The question asked a million times…how to get over that one that got away?

[Kpain]

About a year back I met this phenomenal woman. We met through a friends brunch gathering and instantly hit it off. Drove her home that night got her number and had a date in two days.

It moved quick. Too quick. We had 4 dates within the first week and slept with each other the second week or 5th date. Shortly after she stayed over my place and one night turned into 3 weeks. I met her parents a week later and then had some events with her friends. Then one day at her friends baby shower (after party) she looked over at me and told me she loved me. I could t help the huge smile I gave and said I loved her too.

Then things started to change. I had finished nursing school and started a new job right before we started dating. Things got kinda hectic and rough and a side of me came out that I didn’t know I had in me. I spent my entire life looking out for myself, taking care of myself, and handling everything on my own. For the first time I had someone who I thought had my back. I leaned on her. I became vulnerable. And I got scared. Scared she would leave. Scared she would abandon me. I got clingy and emotionally unstable (anxious). The my uncle who practically raised me after my father passed, also died and I simultaneously had to put my mom in hospice (she has since passed).

I leaned too much on my now ex. Silence broke out for the final couple of days (we had a few arguments over the last week). I panicked as usual but tried to stay away and let things cool down. We had tickets to a baseball game later that week. The day of the game I texted her asking what time to pick her up. Silence. I waited. Sent one more as time approached. And finally the text “hey this isn’t working out” came. And I broke. Now I feel empty. I feel like I lost the one and that I will never find anyone like her again. And I’m crushed and find it hard to move on. It’s been like 4 months. I’ve tried to win her back. Now I just want to accept it and move on.

[JanaTalks]

In what way did you lean on her? And how clingy or possessive were you? How bad did it get? What do you mean by emotional unstable with your anxiety? If she couldn't handle you at your worst (in terms of your anxiety stuff, the leaning also doesn't sound like something bad to do but i also need more elaboration on it), perhaps she was never the one for you. She may have been your greatest love, or maybe she'll just end up being a runner up, you may very well find someone who will actually end up being your greatest love so don't worry to much. Just focus on other things, hobbies, your own growth and when you get back to dating, do not compare.

[Nikki1989]

You meet someone else and move on. Not complicated.

[Anonymous]

Come to the realization that the road not traveled was probably full of potholes anyway. We erroneously think the one that got away would have turned out to be a magical relationship. When the reality is most like it would have been as problem filled as any other relationship you've had. The only difference is you would have that "what if" to think fondly of anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

Wouldn't*

[Guy13]

No easy way. One day at a time. No controlled substances, judging, sitting around, and try to improve for awhile. Sorry to hear it.

[LiamJHayden]

Find someone else. Guaranteed that there is someone as good or better out there.

[In_Trance]

Nobody gets away. It wasn't meant to be

[Kpain]

So I have been told. Just the walks of life eh.

[Iron_Man]

Find a new champ