Why do some men not give the real reason why they broke up with you?

[Nicolemare7]

Dated a guy for a couple of months we still in contact sometimes I ask him why he wanted to break up each time it’s a different answer why can’t he just be honest?

[sage2021]

I don't understand why if he broke up with you why you two are still on this merry-go-round together.
Just accept all the answers he has given you even if they are all different

Some guys will just never call you again and don't give the girl any reason.

Even if he did give an answer it wouldn't be the real reason or he would have told you that by now.

It's time to let him go and put it behind you. Your relationship has ended. He is no longer available to you, so you must accept it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Everybody knows real brutal honesty isn't something you do around women. They don't even do it around each other. This is what I'll tell you... the answer to why he broke up with you is actually a one-sentence answer, whatever that answer may be.

I try to be blunt despite those social normative rules.
-You got too fat
-Got tired of hearing you talk
-I want other vaginas
-Playing video games became more fun than being around you
-You talk too damn much
-You're not satisfying me nearly as much as my hand
... and the list could go on. Sometimes, it's best to just say it.

[William7489]

They think they’re losing you slowly but surely and can’t stand the pain of seeing it happen gradually. I’ve seen this before where sadly there’s just a simple difference in career paths. Men being men, feel embarrassed if the woman is making a lot more money and know that their girlfriend will eventually seek out somebody with similar social status. It’s a very demoralizing feeling even if it’s not grounded in reality. Now that’s just one reason. Hope that helps

[Bethany22]

Because he broke up with you for politically incorrect reasons like not attracted to you, etc

[Nicolemare7]

Why wouldn’t he be physically attracted to me

[GreatnessBack]

He probably doesn't know how to put it in words.
You are asking for a rational reason to an emotional feeling, and those two don't work.

The bottom line is he's just not that into you.

[Nicolemare7]

Right but I was trying to ask why is not into me is the problem, what he got to lose to tell the truth

[GreatnessBack]

Late reply, but it doesn't matter.
He's not into you and no amount of words will make you feel better about knowing.
Just take the L and move on.

[Nicolemare7]

I understand that it’s hurtful I did nothing wrong was I not good enough for him?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or it’s not that big of a deal to as to why.

[Nicolemare7]

But the relationship is over what does he has to lose by telling the truth

[Opinion Owner]

Because it’s not important to him. Besides then it just brings about more questions. I know you’re still questions why we don’t tell you the truth, but I think it’s just that he doesn’t give a shit as far as giving you closure.

[Nicolemare7]

He’s sees I’m bothered by me asking that’s not cool to make me feel like not good enough if he tell me the truth I will stop asking

[Opinion Owner]

Would you really stop asking? I mean if it’s over you’re saying why doesn’t he just tell you the truth but you could look at it as it’s over so why you still looking for an answer? I mean if he said you weren’t what he was looking for would you accept that answer? Probably not you’d probably ask what do you mean? How?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Right here is a fantastic reason a lot of men don't bother giving an answer... because it will just equal more questions directed at him. If I'm done talking to a chick, simply having to talk more starts to feel like a chore. I can't be the only dude that's ever felt that way... chicks can even feel that way! I've seen it before.

Obviously, he ended it... because if you ended it... you'd be like, "Why is this dude still even talking?"

[Shamalien]

If he won’t give a real reason it might be he’s just not attracted to you

[Nicolemare7]

Not attracted to me in what way

[Shamalien]

I can’t say as I don’t know you

[Alex8736]

Probably has a primary girlfriend and your his plan B back up plan. Just an opinion

[Nicolemare7]

Really I never thought that, he’s in a relationship?

[Nicolemare7]

I don’t think he does because he talks about other women he tried to date after me

[Anonymous]

You're not entitled to know why the same as he's not entitled to know why a woman dumped him or rejected him.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why some women not give the real reason why they broke up with you.

[Nicolemare7]

What reason is that?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Answers below

[Anonymous]

For the same reason why women don't tell guys honestly why they won't date them. You really don't want to hear it. You just think you do. 🤣

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know. Just leave him be. It’s over.

[AsaKyo]

Their ego won't let them

[red324]

Pfft you know how many girls I've went out with that just disappear to never be heard from or seen again? y'all don't tell the truth either. 95 percent of the time I don't get an explanation at all.

[AsaKyo]

@red324 I've only dated one person and he broke up with me because of his own issues he had going on, so I don't know, I'm just guessing here

[TroyDT]

Usually to spare her feelings.

[Iron_Man]

A coward

[Nicolemare7]

Is it something bad about me? Or are there other factors and why he’s afraid to say what’s really up

[Iron_Man]

Somebody that wants to leave for life when they know somebody and never give an explanation is a coward