I broke up with my boyfriend for good, any words to cheer me up please?

[Anonymous]

I don't really wanna talk about it... I still feel very numb.

Can anyone help cheer me up please?

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Guys if you've seen my Q from before I've decided to date guy B.

If unfamiliar: I have been with guy A (my ex) for a few months and it's been very toxic but I thought I was in love. We broke up for 2 weeks and I met guy B in that time totally unexpected. Guy A wanted me back but the abuse got very real and I started to like guy B because he is everything a girl would want - respectful, attentive, caring... I chose guy B.

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Also to clarify this doesn't make the break up with guy A easy at all... And I am only starting to get to know guy B now.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm proud of you, Alyssa. You did the right thing, and I know it was very hard to do. Don't look back. Just keep moving forward. You have a beautiful future ahead of you. Don't settle for anyone other than the man that you deserve.

[Asker]

Thank you!!! You were there the entire time when I was posting about my struggles so I really do appreciate your comment.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, I was. :) And you're welcome!

[Staximus]

You like being abused or something? You should be happy you got away from that shit bag

[Asker]

I was holding on and trying to make it work as much as I can the entire time. But he kept pushing me more and more, the more I compromised, the more he was trying to get away with. Even though I really wanted it to work I got to a point where I just erupted. I couldn’t take it anymore.

[Staximus]

Don't ever let that bastard back into your life. You don't need to be treated like that again. Just don't do it.

[Asker]

Thanks. I won't..

[Staximus]

There are 3.97 billion men in this world. There is no need for you to accept one that is a piece of shit.

[Asker]

So true. The disrespect as well and the verbal abuse... nobody's spoken to me like that before and I can't allow it.

[Staximus]

Accepting abuse is abusing yourself. Be good to yourself. You only get one life and there's no need to make it worse when you can make it better.

[Asker]

Thanks that's very true

[Jamie05rhs]

Thank you, @Staximus. I agree with everything you said.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, it sounds like you did the right thing- getting out of an abusive situation isn't the great panacea for feeling awful that many people think it is, but it IS a step in the light direction; you're in a position to improve things.

To make you feel better right NOW, know that the Amish consider cars (and sometimes even bicycles) as forms of transportation that take you away frem home and family, and reject them on those grounds, but see roller blading as a form of recreation, so that's usually okay. Form in your mind a picture of the black-suited, buttonless, dour-faced stereotypical Amish guy- zooming down the street in his black and neon green roller blades. It's an image that's surprisingly good at evoking a smile.

Wait, you're in the UK, aren't you? You don't have Amish people out there; that kind of detracts from the impact. Well then, here's the happy onion man:

I hope it helps.

[talka20]

Well these 2 memes n 1 rain and 1 flower n 1 beautiful river pic for your mood change i hope it works... and for story jokes/situational jokes, gossip, chat games etc we can dm

[Asker]

Lol thank you! That made me smile.

[talka20]

Well im glad it did :]

[young_OG96]

Do you feel like you’ve taken enough time to recover from it? Being in a toxic relationship you need to take time to heal yourself first or the next partner is going to feel it… for example, us men it takes one heart break and we move accordingly after that, women get into multiple heart break relationships because for whatever reason I’m not sure… maybe fear of being alone, just make sure you’ve healed before

[Asker]

I haven’t taken enough time to recover and I really want to

[young_OG96]

Well if you ever need some steps into helping you heal I’ve got some methods that helped me some ancient methods as well as current day methods, all in all it’s your story you get out of situation with what resonates with you so just message me if that is of interest of you

[Asker]

Thanks so much

[PeteBy]

Glad you made the decision. I know it was causing you heartache but I think in the long run it'll be for the best. You seem like a level headed, intelligent woman who deserves happiness and to be treated properly and with respect. It was a tough decision and big (((hugs)).

[Asker]

Thank you ❤️

[EaterPeter]

If that's you in profile pic. You are heck of a good looking chick. You will find someone soon. Take your time and try to heal before getting into next relationship. As humans we have tendency to pick similar person as our previous partner or toxic family member we draw to someone similar to us which means our bad habits can be multiplied and if person is different that's different can of worms

[EaterPeter]

All the best! Freedom ahead.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for that!! It really helps... it's true what you said, he showed a lot of the red flags I was already familiar with and found myself in some toxic attachment.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[EaterPeter]

The roller coaster rider relationships are whole lot of fun for real small intervals and most of the time they rob us from everything else.

[Asker]

Completely robbed me from my peace every day... I haven't even slept well in a very long time.

