Should divorce become automatic once someone wants it?

[Anonymous]

Should people be able to have a divorce without the other person signing it? It sucks when people can’t get divorced due to not being able to have the other person sign it especially in cases where the other person leaves the country or something

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People aren’t getting what this question means. Just because people make mistakes marrying the wrong person doesn’t mean they have to suffer from it for the rest of their lives.

[Man-O-Metal]

Say you get into such a heated argument that you begin to feel this way. The next day you legally split up. Next week, you're all cooled off and you even forgot what the argument was about. Now you incredibly miss the other person. What are you going to do? Call them up and say "hey I'm sorry, let's get married again." That idea is simply derived from emotion. There's no logic in it. Just like with marraige, divorce is a commitment. So many couples nowadays, after divorce, still hook up with each other while trying to date other people. So instead of making that decision like the marraige meant nothing, use logic and stop relying on emotion.

[MrOracle]

Actually, divorce should be MUCH more difficult to obtain, and take at least 3 years even when it was granted. If people knew they couldn't just dip out on a whim, most people would take marriage - and choosing a partner - far more seriously.

This world desperately needs people taking MORE responsibility for their actions and decisions, not less. Less is why society is in such a shit state now.

[BlueScorpio]

Marriage is two person agreement yes? Then so should be divorce. Imagine being completely blinded by that without your partner bring up. Making big decisions without yalking about with your partner first isn't okay. A lot women aren't when their husband's make decisions without consulting them first.

[Asker]

I’m not referring to you saying that divorce shouldn’t be automatic but why is the reasoning because you think that it should be an agreement? So you would be cool if your spouse said no to getting a divorce?

[BlueScorpio]

I'm saying it's not okay to not tell them upfront you want a divorce without telling them why first. If it's a life threatening situation and you know by telling them you want a divorce will put your life or kids life in danger, then yes it's that's understandable. But not telling them and having it finalized without their signature is a cowards way out, it's basically ghosting your marriage and we already know how most people feel about being ghosted. We hate it. I'm sure if you where in this position, you would not like it.

[alice55]

For marrying someone you need consent of both person so I guess it's only normal you need both people to want to divorce to go through it though is after 7 years the both of them are not in contact anymore then the divorce is automatic (in France at least).

[Nomina]

No, I don't think so. A lot of legal and administrative matters go into marriage in the first place, so it easily dissolve a marriage without those matters addressed first is reckless.

Personally, I think it isn't a decision to take lightly or quickly, so sometimes the harder it is to divorce the better. Really think about it, really think about the different options and alternative remedies for the marriage to work as opposed to giving up.

[inhua]

yes unfortunately. doesn't matter if the other person doesn't want it because the relationship has already been broken beyond repair.

no matter how much people like to believe in hope, dumping, divorce, break-ups are permanent and even if relationship were to be "saved", there will still be that lingering thought that one or both partners wanted it to end in the first place.

[TroyDT2]

Depends upon where you live. I've worked on several where one party or the other refused to participate. If there is no property to divide and there are no children, the court will usually enter a default without the participation of the other spouse.

[Paul_in_Indy]

You mean, should we abolish marriage? …but, for some reason, you are coming at the question from the other end? What you are proposing is not an enhancement of divorce, but an elimination of marriage.

[es20490446e]

Yes, because there's no point on having a relationship of any kind if one side doesn't want it.

Now I think that how to split things in case of divorce shall be arranged as part of marriage.

[es20490446e]

I see such arrangement this way: money shall not interfere in a relationship.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. Divorce should be a struggle. People get married for a lifetime. If divorce would become automatic just with one persons whim then many would end in the first year.

[Asker]

I mean it wouldn’t end in a year for everybody

[BarryLiverstone]

Not for everyone. But just wanting a divorce and it being automatic would mean if the newlyweds got into an argument and one person says they regretted getting married then poof they are divorced. Or is that not your question?

[Asker]

I just mean should divorce be automatic so there doesn’t have to be consent from both people. I don’t think anybody should be forced to stay married to someone

[BarryLiverstone]

That is part of the value marriage provides. Sure there are valid reasons for getting a divorce. However the couple chose to get married and you know who you are marrying before saying your vows. Marriage takes work and people will struggle but if both can work through things together then it’s worth it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for the opinion but that doesn’t work. I wouldn’t wanna be a kid and have my parents have to officially renew their marriage every 2 years

[Asker]

@Vagasrunner by gender issues do you mean same sex marriage?

[AndrésC64]

Yeah, so what? You think people should be forced to stay in an unhappy / unhealthy marriage?

[Noahzaid]

What kind if dumb question is this!

these types of questions is the result of American “democracy”, It has turned people egotistical and blind.

[Kaneki05]

Then what would be the point? But tbh that can be said about marriage anyway.

[Asker]

To not be forced to stay in a marriage without the persons consent

[Kaneki05]

No I meant what would be the point in the marriage? If you aren't signed together as in they can just walk away right away then what's the point? Might as well just be boyfriend and girlfriend no?

[Asker]

The thing is, (at least in Ohio) same sex couples can’t legally share children unless they’re married and probably same when people adopt. If someone was already married then wanted children, their former partner refusing to divorce could affect that

[Asker]

Marriage has to be before conception otherwise, they can’t put both people on the birth certificate

[Asker]

I feel like after a certain amount of time, the divorce should become automatic if there are no children or property in the marriage

[Kaneki05]

Then don't live in Ohio or keep complaining until they change dumb laws. Because that's no a reason to get married that's just a government ruling somewhere trying to be homophobic.

[MysteriousDarkness]

Not at all. The reason is because both sides could end up filing for divorce without the other person knowing it until it's finalized. What if both sides say they legally get the kids and the house? It would end up a total mess.

[Jamie05rhs]

"Just because people make mistakes marrying the wrong person..."
Don't make mistakes marrying the wrong person!!
No one is forcing you to get married.
Use Your Brain!!

[Asker]

The whole world could be careful and responsible and major mistakes would still happen. It doesn’t apply to me but even if someone was irresponsible, that doesn’t mean they deserve to suffer.

[Asker]

Not to also mention that some people come from abusive households that makes them naive and vulnerable without any realization … 🤡🤡🤡

[Asker]

And according to your point, divorce in general should be illegal since “don’t make mistakes in the first place”

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm sorry that you came from an abusive household. 💜
But you don't have to let your past determine your future. I hope that you can break free and find your own power. ✊

[Asker]

This doesn’t apply to me but like I said, it can make people naive and they don’t realize it. You’re not wrong but they can’t always help it

[Jamie05rhs]

That's really sad. 😟

[Jdjfjcjj]

It should when their is domestic violence.

Or if they agree to leave without a share of marrital assets.

[UdosUNDERDEVELOPMENT]

If you are no longer compatible with someone I don't understand the reason to keep being with them. Seems like slavery.

[captain_voidwalker]

Divorce sure but assets should only be split if both sign

[foreverams]

Yes bc nobody should have to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in.

[Anonymous]

Then don't get married and you can walk away whenever you want.

[Anonymous]

The United States has something called no fault divorce.. So what you mention is simply not a thing here.

[Anonymous]

Yes, bit then they shouldn't be allowed to marry again.

[dustybiker]

If that is the case, why get married?

[Papabubbles]

It kinda is automatic my ex wanted a divorce and that was it.

[Anonymous]

That's what never getting married is all about you can walk out whenever you want.