Why do certain women become unstable after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Like she initiated the breakup, she made bad financial decisions in the relationship and now she’s saying I ruined her life

[ArrowheadSW]

When I was 26 I was dating a lady who initiated a breakup also. Fine, but she was accusing me of all sorts of things that had nothing to do with me. Ultimately I figured that she was scapegoating and taking out anger from past experiences on me. Unfortunately I worked with her and eventually I had to change jobs to get out of there. It was one of my worst dating experiences.

She did mention some problems with her childhood while we were dating. Unresolved issues perhaps?

[Asker]

This girl has unresolved issues from her childhood actually anything that happen that would be her go to excuse

[lightbulb27]

what a fascinating read...

she did a lot more than make bad financial decisions.

Because you just pulled the plug on her sense of security. It sounds like she blames you (e. g. doesn't take responsibility herself) and so that is something she does. The reason why... you'd need to explore her childhood damage.

sounds like you need to explore your own childhood damage as well and repair that. take the opportunity to do so now, while it is ripe.

Jesus heals!

[provokeesmokee]

You said in a reply she's abusive.

I'd argue she was unstable well before the break up and you're seeing her true self.

And her claims are attempts to gaslight and manipulate you back into her claws.

Block, ignore, move on.

And congrats on leaving an abuser. That is a tough thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you did. Sometimes you have to see things through their eyes. Men rarely realize the trouble and stress they cause.

[Asker]

No I realize things I have done but she’s physically abusive, she has hit me twice in the relationship I have never put my hands in her. She also hates communicating, she would stonewall, she also throws temper tantrums. She had undiagnosed mental illness coming into the relationship that she would refuse to acknowledge. I owned all my faults I was transparent with who I was 2 weeks into the relationship I told her I was autistic, that I had ocd, ptsd, I also gave her materials to better understand me and she never read them but she just mocked and made fun of my ocd saying I did it on purpose. She also makes fun of my sisters poor mental health because she struggles with borderline personality disorder

[BarryLiverstone]

Processing a death involves many stages. Have you blocked her?

[Blueeyes81]

Because they were unstable to begin with.

[shades777]

Not your problem anymore dude! move on

[In_Trance]

For the same reason certain guys do

[Anonymous]

I don't know.