Is it okay to check up on your ex?

happa808
Is it okay to check up on your ex, like seeing how they're doing, and making sure they're taking the break up okay? I'm not really sure about the proper procedures here, but I still wanna make sure my ex is doing fine, but I don't want to make it look like I wanna get back together, just remind her that I don't want her completely out of my life, but to stay friends, and make sure she'd doing all right. I know I can check up after a while, but exactly how long? Do I wait for a week? A month? I'm just sort of a concerned person and like to make sure all of my friends are doing okay, and that goes double for my ex in this case (though it was my first relationship). The break up ended with her exiting pretty fast, running to her car, and trying not to cry; it made me feel really bad, but I knew something like that would happen.

If I can check up on her and make sure she's okay, through what medium? I'd prefer a phone call, but less direct methods might be more gentle for her.

Thanks for any help, and in case this comes up, the break up was NOT mutual, I wanted to breakup, she didn't see it coming, and I have no intention at the moment of us becoming romantically involved ever again, just friends.
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She called me to ask why, I guess for a more specific answer, though I thought I was fairly specific, I'll clarify it for her and leave her alone for at least until next year, then check up, if anyone thinks this is a bad idea, how do I amend any errors
Is it okay to check up on your ex?
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