Do you think how women behave after a breakup shows good or bad quality?

[Anonymous]

I've realized with enough observations on breakups that bad quality women after a breakup go to clubs do hookups, go partying, go to bars etc.


Good quality women after a breakup, distant themselves from men, possibly isolate themselves, emotionally release, work on themselves, build themselves and prepare themselves physically and mentally for the next person that's lucky enough to land them.

What are your opinions? 🤔


Reason why I'm saying women is cause it's something I've picked up from women, I don't focus on male behavior as much as women and that's simply cause I'm interested in women, its possible its the same with men afyer breakups as well, its not sexism related lol

[Chandelier8]

I believe you and I wouldn't be following you if I thought you were sexist or a hater. I think that's a perceptive point of view. Seems like they were itching to get out the relationship and finally get their opportunity to hook up with other guys. It's an ego thing too to feel desirable. This is lower-tier, evil side of woman:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Br0DCEEBplY

[Asker]

Indeed, I agree and about submissivness, I saw your other post which didn't allow me to comment in but submissivness is a feminine feature and I believe it should be embraced, now of course I don't mean for guys to take advantage of them cause it's unfortunate men like this exist that take advantage of women's femininity but I believe it's a natural feature of a woman to have some submissivness, just how dominance is a natural feature for a man, a man's dominance is actually suppose to be used to protect women not take advantage of them and I believe telling a woman to stop being submissive is like telling a dog to stop barking, I'm not bring this up to argue but I do want to hear your opinion on my point of view 🙃🤔

[Chandelier8]

I want to be physically protected by men, why wouldn't I? If my man is with me and someone else tries to harm me but he doesn't do anything. I would break up with him on the spot.

That said what is feminine? Submissive to WHOM? You or God? The truth is most men want women slaves for the most part (to serve them and their ego). I'm also about traditional values as well but NOT at the expense of women's freedom. We both make food, clean, etc. or negotiate.

[Asker]

A woman being submissive doesn't take away their freedom tho, let's also not forget women make the choice of who they want to spend their time with and as someone that's been tossed aside plenty of times by women for some asshole I can say that yes men can be dicks and be assholes to women but if the woman chooses that man, at that point it's not just one person to blame for that situation, it's both cause she chose him, now if it's against their will that's completely different, but most of the time women have the choice to choose a good man and they don't, I wouldn't blame submissivness for that outcome, I blame the guy for being an asshole and the women for choosing the asshole, submissivness is just a feature where it doesn't necessarily have to mean being a slave, it just means taking the role of giving the other the dominant role which can be highly beneficial to both if it's done properly, you said it yourself, you'd break up with a man if he didn't protect you and I totally agree with you because as a woman you should be protected by your man but that would make you the submissive one in the relationship, not cause you are a slave to him but because he has the dominant role which taking submissivness from a woman is like taking dominance from a man which from what you said, you yourself wouldn't be attracted to, just how men aren't attracted to dominance in women, they are attracted to submissivness and again, not cause they want y'all women to be slaves but simply cause submissivness is part of the femininity of a woman, I love submissive women and it's definitely not cause I want power over them, it's because it attracts me and I can only assume it's cause it's the natural design of attraction of a man to like and want a submissive partner.

[Asker]

the reason I felt the need to say something is cause you told women to stop being submissive and I believe that was very destructive because I believe they should embrace their femininity not be convinced that it's bad, if anything they should stay away from shitty men, because them being submissive isn't the problem, men using their dominance to take advantage of women is, which can be avoided if women made the right choices when it comes to a partner, or executing all the bad men but that's unfortunately off the table lol

[Chandelier8]

@ChicoFromThe305

"at that point it's not just one person to blame for that situation, it's both cause she chose him"

Why did she chose him though? Also, not all men like doormats as you do.

[Chandelier8]

The only thing that is masculine/feminine is FORM. Men are stronger than women in form and have a cock and different hormones. All the rest is cultural, as seen around the world. Most people are evil so men naturally dominate women through evil power of force/beating them, whipping them (as seen under Sharia law).

