Why do I feel like I was the problem and ruined my marriage?

[Anonymous]

Husband I married for 5 years, together for 10. He divorced me last November and I moved away with our son. I was looking back at old texts and felt like I was always harassing him fighting and making accusations. Never trusted him. Everytime his friends would visit or family I would ask a million questions and he would beg me to just stop and change and I never did. He would always threaten divorce bbecsuse I took fights to Far. He cheated before we got married and towards the end of our marriage he started clubbing and getting on dating apps. I didn’t trust him at all but I feel like if I didn’t harass him and learned to communicate I wouldn’t have pushed him to the point to do all that. I’m still madly in love with him and I feel like I fucked everything up. What do I do?

[OlderAndWiser]

He cheated before you got married and you married him anyway. You need to learn to pay attention to the warning signs so you don't make the same mistakes the next time.

[molonski2]

Well , its quite clear , you answered your own question you pushed him away , who could possibly live with that , very poor form indeed , you destroyed the marriage.

[strateguy632]

that is guilt, natural to feel that way. but focus on now, stop living in the past

[jahaims]

Don't have a relationship with someone you don't trust obviously. You both sound immature and shouldn't have romantic relationships.

[Anonymous]

Well, based on all of that, yeah I'd say you fucked up. Not sure what else to tell you.

[DrPepper12]

Move on sadder and wiser.

[war_daddy]

nothing. you fucked up