Emotional cheating?

[Ofoceansbeaches]

I'm so exhausted. So after gruelling weeks, i just learned I'm the "3rd party" in a relationship. He is in an abusive relationship and I seem to be where he feels happiness. We had been talking intimately for 3 months and he treated me so special. I thought I was the only one. Imagine hours and hours of getting to know, sharing ideas, laughing, venting, calling, giving gifts to each other, caring for each other when sick, doing what the other one recommends, updating each other almost everyday, he even told me no one cares for him when he is sick and so I thought i was the only one and cared for him and at the end of the day, he still cannot leave his abusive relationship. I feel that he loves me and is afraid I will leave him but I'm so sick of the situation I'm in. How do i deal with this?

[Anonymous]

Leave. Unless you want to continue to be that 3rd wheel? He needs to ante up, step up to the bar, pull the trigger on this relationship that he’s in. Even if he does do that is that the type of man you really want. He sounds like, excuse my language, a “pussy” if he’s letting some girl abuse him. Not only that he’s getting emotionally involved w another female (you) behind his abusive partner’s back. I can understand talking to a co-worker or something like that for advice but to pull you in emotionally, no. So now imagine if he ever did that to you. You need to cut this loss. I don’t know if I’d even remain friends, cause he will continue to pursue you. He already started off by not being honest w you. Besides how do you know he really is in an abusive relationship? Maybe he’s playing the sympathy card to pull you in even more, playing on your feelings to make that bond stronger between you two.

[Anonymous]

3 months in and he did this? Girl leave that man. No time has passed, and yet he selfishly lied in order to get what he wanted out of you. If he wasn’t honest about being in a relationship, why would be honest about the state of it? An abusive relationship? Sounds like a manipulative lie to me and you fell right into it because you’ve invested so much time and fell head over heels. No matter what you do you will never get this that time back, so rather than invest more, let him go and get someone who is real from the start.

[jayhams]

Have some self worth and leave the situation.