Why do I feel like I ruined my marriage since my husband is divorcing me?

[Hannahbanana94]

I’m going crazy because I feel like it’s all my fault. I love him so much and he’s divorcing me

[AviatorTom]

Divorce is never one person's fault, but we humans do one of two things when bad things happen: blame ourselves or blame the other person. Since you love him, you blame yourself, which is perfectly normal... you will learn over time that it's not your fault, nor is it his.

My wife divorced me after 20 years of marriage. When it happened, I had much the same feelings as you. But I moved on and am now in a nice relationship with my SO.

[Guy13]

Seems like normal reaction to divorce to me.

[Anonymous]

is there something you can do? did you two try to fix it? put effort into? and the outcome is still the same? it's hard to move on, but it may be for the best.

[Hannahbanana94]

He won’t try and make it work. My problem is yelling all the time
During fights and he is very verbally abusive. So I can’t help but always yell and get so angry because I feel so neglected

[DavidRaul]

One person is never at fault in a divorce. You reaction is completely relevant. But you can't do anything other than to move on.

[Shamalien]

That’s not true…what if they cheat?

[Anonymous]

Depends why he's divorcing you. The love you feel obviously did not translate to him feeling it, or feeling it enough to balance the other failings of your relationship.

[SlothySlob]

I don't know what even happened, how am I supposed to give an opinion?

[Andres77]

someone did something. sorry but there's an offense somehow., somewhere.

[Gooddaze]

Why is he. What is his reason? Need more information before I can comment

[Anonymous]

Why do you feel like you ruined it?

[Brando10222]

What was his reason for the divorce?

[Luckycharms12]

Maybe communication was a problem