When did you realize after the break-up that you weren't the problem and your partner was manipulative as fuck, your break-up clairvoyance moment?

[Anonymous]

I'll go first, whenever we stayed at each other's houses and I just wanted to talk and hang out and not have sex, he'd be petty the next few days and barely respond when I messaged him claiming to be busy when he had nothing to do but immediately perked up when I gave in. Or drove his friend to who knows where to get a fucking dog and didn't get back to me for lie 2 fucking, I still don't know if that friend is a girl or guy but who cares. And how magically everything was my fault and the things I do are way worse and have more 'gravity' than what he does.

I wanna go back and smack myself 5 months ago.

[On_cloud_wine]

A break-up clairvoyance moment” haha I like that. Umm yes.. I’m just gonna say I’ve been there before and ever sense then, my senses and judgement has been a little more sharp. ☝🏻

[slatyb]

My therapist helped my realize that.

[Asker]

my professor helped me, writing all the stuff you likd about them and then thinking if it was actually true, really opened my mind. now got a bunch of things done that I'd been meaning, putting myself out there having fun. really cool of ur therapist.