Is my ex checking up on me to see if I am still single?

[Anonymous]

So I recently ended a 3 month situation-ship kinda thing with this guy, we had started off as good friends, but just realised that ultimately we wanted different things and were just in different things. We ended on good terms and agreed to stay friends as we are in the same friendship group. We ended things a few months ago, and are civil when we do see each other, but are not overly chatty. I do notice he does tend to stare at me a lot in group settings

Recently, having re downloaded a few dating apps, one of his friends (not part of our mutal friend group) liked me on facebook dating, but never messaged or anything, at the time I didn't think anything of it as I had never met him and only recognised him as my ‘exs’ friend from his name and the fact that we had him my ex as a mutual friend. But I did think it was a bit odd.

A few weeks on hinge, my ex’s roomate then popped up on hinge briefly, I had met the roommate briefly in passing and thought it was a bit odd he was on hinge as I know he was taking a break from them. He did also like me on hinge, but i declined the like and haven't seen his roommate on hinge since, and still have the same settings, so thought this was odd. I did briefly block my ex on hinge, just as seeing him pop up all the time was a bit triggering for me as I did want to continue the relationship but he didn't, so did block him to move on. Probably overthinking this one, but i did have the brief thought that he only did that to confirm if i was on another dating app

More recently, a mutual friend mentioned briefly that my ex was struggling on the dating apps and was having a hard time and asked how my dating life was going. Again i thought this was a bit weird, as far as i know we hadn't told anyone in our group that we were seeing each other in case it didn't work out.

i just found it odd, that three separate people have seemly ‘checked in’ about my dating and don't know if i’m being checked up on to see if i’m still single.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that is definitely weird that these separate guys connected to your ex have been popping up and seeming to check in on you/your dating status. My spidey senses would be tingling too if I were you.

It does sound suspiciously like your ex could be casually asking around or keeping tabs on whether you've moved on yet. Like why else would his roommate and friend randomly add you out of nowhere on the apps? That's a bit much to be a coincidence.

And the mutual friend bringing up his dating struggles right when asking about yours is sketchy too. Feels like fishing for info. I wouldn't put it past your ex still being interested but not wanting to admit it directly. Maybe he's not fully over you either.

Guys can be dumb like that sometimes - wanting to have their cake and eat it too. I'd call him out casually next time you see him, be like "so is there a reason all these people linked to you have been in my DMs lately? Or are you just nosy about my love life?"

Confront him gently to see how he reacts. But don't let him play games - if he's just being immature and stringing you along, don't give him the satisfaction. You're better than that! Keep doing you and don't stress, his loss if he can't commit.

[Avicenna]

Sure sounds like he is, yes

[Asker]

Do you think I should say something or just leave it

[Avicenna]

I’d ignore it

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, probably