[EaterPeter]

Catch up on those zzzs 💤 first of all

[EaterPeter]

You let him move in with you?

[EaterPeter]

Or you moved in with him?

[EaterPeter]

Download sleep app

[EaterPeter]

That should help you catch up on your sleep

[Asker]

We never lived with each other but it was the anxiety that kept me from sleeping.

[EaterPeter]

Track your sleep cycle and wake up gently with nature sounds in the optimal phase

play.google.com/.../details

[EaterPeter]

Do self soothing activities. Know your self better. Take minimum of 6 months on your own.

[Asker]

Thank you

[MrPickles13]

Time is the best healer, maybe go and treat yourself to something you enjoy go out with friends or whatever. Do something for you because you want to if that makes sense. I'm sorry it's not much but I hope it helps at least a little. But I hope you feel better soon.

[Asker]

Thank you

[MrPickles13]

No need for thanks and from what you've said you did the right thing for yourself. It may not feel great now but your a very strong woman and that strength will get you through this. As will any friends and family. Lean on them and they will support you.

[Asker]

Thank you!! They really are the best.

[dynamicyandere]

It was for the best. You made the right decision. You deserve better treatment. I know it hurts. The pain is deep. But you’ll get through this. You’re stronger than you think. You got this. Hang in there. This will all pass.

[Asker]

Thanks so much

[dynamicyandere]

You’re very welcome. ☺️

I wish you the very best.

Here’s an ice cream. 🍦

[Asker]

yayyy love that lol

[20yearsolder]

I don't know if I can cheer you up but I can say that I'm very proud of you for breaking up with your boyfriend. Evidently you had a very good reason to do so. So many women stay because they don't want to be alone. Great job

[Asker]

Thanks. You should've seen his last message to me... the verbal abuse was very bad.

[20yearsolder]

I would suggest you don't it open messages from him. You know he's a fucking asshole. Just delete it. Don't even give him the satisfaction of opening it

[Asker]

Yeah he's blocked now... can't contact me

[20yearsolder]

Good deal, sounds to me like he's the douchebag in this scenario. You're better off without him and once again I'm proud of you for getting out of it

[Asker]

Thank you!

[20yearsolder]

You're very welcome

[TheMajesticKing777]

I know it doesn't feel like a win but it is, you are one step closer to finding your soul mate, and your ex was just an obstacle stalling it, your ex was an experience but your soulmate would be another that will last you your lifetime

[Asker]

Thanks!!!

[JosyJosy]

I'd rejoice. A sounds like a prick and the fact you broke up, should be a good thing. It can only get better from here.

[Asker]

Yes!!! I hope so.

[RealMarek]

I have a feeling you will feel better about it soon.

[Asker]

Thank you

[RandomGuy1030]

"I thought I was in love" implies you think once you're in love you can't go out of it. Any girl constantly talking about going in and out of love, Im avoiding.

[Asker]

If you had seen the way he treated me you would understand. It's impossible to be in love with someone who treats you like shit. There's nothing to love.

[Wise4myage]

Go do something nice for yourself, like day spa.

[Asker]

I love that. I just bought myself some new gym clothes and will be heading to the gym :)

[Wise4myage]

Cool.👍👍

[rebeliouse]

@itsalyssaagain

have u had sex with guy b yet?

[Asker]

No lol. I am a virgin.

[rebeliouse]

@itsalyssaagain
well?

[Asker]

Well what?

[rebeliouse]

@itsalyssaagain
how come choice or religion or pear pressure?

[rebeliouse]

sorry was quick off the mark u had liked but not replied lol

[Asker]

Choice. I only want to have sex when I am in a secure relationship and I'm yet to be in one. My ex (guy A) wanted to wait until marriage though he wasn't a virgin himself... he just wanted me to sleep with him when I was his wife.

[Asker]

Alright haha

[Crafteroon]

So which one did you break up with from the two you were seeing a few days ago?

[harrison102]

Breaking up is a sad thin, but it might lead to more happiness in the future. Think positive and you get positive results. Might take time but time is the cure.

[exitseven]

This happens to most people at some point in their lives. We all end up surviving.

[panamared1]

Good that you recognized how toxic he is, in time you will feel better

[Xtendable]

So sorry to hear that. Mega hugs your way

[Asker]

Thank you

[AimeeKyle]

Awesome…. good for you!!!

[swettannie]

you'll find a better man !

[Andres77]

Chocolate!!!

[Asker]

Yes!!

[Andres77]

Like you needed an excuse 😉

[Asker]

Haha very true