How do I determine if he’s still seeing his ex?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been dating around two months. He recently got out of a two year relationship but he’s known her over ten years. She cheated on him and he broke it off. She still wants him back though and will tell me they’re still together. I ended up blocking her bc of drama. He said she makes stuff up and they’re not still together. I told him of my concerns that part of him still loves her. He said ofc he would still have love for someone he’s known 11 years but he’s not in love with her like he is me. Having lived together and stuff tho he still will have her come over to get her stuff or they have other things to take care of. One morning she got his phone and sent me pics of just her or of him sleeping from the doorway saying they’re still together and I’m stupid. He said she came in and did that while he was sleeping bc he had asked her to stop by that morning to help with something. i also found an ovulation test sitting on the toilet that hadn’t been there a few weeks before. He said oh that was stuff she had she was trying to get pregnant before.
some of the explanations seem to add up others don’t. I don’t want to be stupid and mess something good up if he’s not doing anything. at the same time, I dont want to be stupid and they’re still fucking while I think we’re in a relationship. It also doesn’t make sense to me that I’ve told him multiple times if he wasn’t ready yet or even just wanted something more casual to just tell me that I was OK with that. He insist though that he likes where we’re at in our relationship and doesn’t want it to change. He even keeps trying to get me to tell my mom we’re dating she actually knows him. It’s like some of the signs are indicators of someone serious, and others look like someone who still isn’t done with their ex. I want to ask her if she Has any proof of them still being together but she tell him and I don’t know where that would go. Not sure what to do here

[AMS700CX4u2]

My daughter still loves her ex but, at 48 years of age, he is still an adolescent. It is understandable. One of his parents is a narcissist. I suppose he learned that behavior from them. Her divorce is now final and she has no plans to remarry. She stayed with her husband for 17 years, until their daughter was 18 and in school. She now has a sugar daddy who is older than she. He is attentive and supportive and has asked her to marry, but she wants no part of it. She still speaks to her ex. But has little to do with him.. She has more pity for her ex than affection. It has taken a "shrink" and four years of therapy to straighten her out. Careful children.

[AviatorTom]

Here's my sage advice to you...

Stop trying to answer the question. Enjoy the relationship you and he have, and build on it.

[Anonymous]

Some red flags here. So he claims she cheated on him and he broke up with her yet he also claims he still loves her. At the same time he is supposed to be in a relationship with you but he seems to be spending a lot of time with the ex and even allowing her to come to his place whenever she wants.

I would sit him down and say I want to be with you however I am not comfortable with you hanging out with your ex as much as you do and I am especially not comfortable with her telling me that you and her are still seeing each other.

[HaleyCatgirl]

I wouldn't immediately get in a relationship with someone who just got out of the long relationship I think it's manipulative personally and would never date anybody if they just got out of a relationship they didn't have any time to heal

[HaleyCatgirl]

Oh also to answer the main question to ask by actually spending time with the person if they refuse to spend time with you you got your answer

[caitycat21]

Lmao nah. If I were you I’d break it off with this clown and ghost him. Since he got cucked now he’s trying to cuck you lmao, never fight for another girls sloppy seconds

[HaleyCatgirl]

I would disregard this comment she's obviously only worried about sex

[Imaguyandagirl]

As a guy myself I would say either add a tracking device to the phone or just ask his ex or a close friend of his ex

[HaleyCatgirl]

Oh boy this dude is a bit crazy don't take his advice this is how you get arrested you can't put tracking devices on people it's illegal

[Imaguyandagirl]

@HaleyCatgirl Lol

[Imaguyandagirl]

Also you could just straight up ask him

[Joker_]

with sheer determination and absolute resolve

[Anonymous]

He's playing you.. He's still with her while he's with you

[Anonymous]

Too much drama. Move on from this nonsense.

[driven159]

time to say good bye red flags waving