So unless you haven't been completely honest about everything you said... your wife has trust issues and a history of jealousy and acting impulsively and with emotion not logic.
I don't know what you should do. She might not even pick up the phone, no matter how much you contact her. But do you have anything to lose by doing so? I think you should probably text her, write a thoughtful and well-composed letter via email, and make it crystal clear to her, exactly what the situation is.
It all hinges on this co-worker and how awful and destructive she is.
But it also sounds like your wife is always looking for signs of some lack of loyalty on your part, that does not exist.
Another strategy you could try is to get in contact with those close to her - a mother, a best friend. You need to plead your case, and apparently you have no guilt here whatsoever, so all you have to do is be honest and be convincing. Then if they believe you, they will help you. They should want her to be happy, and there are people who self-sabotage and throw away perfectly good relationships, all because of insecurity and trauma. If it wasn't you, it'd be some other guy that she would be running away from. She needs to be reminded that no one is perfect, you know that, but you want to be with her, and leaving you and starting over won't fix this situation. Because you did not betray her. Runners are fearful of pain. Express how much you love her, and why. Be specific. At the root is her mistrust. But you have a clean conscience, so the words should flow freely. The answer lies in your honesty, and her regulating herself to come to a place of logic, not panic.
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Who started the rumor? First you said your wife was told you slept with the lady, then you changed the rumor that your wife was told that you were the only one nice to this new employee and that you liked her
Dude. That is hellish. If I were you, I would keep it 100% straight. I'd let her go. I'd apologize and tell her that nothing happened. And sorry that it turned out this way. Let her walk out. After that, I'd keep my business tight. Don't mess around with any other girl. I'd even consider quitting the job and finding another one in another place with different people. Don't push it with your wife. Just let her go. Be honest about everything. All cards on the table. And straight up. That's the best you can do. If she comes back, she comes back. Leave the door open. Who knows. Maybe she was looking for an excuse to bolt. No telling. Any way. Just be transparent and honest and do not even make any sort of round about attempt to give anyone any reason to look at you sideways. I'd also inform the boss and human resources that your co workers are in to some high school level BS that has messed up your personal life. On that end, I'd take zero prisoners. Good luck
Honestly bud theirs nothing you can do. your wife doesn't believe you, she's not coming back. I guess you should give her some time, quit your current job and find a different one and make sure that the next time your training a girl, make sure you tell her you aren't interested. I am sorry that happen to you, cause you seem like a good guy. I wish ya luck man I do
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