Honestly, in your last failed relationship, were you the problem?

[BeeNee]

No, s/he was 100% the reason we broke up

We were both the problem. We weren't compatible/we were toxic together, the end.

Yes, I fully admit, I was the problem, I'm working on it so I have better relationships in the future

Yes, I admit I was the problem, but I'm not going to change a thing. I am who I am, deal with it.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

He was the problem. But my mistake was not calling it off a year earlier, and listening to others who told me to give him another chance.

His issues were about being an irresponsible, lazy, entitled manchild with the competence of a goldfish.

He needed to be mothered and managed. He literally would get written up anytime I didn't help him plan his work day. He wouldn't make appointments unless I hounded him on them. He would spend hundreds on the gym but never went.

Finally, when he tried to immigrate to Canada, he legit thought he could just huck his stuff into a UHaul (actually, his mother paid for my ticket down and I spent the day packing the Uhaul), and move like he was moving in between states.

Legit, the Canadian AND American border patrol were at a loss for words for how stupid he was.

And he lied to me. For years he told me he was going to immigrate, and I even got him in contact with an immigration consultant, but he never actually did any of the work. Even when I asked about it, he would lie.

Very much like he'd lie to his boss about doing his job. He would literally get up a minute before his first meeting, attend naked (he was WFH), and then just play mobile gatcha games and watch porn all day.

I dodged a nuclear missile of American white entitled boy.

Thank god I'm bisexual and can just never date another cishet man again. I wanted to date a woman instead of him, but I met him first. Last time I make that mistake.

[Aribella]

please remember these are just tame examples

he wasn't keeping his promises

"yea babe I'm gonna save up for our anniversary date and pay for us to go to the cheesecake factory" spends his money on a game console for his friend

"hey babe I'm gonna get a job" 2days later
"sorry babe I can get a job or I'll lose my..." housing (which was a group home we were trying to get him out of), government money (which was going to his mom),

he guilt tripped me into doing things

"i love you so much I would die without you" this one was about weekly

"I just want you to meet my dying..." family member

turned the phone to someone else while I was naked

is still stalking me in social media even email and Pinterest. ended up in a mental ward because he drove himself insane about me all of our mutual friends tell me I'm all he talks about

[Kaneki05]

My last one? Nope her bpd got mad at me for no reason and called it off.
We were always in a weird place me and her. I know she loves me and always will, and I love her and always will. Just she couldn't handle been in such a position really.
Because of her Bpd it was very easy for her to be impulsive and because I liked her we would always just end up sexting and wanting each other.

So it was very weird off and on relation, and she also had someone else she started to like hence were a bit of problems raised. Her Bpd made her very weak willed to staying faithful. However she is not the Ex I speak of when I talk about the one who cheated on me.
Because at the end of the day I never saw this one as cheat it was more we wanted to be together and push boundaries but never really committed. Plus she always told me the truth of what was going on in her head so I knew about the other guy right away.
There is just tons of reasons I love her and didn't find our relationship hurtful. Unlike many of the others.
We are on good terms granted she hasn't spoken to me in months now. But she has a lot going on, and even if not I am sure her bpd has got her caught up with another guy. Which is fine by me longs if she's doing well.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I wasn’t the PROBLEM, I was the SOLUTION & I was the smart one that said this isn’t working out & that we should part ways.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Thank you for the MHO’s!

[MCheetah]

No. She wanted someone taller than me. She wanted Indian Superman, actually. (She was 5'11" and Indian.) So we parted ways, because her fickle heart wanted what I could not provide her in 2018.

Option A. How am I supposed to compete with that?

[nonratracereality]

Unfortunately until you become fully aware of your maturity, intelligence and responsibility you will not have your standards high enough to ward off those that are either not on your page or level. If they are not then the relationship cannot survive. So it wasn't failure but a testament. I've been extremely smart since 4 as a result of my strict and diversified education I was able to grow to my utmost potential. It works when your balanced.

[ArtemisSilver]

I really haven't had any serious relationships fail. I've had minor relationships end mutually on good terms and a few brief encounters that didn't lead anywhere though.

Generally speaking I am a winner at love. My only difficulty is being poly and finding women who are good with the alternative lifestyle.

[Juxtapose]

I really tried my fucking best and I *KNOW* I sacrificed too much as it was to make it work.

I can do the socially expected thing and put the blame at 50/50 but I really can't do that with how the situation was. I put my absolute best foot forward and I'm really proud of how well I did. She refused to communicate with me despite my ample willingness to talk through whatever was bothering her and she would not trust my words despite me being very direct and consistent.

[PamelaRivers]

My last break up, I allowed myself to be in a situation I shouldn't have that went in a way I hope it would not have. My guy at the time wouldn't listen to or believe me but if I hadn't been there things wouldn't have been what they were.

[Little_Bumblebee]

We weren't compatible in many ways, especially in what kind of relationship we wanted.

He was also manipulative and.. sadistic in ways.

I'm not saying I was without any fault or perfect, but seriously, he was the main problem

[Agape93]

Nope. I left him because of what he did to me, has tried to do to me and has threatened to do to me

[andreasderjuengere]

I were my own problem: my expectations were too high.

[AsaKyo]

He was abusive, so I think that answers the question

[Topher87090]

I just found that it's impossible to keep your partner happy if you are ugly especially as a man. New research has shown that women are more likely to cheat than men because they get bored.

[Andro36]

You have serious self esteem issues. Probably not only ugly outside but inside

[Topher87090]

@Andro36 tru

[Topher87090]

@Andro36 look at the research and studies and tell me I'm wrong. You seem like a decent person but you have also won this genetic lottery. You're life is significantly different than your uglier counterparts. Statistics show that your uglier counter parts will make less money, have less chance to progress in a company, and are more prone to suicide. It seems pretty simple and we all try to dance around it but at the end of the day we are animals. And we have a biological imperative to meet and bread. Love doesn't exist and people suck.

[Andro36]

Wow you have such an empty life. It is not all about looks beauty is so subjective if you base it all on looks, wealth, you'll always be unhappy cause there always be people who look better than you and others than look worse than you so you can't compare yourself

[Topher87090]

@Andro36 easy to say when you aren't ugly.

[Topher87090]

@Andro36 you can't advocate that physical appearance doesn't matter while simultaneously benefiting from it. That's a conflict of interest

[Zolly99999]

I assume I am.. every serious girlfriend cheated on me..

[fireforeffect]

We were both the Problem. I was willing to work through it, she was not.

[Boykhiss]

Yes I’m the problem she said I should stay away from my friends but nope that ain’t cool

[2nd_Sexiest_Man]

I don't know. My ex dumped me for another guy.

[TroyDT]

I am always at least part of the problem.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I was a problem in my past.

[LavLavLuv]

VOTED A !!!