How do I show my ex that I'm sorry?

[Lcamps]

My ex broke up with me over some things we both agreed could be easily worked through and we got back together. We both agreed on what we wanted to do differently and things were going very well. While we were broken up I vented to a friend, and said something about him that was not kind. We decided we wanted a fresh start when we got back together so I didn't bring it up, but it did get back to him. Understandably he was hurt by what I said, and he immediately broke up with me again.

I understand he was hurt, but I was very hurt by him when I said it. I know that isn't an excuse but I had to get over the things he did to hurt me in order to get back together and I feel like he is not giving me an ounce of the understanding or forgiveness that I gave him.

I want to be with him, but I don't know what to do. I want to give him time as this was only 2 days ago, but I also want to show him how sorry I am for what I said.

[dynamicyandere]

I’d say… Tell him that you didn’t mean what you said. That you weren’t thinking clearly. That you feel horrible for saying such hurtful things. Tell him how much he means to you. Tell him how much the relationship means to you. Tell him that you take everything back and you really want to make it up to him. Tell him that you’re sorry. So sorry. And, you really want him to come back. But, tell him that you understand if he doesn’t want to come back to you. But, it would mean the world to you if he would give you just one last chance to prove yourself. To prove that you’re truly sorry and that you love him.

[dynamicyandere]

You’ll want to use a lot of the words “sorry” and “please”

I know because this has worked on me more than once before, with different people. 3 different girls… A good apology can do wonders.

[dynamicyandere]

I gave them all second chances…

[Lcamps]

I appreciate this advice. When we were breaking up I did say essentially all of this, and while he seemed to understand he didn't care. In this moment he was very upset, but I do want to apologize again, but I'm not sure how much time I should wait.

[dynamicyandere]

You’re welcome. ☺️

Apologizing via voicemail may be good too—so he can hear your voice and replay the apology if he wants to. You have be be sincere though. But I remember hearing 2-3 voicemails and her literally crying on the phone… It got to me and I decided to give her another chance.

[Sorrento-Sun]

He'll likely feel betrayed. No one likes the thought of someone they care about talking behind their back.

All you can do is explain it to him how you have here. Explain why you did it. And that you'll never talk to anyone again like that if any issues arise in the relationship. Let him know you've learned your lesson and deeply regret it. Then it's up to him if he can let go of it or not

[Anonymous]

as someone 6 years older than you, i would just cut your losses. people break up for a reason and sometimes getting back together is not the best decision. say you're sorry, and you're understanding, but after that this relationship has to be let go.

[darkoflights]

just say it the life is too short to think about being sorry

[In_Trance]

Stop..