ako]

Yes 🙌 if I am 100% so over them and we’re both happily with someone else and the rest is history. But not all of my exes

[AviatorTom]

My ex-wife and I have kids, and our divorce was amicable. We're still in good terms, but I wouldn't call us friends

[coachTanthony]

No reason too unless you have kids together.

[Guy13]

no way as I am done and that means exhaustively done.

[NathanDavis]

it is not something I planned, or I would plan in advance... it was just the way it happened, lol...

with the first two girlfriends I had I've remained good and close friends... given that we were very young and it was "forever ago" that we were in a relationship

meanwhile, with the more recent girlfriends I had... while we've in very good and friendly terms with another... we are not that close as friends friends, we stay in touch and keep up from time to time yes, but we do not casually hang out anymore

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Hi @Jeilasoyun thanks for your question. In my life I've had 2 ex-girlfriends and I never stayed friends with them cause things would bring back a lot of memories but if I had run into them, I would talk to them but nothing more at all.

[Jeilasoyun]

Understandable, braking up sucks

[thattssitt]

If you don’t have kids, it’s not reasonable to be friends with someone you kissed, had sex and loved once. What are you gonna talk about?

+Oh you were so good at sex and giving blowjob.

-Oh yeah, i still couldn’t find anyone kissing better than you.
That’s awkward as hell.

[designer1]

I feel like if you have crossed a certain point in a relationship u cannot just go back to being friends. This point being talking about marriage, having sex, introducing them to your family as your SO, etc

[Gibbons44]

I would think it normal but it so far isn't the case since my scummy fosterparents are trying to convince me the world is rubish, girls are horrible, and how prostitution is a (desired) norm (that thry could skim some cream from once I was to accept paying a female to be with me; I won't go beyond 'she gets frer rent and pays only bills or food - the rest - strictly if it is for ME)

[AdithyaR]

Depends on the circumstances of the breakup
Like I believe some people are better off as friends than in a relationship do in those situations, being friends works out much better.

But the thing is when you choose to be friends, there's needs to clear communication about boundaries in the friendship.

[MementoMori777]

No, only cause I feel like it will effect the way I move on or the speed of me moving on

[wannabecuck-2]

No. I never talk to them again. Its best for both. Going back and comming back will create chaos for both parties. Better to stay single alone. Cuz either ur in a relationship for lifetime or u aren't in one. It should be simple not complex.

[Anonymous]

Not working too well. I broke it off and then began to vent bad on him and stalk him online with many mean vents and resentment. But we do email only sometimes when "needed."hahaha

[SnowedIn]

I've stayed friends with almost all of my exes.

[Dargil]

You broke up for a reason. Never, ever look back.

[Darine123]

Why would I stay friends with my ex? I broke up with them because they might did something wrong to me so I wouldn’t want to mess with them again

[Notsoshyguy1985]

Yes

just encase they want to have sex one last time

[Jeilasoyun]

Ar least that's honest haha 😄

[Jeilasoyun]

At least

[Notsoshyguy1985]

I’m sure it isn’t the healthiest option
But hey
What are you going to do

[LiamJHayden]

Usually. I only date women I like as people, so if the romance fizzles I will not suddenly dislike her.

[SunnyRS]

Well I have tried but it didn't work out.
And no it's not because of anger or some feeling. I just feel awkward around them.

[admles]

Hell no. Have no kids with her, no need to have any contact with her.

TBH, I wouldn't piss on my ex if she was on fire.