[Asker]

Because I wasn't aggressive as they were and I guess because aggression for some reason is seen as dominance to women.

I've never seen a couple with two dominant people, not even gay couples, there's always a submissive one, it's just how it was designed now what role you want to be is up to you but if your dominance attracts a submissive man, don't expect him to protect you cause that would make protecting him your job as the dominant one in the relationship, sounds weird I know cause it is, gender roles exist and if they are played right, it's very healthy and it makes a relationship thrive, now of course that has nothing to do with freedom, I think you are confusing submissivness with something else, you can be submissive in the relationship and still have a good career, a car, a house, pff even be wealthier than the man you are dating, being submissive isn't a roadblock to anything, I'm sorry you see submissivness women as doormats, but I can assure you a huge population of men want a submissive woman, you believe it's all for toxic reasons and it's not.

[Asker]

No they don't, you should stop watching so much social media, it's clearly molding your mind to believe something completely inaccurate, good men are just not seen, it's the way it is, I can assure you a huge percentage of women have a good man in their circles but they are stuck In the friendzone and are normally not noticed, I've never in my real life met an abusive man, actually I had a friend that was physically abused by the woman he was with, he would come with a new bruise or laceration everytime we hung out but he loved her, he truly did cause he let her do it, most men I've met have been players and none of them but their woman, maybe you are speaking about your country but the whole world isn't like that at all.

[Asker]

Abused their woman*

[Chandelier8]

I really don't give a RAT'S ASS what misogynistic men want. Why are you even bringing that up? It's the same thing that all you misogynists do. You dangle this carrot over women... oh you're not submissive enough to ME, you don't dress the way I WANT, you won't be loved by men because all men want a fucking doormat. I don't fucking care what stupid beta men want.

I have crushes on men that are what many of you kind of little boys look up to. Gary Goodridge for example. He's God-tier. He could crush you in a second but he is respectful of women and he GETS IT. You do not get it at all. You're a beta boy that hasn't become a man. The only thing you know how to do is get a doormat and then even she won't stay. We're obviously not going to get along.

There are different forms of dominance in a relationship. Men are NOT all-knowing and all-powerful. You are not a leader like you think you are. I will never trust a man to control me and make decisions for me. That's stupid af. I would only be submissive to a higher power. It's EGO that controls you. I will unfollow you now.

[Asker]

True colors shown, smh toxic

[NathanDavis]

personally... I've only had mutual and well thought "break-ups"

so, no need for drama or heavily/negative thoughts... we made sure that decision was not about us not because we "failed" or we did wrong to the other... we just weren't on the same page towards the next steps, and it was for the better and best that we didn't go into a path that could ultimately hurt one or the other

[Asker]

Yea but if that ex went to go sleep around and start partying after the breakup, wouldn't that show bad quality?

I know your personal experiences have been chillin but wouldn't this show quality in your opinion?

[NathanDavis]

well, they are no longer with me... they're free and they're single

so, I don't think I would judge someone like that

if they have done that when they were with me, then I would have felt bad about it, yes

the thing about quality though... I really don't like to classify people as good or bad quality, especially when I know better than anyone else, about my wrongs and the wrongs I've done, lol

[Asker]

Fair enough but people change for the better, the ones that choose not too are bad quality because they refuse to change for the better.

[NathanDavis]

that's true, yes...

so there is a possibility that maybe after she broke-up with me, and the partied hard to "forget" or "get over it" I guess... she chances for the better and becomes great quality after all? lmao... who knows

[Asker]

Lmao 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

[NathanDavis]

I just care about myself in that sense, you know... lol?

in the sense that, I can only fix myself and not others... lmao

[Asker]

Fair enough

[BourbonAndBacon]

I've notice the same thing. My partner said that her ex broke her heart but said nothing bad about him and said it made her a better person. When I was dating and heard them complain about a toxic or narcissist ex, I got the creepy hoe phase vibes.

[Asker]

Yep, it really shows character, it says a lot and no words required.

[Thestupidusername]

I agree 100%

Because it shows how she carries herself.

[Asker]

Indeed so tiny 🙂

[Thestupidusername]

Indeed so it is👍