What causes a woman to suddenly end the relationship?

[Kevinb18222]

I just don’t know who to talk to now. After an excellent month with this woman she suddenly just broke it off with me. Even though it was only one month it really felt like she was the one for me. We really had a magical weekend together the weekend before Thanksgiving then on Tuesday she just ended it. We have texted a little since but I gave up today even trying. It really feels worse right now than when my fiancé of 7 years left me. She was that special to me. I’m still just going insane 4 days later just wondering why. Why did she say all these things to me that made me feel her intentions were going for long term then just cut it off after having amazing chemistry

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Update. When she did say she couldn’t do this last week she said she needed to make sure her feelings for me were real. She talked to me today. She said she misses me and she thinks of me. Then she said she misses my smile. I don’t know what it is about this woman but I just care about her a lot. I told her I really miss you too and we are gonna see each other Wednesday. Did she just need time to herself just to make sure?

[Shamalien]

Same thing happened to me recently. No woman has ever expresser her love to me like this one…the things she did for me…and I did for her, it was the purest love I’ve ever seen or heard of. Then her parents got in her head and told her they thought I wasn’t the one for her. From that moment, she always looked at me with a critical eye, and even though we had a great time together, she picked me apart until she finally ended it. In her mind, the perfect relationship should be easy…I think what we had was worth fighting for but she didn’t wanna fight for it with her parents still refusing to accept me. Oh well. She wanted to keep talking after she broke it off with me but I told her I’m not interested. I miss her so terribly but I will not text her. I need to keep reminding myself that she gave up on us…not me. She fucked up. I told her to not contact me until the new year, but that if she really needs to I will answer. Every day I wake up and my strongest desire is to message her, but I restrain myself. I wanna be with someone who lives in reality and knows a good thing when they have it. She is young, maybe she’ll grow up and realize just what she’s given up. She was so back and forth, so emotional, one moment planning far in the future, fantasizing about weddings and whatnot, the next, telling me it’s too much of a struggle and she can’t take it. Her parents really fucked this shit up but she should be stronger than this…

anyway, my point is, she fucked up, don’t go crawling back. She can come crawling back if she wants a relationship again. Pull away as hard as you can. If she can find someone better than good for her. If she can’t and comes back, and she is the one to reach out to you, you will have all the power. Take back your power and become comfortable with the idea of moving on. You cannot be afraid.

[xeviar]

Well said

[Kevinb18222]

I sent her a message today saying I effing miss you girl. I don’t think it’s certain yet if she wants to continue but she told me she misses me too and wants me to visit her Wednesday. I’m probably gonna do it.

[DoctorSex]

Judging by her actions and your words, she seems to have more of a masculine frame and you seem to have more of a feminine frame. That's the first red flag.

Women who suddenly cut relationships off tend to have a certain personality type. It's very likely that she explained to you some actions that you did that crossed her boundaries, you ignored those red lines and she saw more problems with you down the line than benefits..

In the future pay close attention to what people tell you when they outline their red lines. They aren't a joke.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Kevinb18222]

Are you saying frame of mind?😆 because I’m like 210 pounds with broad shoulders and she’s tiny. I did pay attention to what her boundaries were or the implied ones that she spoke of with her exes

[Rose89]

I saw someone for a month not that long ago, I had a massive crush on him beforehand and was really happy after I gave him my number and he accepted.
It started of well, and we did get on, right to the point that I cut it off. I think he felt the way that you are feeling right now. But thing is, for me he had too many issues that simply aren’t compatible and I believed the relationship wouldn’t have survived long term. So basically red flags. And as I’m in my 30’s I don’t have the time to just see if MIGHT work out when I’m not 100% on the guy.

[Kevinb18222]

I did tell her about my flaws and my past. She understood and had the basically the same issues I had. I am stable now being 34. Today she told me she misses me now.

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

If the relationship is new she probably discovered something about you she can’t live with or that you’re not what she’s looking for. If it’s a long term relationship I dunno man! Us women can do some crazy things I think so many women have unrealistic expectations

[Changiis07]

It sounds like she just needed some space. Maybe you guys got close really quickly and she got scared. Sounds like she likes you though if she is saying all that. I say have her reach out to you don't be such a doormat so she knows your confident to walk away.

[Summeroflove]

Anything can be the reason. Ir sucks but at least if someone is unhappy. It’s better then end it

[lightbulb27]

Star Trek Opening Theme... "Captains log, start date 2022. It appears a male desperate for love is moving rapidly and freaking out an insecure and potentially, hormonally unstable female. We're going in, for a closer look..."

Scene 1: So... tell me about your mother and father?

...

I'm just having a little fun, sorry, I know this is painful as heck. My point here is... you need to laugh, and you need to back up a bit and get back into your "man frame" where you don't give a damn so much... or else she's going to tear you to shreds.

Here's the bottom line I suspect, you are getting too serious too fast. Relax, have fun, enjoy the ride of discovery.

There's a lot I can say that might help, but I'd be overstepping my bounds with assumptions ontop of assumptions. I smell the all mighty "God" at work... and that's what I'll say for now. Or put another way, your sub conscious minds motivated by their design, at work!!!

[fonduegirl]

That's okay. She's very considerate of your feelings, and that's good, a sign you're dating a keeper. She just wants to make sure you're on the same level in terms of relationship. You should give her deadline, as in ask her to see you after xyz period of time, and tell you if her feelings are just as intense?

[Kevinb18222]

On Monday I told her I really miss her. She said she did too and she said she’ll never stop being sorry for the last week. I told her don’t worry about it. It was so nice to see her again yesterday

[fonduegirl]

That's great

[FilmGuy93]

Women are notoriously fickle folks. She could have ended things for any of a number of reasons. Maybe you did something that rubbed her the wrong way. Maybe she found a guy she feels a stronger connection with. Most likely, she just changed her mind.

[JamesDiaz11]

Either she found out something that's made you appear like a bad option (women talk), or she decided to focus on the other guy she was dating (she was dating someone else, maybe reconnected with an ex).

[Tina19]

Maybe she realized she didn't wanted to be with you her priorities changed or maybe some friend suggested her something or maybe she found someone else there could be so many reasons for a woman to suddenly end the relationship

[LazerBean]

You learn a lot about someone in the first month. She probably saw that you were not compatible, and did the logical thing by moving on.

[Speedydude]

No wonder u got married so young u rush into marriage.

Marriage is for 30 year olds! U know actually adults not teenagers like u!!! 😆

[xeviar]

Nothing logical about that. Communication is logical

[LazerBean]

If you're communicating as much as you should be, then by a month is easy to find out if you are not compatible in a lot of areas.

[QuietVerbena]

No clue. What did she say when you asked her why?

[inhua]

boredom, laziness, inability to control her lust for another man

[KrakenAttackin]

She either found a new Chad or a Chad she has been working on decided to start fucking her. Either way,. it's another guy.

[disgustingweebtrash]

"Make sure her feelings are real" is womanspeak for she's evaluating her options

[Anonymous]

Maybe she went back to her ex, it’s hard to know what women are thinking

[Anonymous]

It was only a month. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

maybe she was looking for more stable guy

[Hellraiser1984]

She found someone better in her eyes.

[In_Trance]

It was a month...

[Li668]

Owning is enough

[Anonymous]

Small dick.